Blackcords
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This is a very, VERY sensitive area.
So let us begin with a few boundaries.
First, IMNSHO Non-Consentual Attacks (NCA) should be met with ripping off the offending article of the attacker, popping it in a glass of bleach, microwaving it on high for ... oh, say 5 minutes, then grinding the remnants up and making the - by now, I should think QUITE-sorry - attacker eat it.
Yes, I DO have a sadistic streak. What gave it away ?
It is usually reserved for those who attempt to prey on the weak.
So, if NCAs can include the R-Word, should the R-Word be used as a term for forced play ?
The important thing - and it IS an important thing - is that it is known by all parties in the Play involved that there is a universe of difference between NCA and ForcePlay.
ForcePlay, by definition starts with either violence, mock-violence or the threat of violence. The nature of the play will vary, hopefully to the mutual satisfaction of all participants. There is no reason the Play cannot end with a very different tone. Kindness, caring and comfort for the 'victim', allowing her to come back down (or back up) from the emotional experience is not excluded from the scene.
Good experience starts with exhaustive preparation, research, time and attention to detail.
During the experience (speaking as the Dominant part), you need to be in complete control of yourself, the girl, the environment and that one thing that will blindside you if you are not paying attention to situational awareness.
The 'during' above starts when you first catch sight of the girl prior to the Play starting and does not end until she is genuinely returned to her normal level of daily control and in a safe vanilla environment.
Complete control of yourself includes absolute knowledge of how much force you are exerting, where and how, at ALL times. Control of the girl means that if she becomes frightened enough to bolt (and she WILL be frightened), you can ensure she does not trip over an electrical cord, slip on tiles, stumble on the stairs ... without being in a position to break her fall, ensuring she does not get hurt.
Control of the environment means knowing who and what is around you. Remember, her safety and comfort are your priority and your responsibility.
What ?
You thought this was for your benefit ???
In this kind of play, her needs come first.
Her needs will almost ALWAYS include discretion.
Which takes us back to the environment.
Last thing either of you need is a concerned citizen calling the local constabulary.
It IS a difficult thing to explain for either of you should you have to account for it.
As for the blindsiding ...
The only way to avoid that is to stay alert.
You can stop reading now.
What follows is My worldview - or a part of it - and is not to be imposed on yours.
YMMV. YKMNNBMK.
Your milage may vary.
Your Kink may not necessarily be My Kink.
And Vice Versa.
For those of you who have read My profile, you will be aware of My feelings on the matter. One part of My kink - Only One ... - involves forced play. And yes, this is requested a number of times a year by differing women.
I offer a Request-Only service.
I am not even sure if the word 'service' is appropriate. Let us say that I have the profile as shown, and let any who are interested approach Me.
The paradox is this; for the scene to work, it must be realistic. To be realistic, it must be believeable. To be believeable, there must be a sense of complete lack of control on the part of the "victim".
And right there is the crux.
There must be a sense of complete lack of control.
The girl must feel that she is powerless or else she will feel she is co-operating.
Is the girl in control of whether this happens ?
Absolutely.
Does the girl outline her limits and hard boundaries ?
Clearly and unambiguously.
Does the girl have control of what is happening during the Play ?
No. She does not.
Questions put to Me are typically;
"What happens if I try to scream ?"
"Can I fight back ?"
"What if I hurt you ?"
My answer is typically a paraphrase of;
"Do you need this to feel real ?"
If the answer is No, then they are looking for Rough Sex and that is a different matter. The Interview - I'll get to that in a minute - ends then and there and I advise the girl in question along other lines.
If the answer is Yes, then;
"Yes, you can try to scream ... fight back too, if it seems right for you at the time. As for hurting Me, if you need this to feel as if it is real then you need to be able to feel that you must do what you have to ... so, by all means, try."
So back to the whole believable issue.
Some girls contact Me and request that we get to know one another over coffee / drinks / vanilla visits etc. before ANY play.
I advise them that this is unlikely to work. The simple reason is that by the time they get to know Me, as BB King would say, the thrill is gone.
Trust is absolutely essential.
For them.
For Me.
I have to trust them to not be a psycho-knife-wielding-man-hating-bunny-boiling-tranny-weightlifter called Igor (or Igora).
She has to trust that I will make her actual safety first amongst all things for as long as she is in My power.
She also has to trust that I will make her security and discretion absolute after we conclude the session.
The matter of trust then, must be made up without getting to know the WHOLE person of the "Forcer".
After all, the girl who comes looking for ForcePlay generally doesn't want the 'Forcer'. She wants the experience.
And afterwards, she will not wish to stay with the 'Forcer'.
It would diminish the intensity of the time and the experience.
She wants the experience.
She wants the memory.
Think of it like a holiday romance.
With bruises.
Or not.
Anyway, back on track. Pay attention down at the back, class. The good bit is coming.
What the girl needs to know is can she trust Me.
The answer must come from within her.
So we talk. Mails. IMs. Phone conversations. Exchange of photographs.
Well, I say exchange ... but I do not give out photos of Me.
Don't snort. Remember ?
It must feel real to work.
Part of that is the un-knowing.
Hence I could be anyone.
When she feels she is ready, we undertake an interview.
Remember the comment above ?
This is it.
The phone interview is similar to a Voight-Kampff test.
Look it up, if you feel you need to.
Don't snigger ... the guy might have been a Dick but he knew his shit.
I ask a series of questions under a number of sections. The questions are carefully screened and cross-referenced. The answers given and the manner in which the answers are given are then assessed. They allow Me to gain an understanding of the girls' state of mind and psychological strength.
Yes, I have psychological training.
No, you don't need to know from where or to what level.
Why do I need this ?
Well, let Me put it this way.
Remember Igor ?
I have not met him yet.
Bruises are not mandatory. In fact, they need to be specifically requested if required.
But they heal.
Psychological "bruising" does not mend as quickly or as well.
Let us imagine a hypothetical girl called Marigold.
Why 'Marigold' ?
Because it is unusual enough to avoid any conflict with any persona on here.
If there IS a Marigold, I apologise and blame poor research. [smiles]
Marigold has had a fantasy for years about being forced.
She has thought about it and dreamed of it.
Some long, lazy morning in bed have been improved greatly by her imaginations of it.
Some late nights, incessant tossing and turning and an inability to sleep have been quietened by thoughts of it.
Marigold, in a search to fulfill her longing, finds My profile one day.
She genuinely WANTS to know what it is like.
She feels that she really REALLY needs to know what it is like.
The thing is ... maybe she cannot handle what she thinks she is ready for.
THAT is why I developed the VK test.
It lets Me determine if it is a GO/NO GO
It lets Me determine what she needs, and how far she can go.
What I can offer is not for everyone.
It is an incredibly intense experience.
Now, we are almost at the end.
I suggest that you wait 15 minutes before you post a response.
Think again about what you are about to write.
Remember, YKINMK.
And Vice Versa.
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