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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/15/2009 12:58:45 PM   
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As far as castration its self. I think it would best be left to a practicing Surgeon. Simply due to infection and access to antibiotics.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/15/2009 1:04:11 PM   
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Castration.  Lots of interesting information on the Eunuch Archive and on the Burdizzo Forum.  It is totally possible to get castrated with a burdizzo.  Also banding over a period of time will kill the testicles.  Some interesting discussion related to clamping and eventual killing of testicles also.  Banding is fun but is dangerous and possibly will kill you nuts over time.  But if that is what your slave wants then go for it.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/15/2009 2:49:49 PM   
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 2. Most Word Processors allow you to spell check and set things to automatically correct common misspellings. Put your nick in there and set it to auto-correct to your legal name. I would also set  the grammar checker to a stricter setting so it catches and highlights the improper capitalization's of You.  

You can also set it so that it automatically types out your name;  I type the first 3 letters, hit enter and my name and degree pop up on all my documentation. 

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/15/2009 4:09:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

I solved this problem by having my name legally changed to "Red Magic One" after I made 1,000 posts.  It surprised my friends and colleagues at first, but now they recognize it as a sign of my true dominant nature.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/15/2009 4:20:37 PM   
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ORIGINAL: MisterMonster

How dangerous would it be, guy with your face on the internet?

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What MisterMonster said.

OP: you can't be terribly concerned about outing yourself, or you wouldn't have such a recognizable face shot for your primary photo here.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/15/2009 6:07:29 PM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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yet i think it is a sign telling me how much of a slave i really am.


Or how unprofessional you are.



I'm going with this. I would expect better from myself, as would Val, and better from anyone I owned if I took someone on. I don't think this has anything to do with how much of a slave you actually are but how desperately you want to present yourself as a slave.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/15/2009 6:13:15 PM   
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ORIGINAL: born4serving

maybe i am, i am even beginning to write 'You' with a capital 'Y' whenever i type the word 'You', even at work.



LOL
I catch it when I write "Me, Myself, Mine" in caps at a part-time day job I work at. Personal emails, I tend to have more difficulty with.
I do try not to write in caps unless I'm address My potential or current submissives or discussing Myself from the Dominant position.

I think people that always use that format can sound a bit pretentious... just my two cents.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/16/2009 1:55:54 AM   
came4U


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will your first male offspring be named Red Magic Two?


maybe mini-magic?

OP maybe in some way you want to be caught.  Yanno like cheaters that leave motel matchbooks laying 'round for the spouse to find it or leaving phone numbers in your pants pocket on laundry day.  Subconciously maybe you want to come out of the closet ...especially to the client you were writing to.  Was that person attractive to you? lol

*btw, signing the wrong name is not fatal, if so, after my divorce I would have died approx 18 times just for signing cheques.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 2/16/2009 2:00:32 AM   
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i am even beginning to write 'You' with a capital 'Y'


Time to see a therapist. And check to see whether or not any intake of alcohol or drugs is affecting your behaviour.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/1/2009 1:01:11 AM   
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In my opinion, i think you are surrendering yourself completely.  your lifestyle, your slavery is consuming your mind and being a professional myself i completely understand that.  We've all just got to be careful, this lifestyle is nothing but "kreepy" to those who are not interested, they dont know and have no desire to learn.....it's best to just keep things private sometimes and concentrate on one thing at a time (the appropriate time).

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/1/2009 1:38:14 AM   
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ORIGINAL: GreedyTop

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ORIGINAL: stef

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ORIGINAL: femaletrucker326

i have a 24/7 slave that want to be casterated ....i wish to give him this ...where do i go to find out more on subject..

You could start here.

~stef



you are a sick, twisted woman, Stef... (I like that!)


Yeah I have to agree ... and did you see the one on the second page? So shiny - well, for now anyway.
(edited so I wouldn't look like I was talking to myself - even though it's late and I am)

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/1/2009 4:27:29 AM   
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shorn outed shorn to shorn's department head several years ago. This could have been disastrous as shorn didn't have tenure yet. Turns out he is one of us, he and his slave are now close. shorn does use the tricks with the word processor and essentially.


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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/1/2009 3:12:12 PM   
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i outed myself accidentally one day, i used to manage young peoples drug intervention services in East London and was very committed to my work but found it hard to keep the balance anyway as the job became very soul destroying.

although i lived as a 24/7 slave and slept in a dungeon i did have to put on my suit and tie and work n an open planned office with all of my staff. What really helped was the fact that i had a flat circle of leather with a padlock stud securing the ends together with a padlock on it as my day collar.

One day the air conditionning packed in and i removed my tie and loosened my shirt collar. i really wansnt aware that everyone could see my day collar until one of my workers asked if he could have aprivate word, he then went on to say that he doesnt have aproblem with it but others might. in my rebellious response i did say that actually if they have aproblem with it then everone should remove their wedding rings but did keep it more discrete.

