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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 1/27/2009 2:16:55 PM

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I actually haven't read any real ones...ever. It's a fantasy I would really like to try one day but I want to hear some good experiences from people. Like how women deal with the clenching so they don't get hurt. Since it's a popular fantasy, If people wouldn't mind posting their stories and telling how they managed to do it without too much difficulty, I would really appreciate it.

I have spoken on this topic before, but in lieu of finding that posting I will say that this is something that I love to fantsize about and do when able. Having experienced sexual assault on more than one occasion I can say that this is completely different, but still the same if that makes any sense. For instance, when actually assaulted you don't know what the person intends; will he hurt me, rape me, and leave me crying? Or does he intend to use me and then kill me, leaving no witness to his actions? In play, whether orchestrated down to most minute detail or done on a whim, does not involve this fear (IMHO).
When Daddy and I are doing this type of play, he is no longer the man I know and love, he is a faceless figure using and abusing me. I do not see his face, I try to fight, but I am always caught lying down and am easily overpowered and subdued. This is my fantasy not his and it is done the way that I prefer. I have always been twisted in this way and the thought/fantasy of being taken from behind by one or many makes me insane. This faceless monster presses my face into the pillow/bed and controls my every move and sound. When I have been assaulted in RT, I was face to face with them, there in lies the difference for me. That being said, even though he does things differently than my assailants did, there have been times that I was triggered and he has to know me well enough to recognize this and act appropriately.
Long story short, even those of us that know one another vastly well can still have accidents, if you will. I would not recommend doing this for a first/second time; you will not look at one another the same again and could ruin a potentially good thing.
Just my two cents; personally I call it rape play without connecting it to my past negative experiences, it is just a word.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 1/27/2009 2:26:38 PM

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If you think you're going to need months of counseling and support to get over it, I wouldn't go near it with a ten-foot pole, OP.

It's supposed to be exciting, fun and hot, not a pre-planned trauma............luci

The problem is when you get trauma when you had expected fun and hot. And sometimes this happens.

I like planning for worst case scenarios myself, not assuming everything will be fine. Worst case scenario here is that the 'victim' does get seriously traumatized. It happens, people can hit hitherto unknown emotional triggers. What would you do then?

And nicky's description of a bf saying "you really do want it" when the girl's struggling to get free fits into the definition of date rape. It's still nonconsensual.

Especially for someone as inexperienced as the op, I would recommend role playing it first. You could be in clothes from a thrift shop so you wouldn't care if he cut them off. He could be in clothes he doesn't normally wear also, maybe a different cologne. And role play it to see if it hits an emotional trigger. If it does, you stop when you are still safe and discuss it, and get the aftercare you need. If it goes real well, then step it up a notch and have him sneak in one night when you're already asleep. Maybe you know which week but not which night, this allows you not to be scared for too long. See how it goes.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 1/28/2009 9:59:54 AM

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I've done versions of such...

I find the key is to agree in advance what levels of attack AND resistance should be expected. Nothing will stop a scene faster than a swift kick to the nuts...

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/5/2009 3:55:08 AM

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As roleplays biggest fan, course i have an opinion on this subject!!!

A good rape roleplay will get the endorphines working, the pleasure will increase, struggling, crying, screaming/shouting all adds effect for me. BUT the roleplay needs to be between 2 (or more??) concenting ADULTS, who know each other so well they know exactly what the other is going to do next. There needs to be boundries set, conditions, and i would advise a safeword to those who do not know their partner too well. This isnt a "one-off" roleplay, where you meet a guy for the first time, and this is the scene you are doing.

Great for those who like it, and for those that dont, well there isnt a law to say it has to happen in your relationship!!

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/5/2009 9:40:41 AM

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I had an experience that I loved, but it was strange. I did not react at all the way I thought I would. While we both enjoyed the experience, I think he would have liked me to struggle more. He had a knife and cut my dress most of the way off me, forced me to blow him and then threw me on the bed. He used the shredded skirt of the dress I was still kind of wearing to bind my wrists and he took me in the ass. Somehow in my mind he just became the man with the knife and I was terrified of what would happen if I didn't do what he said. I was so shut down there was a point my Master was a bit worried about me, but trusted that I would use my safeword if he had gone too far. I'm glad he trusted me, since it would have ruined everything if he had checked in. Someday I'd like to try it without a weapon and see if I fight back more.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/5/2009 9:06:52 PM

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I have to say this is an interesting topic...I wish more details were given on those who are into preparing somewhat the scenes...I am a Master who likes to knw the girl very well...in this case my submissive as otherwise not knowing the person well enough (say doing this after a first or second meeting) can cause problems as both parties do not know each other well; trust is built over time, specially of the solid kind. Moreover from the Dominant's point of view...which I have not read much about here, if its a submissive you are meeting for the first or second time, she could be a nutcase and even denounce the Dominant as a rapist..trust is on both sides.

Me and my girl have slowly gotten into rape play, she loves to struggle and be "taken"...and we are looking into something more elaborate or realistic (real life complicates this most of the time) - I think some planning is not bad and can still be exhilirating and exciting if the basics are planned but then the rest is left up to how things play themselves out...hence this ensures its a safe enviroment and fun for all. Naturally I am always available for aftercare for my girl as she is my most important focus.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/6/2009 5:45:45 AM

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I've done it, and enjoyed it, in a couple of different ways. Probably the easiest to arrange, without any roleplay, is to command my submissive to prevent me from having sex with her. We both know we're unlikely to be hurt, but this takes very little setup, and the struggle can be quite a bit of fun.

For the roleplay, where we pretend I don't have consent or power to command, it's pretty much like it usually is - not quite realistic, but close enough to get the fun of the conflict without the trauma of the injury.

I don't think I'd do this with someone I didn't know well and trust pretty deeply - an unwillingness to damage each other is important, and I'd really hate to play along with an acquaintences' fantasy, only to find myself trying to explain to a judge that I'd believed that she wanted to be raped. That just doesn't seem like it'd be fun at all, at all.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/6/2009 6:11:54 AM

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Yes.
But it depends on you.
You know instinctively if this is a good idea or not for you.
Questions I would ask myself are:

How easily do I handle crisis?
How quick do I get over catastrophe?
Am I OK having no control?
What constitutes trauma in my life?
ie; Some folks are traumatized by a cockroach in thier fridge or breaking a nail, and others would only call it trauma at the level of cheating spouses and dying parents.

I myself am very resilient.
I got over the real rapes fairly quickly, but many more people I meet are like my sister, who 20 years later is still broken.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/6/2009 7:21:04 AM

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slaveluci has it right, it's all about the element of not knowing.

Also it is vital to talk about it ahead of time, however that does not mean you have to meet the person. After you've agreed this is something she would enjoy...Game on!

Here is my best rape scene.... I gave my new sub the following instructions...

Met me at my hotel......11 pm, room 1012 the door will be open walk in.

When she walks in the only light on is the one on the desk and under it is a note with her name on it. It says....Change of Plans, I've been delayed...I want you to go downstairs, and walk south on Long Street to the Park, go in the park, you'll see a park bench on the left, wait for me there, it shouldn't be much longer.

During this I'm sitting in a van, parked on Long St. where I can watch her walking toward the park and me. As she gets near the van I jump out behind her, pull a big heavy cloth hood down over her head, shoulders and arms. I'm large so it's easy to drag her into the van. I handle her roughly, (but not too badly) I throw her on the floor, hold her down while I duct tape her legs arms etc.

Then I drive off to a "safe" location for the rape to take place. I keep the hood on her so she never sees me. I then re-tape her and drop her off in the general neighborhood of her car / hotel / park, with hood in place, and I cut her hands loose and whisper to her to not move for 5 minutes. I drive off an park the van back in the hotel and go to my room.

From her perspective, during the whole process she never has a clue if the "right" person is raping her or not, which drives her wild.. Later I drop her off by the hotel, I go park the car and wait to see if she returns to the room, or drives home?

UNDERSTAND.........It's very intense, and only meant for those who can handle it. Yes it involves risk, you could get yourself arrested if somebody sees you grab her, You might run into a cop at the park which means you don't grab her at all and instead simply walk up to her on the bench......etc. etc. However carefully planned, right locations.....!

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/6/2009 2:45:01 PM

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ORIGINAL: rednicky

Oh is this something that I should just not mention on this site...ever?

Don't feel bad asking - just maybe the way you phrased the title could have been a bit more sensitive. You're right - there are a lot of people who have rape fantasies, and this isn't the first thread about rape fantasies to be started on this forum and I'm positive it won't be the last, but even in the Scene, rape fantasy can be a tetchy subject because rape is such a difficult subject. Just like there are plenty of peopl who fantasize, and even act out their fantasies, about being raped, there are those, like myself, who have experience rape for real and can't fathom how it could ever be thought of as arousing. I've even spoken with one or two people who've been raped and still have rape fantasies, so each person is different. No one should hold a grudge against you, so long as it's SSC, for what gets ya goin'.

Unfortunately, due to my own aversion to this particular kink, I can't really direct you to any erotica or testimonials. Sorry.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/6/2009 2:55:24 PM

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Yeah, I once arranged a burglar/rape scene with a young lady (she wasn't a stranger - we were partners). Anyway, I climbed through her kitchen window wearing a balaclava, dressed from head to toe in black, with rope hanging around my neck and a machete in each hand. She was pretending to be asleep as arranged. So, I dropped the machetes, loaded her music system on top of her television, climbed through her living room window with her former possessions and ran up the street. Haven't seen her since - hope she enjoyed it as much as I did.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/6/2009 10:17:36 PM

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I have had a number of experienced in rape play. In each case it was a first meeting. We had chatted and spoken on the phone in advance. I made sure that she set up a friend who knew where she was going and who she was going to be with. We had a safe word. We had a clear understanding that barring the safe word the scene would continue. At the safe word it would stop instantly. Before hand any limits were established. No one ever needed a safe word an each time both parties enjoyed it very much. I have no desire to take a woman against her will. In play with a willing woman I found it exciting and stimulating. It is not my main thing but I would do it again.

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RE: Any good roleplay rape experiences? - 2/7/2009 4:27:08 AM

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Had a fun variation on that theme awhile ago with a switch buddy: I was going to be the "intruder" or "assailant" so to speak, be interrupted while tossing his place and turn my attentions to him instead. He's actually planned to turn the tables on me, knowing my orientation he figured pretty accurately that I wouldn't have an issue with that. I didn't, and it turned into a mock-rape "what will I do to stop him from calling the police?" kind of night. Much fun.

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