Two days later i was called into the Director of educations office and was advised that they cant tell me what to do in my private life but should anything get out then i would be instantly dismissed due to bringing the council into disrepute.

a year later when we had a new director take over and a restructuring they actually decided to take me out of the equation by rather nasty malicious means which were actually very immoral but they can justify that shit because i was not their desired norm.
Mind you the pics they found of me drinking stella artois from a dog bowl at a bondage bbq didnt actually help once they employed someone to find a way of getting me out without 15 years redundency

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/1/2009 3:21:16 PM   
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Exactly, a long time ago I used to be fond of net speak and net type, and using phrases like LOL and putting smiley  faces on lots of stuff, and one day found all the internet behavior sneaking into my writing styles for school essays and stuff. I had to stop and remember to write it out full hand, because it was second nature to do it the other way, since I did it so much on the internet.

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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

For me, it doesn't show just how 'slave' you are but that you are spending too much time in online BDSM environments.
 
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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/1/2009 3:24:39 PM   
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There was a time when My present sub and I were communicating a great deal online.

I caught Myself capitalizing the 'me' as in 'please let Me know if you have any questions or concerns.'

Fortunately I set spell check and word to review the docs before I ever hit 'send'.

If it ever happens to you again, simply explain that you use that moniker with your online paralegal student group instead of the attorney's usual signoff 'your humble servant'.

attorneys and legal aids use 'your humble servant' all the time.

And no, it doesn't mean you lack professionalism, it simply means you've acquired a typing habit you need to break.

Good luck,

TexasMaam

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/2/2009 5:09:11 AM   
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I think if you stopped surfing kink sites at work, you wouldn't make this mistake. If you had just made a post with your kink sn, then it would have been natural to sign the letter with it also. Don't surf at work, be much more productive, and don't worry about such things.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/2/2009 12:32:52 PM   
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Sounds like a case of classical conditioning to me.  Either cut back on the non-vanilla/non-workplace friendly behaviors or give them up entirely.  My slave is a professional and I don't have her refer to herself in the third person for just this reason.  If she had to do it all the time at home, she is the kind of person that would get conditioned and accidentally do it at work.  Boss:  "Did you write that report?"  Slave:  "Master's dirty slut finished it yesterday."  That won't go over well...

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 3/2/2009 12:35:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: colouredin

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ORIGINAL: born4serving
i think it is a sign telling me how much of a slave i really am.


Or that you were seriously daydreaming.


This nearly sent me over the edge in laughter.


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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 10/9/2009 11:00:39 PM   
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Both methods are used on animals. I am not a vet, but I would say they probably
have similar rates of safety (or lack of) to surgical castration in an animal.
Remember that in an animal, there is less control of keeping any surgical site
clean. So, both of these "closed" methods have some advantages to animal owners.

Neither method is a good medical choice for humans. The reason is that surgery
by a trained professional is much safer. (Legaly, it needs to be a doctor, but in reality there are good cutters that can castrate safely, but would not be good at open-heart surgery).

Crushing the cords that supply the testicles will work, however it would be
painful for the remaining day (about 5 hours or so after a good complete
crushing). I am not a vet, nor have I ever seen this done on humans, so I do not
know the risks. I would, however, assume that a blood clot could develop in the
veins retuning from the testicles. Probably not likely, but could be very
serious.

Using an banding method stops the blood to the testicles and the scrotum.
Without blood (with white blood cells), the scrotum will become infected.
However, without blood there also will be no response to the "infection", thus
no reaction. They will simply "rot" away. The risk will be when they "fall off".
This will leave an open wound that can be infected. Also, there could be risk of
bleeding when they fall off.

I would never recommend either method on a human becuase surgical castration is
much safer. However, I can understand why someone without the resources or
knowledge would want to go this method. Surgical castration by someone untrained
is much more risk that any of the banding-type methods.

The potential complication from surgical method is infection (easily prevented)
and, more seriously, bleeding. The arteries to the testicles are a branch from
the aorta, and have strong blood flow. If they are tied correctly, this is a
simple procedure. They are often just tied with the veins and all by tying the
cords (from what I have seen in online, underground videos). If not tied tight
enough, they can bleed, and if tied too tightly, they can cut through and bleed.
Using a larger diameter thread and going tight may be more "idiot proof" but you
can see how a simple procedure has a few important details. Finally, if
something does go wrong, and the cords retract back into the body, trying to
recover then (find and pull them back out) can be extremely difficult. Add to
this that fact that everything looks very similar in the body (something as
simple as telling the difference even between an artery and vein in a living
person is a challenge many times).

Surgery by someone trained is low risk, but by someone untrained, there are
risks that most do not even know, and it can be serious.

Does that make banding or crushing safer? No, just that the risks are not as
serious (worst case scenario, slow death vs, fast death). Slow death can usually
be treated in time, while fast cannot as easily.

I would never advise anything risky. However, I cannot stop anyone. Just make
sure you have access to medial care if needed. I do not think anyone wants to
show face in a hospital after a castration gone wrong, but either have a doctor
you know and trust to go to (who cannot do the procedure, but who can treat you
after) or do not hesitate to see one if you need to do so at any time.

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RE: Dangers of revealing your lifestyle in public... - 10/9/2009 11:11:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: steviemichael

well we all have to come out the closet !
some of simply fall out and land on our knees !!



I love this!

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