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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/18/2009 8:05:38 AM

Amaros

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As I mentioned, I always had weird fantasies, well before puberty, but I was hooked the first time I got that half scared, half fascinated look, half terror, half hunger - it's hard to resist. It's frustrating when women give me that look in public, it's like, what am I supposed to do, do you right here? In the dogfood aisle? It seems to go with tongue tied, you should carry a business card. Ah, the vicissitudes and complexities of modern life.

I'd have to say I also enjoy that attitude of sheer, unrestrained polymorphic perversity as well.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/18/2009 8:09:46 AM

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For me, I was a submissive long before I knew what that meant. I found that I enjoy spankings and serving, letting go of my control. When I found out people out there were like me, I was like a kid in a candy store. I started reading and experimenting and finding out what I liked, what I didn't. Now, I am 43 and still searching for my other half, but I am diligent, I know what I want now and what I don't. Will I find it? Time will tell. It is hard to explain a particular reason, I just am.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/18/2009 8:21:25 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rednicky

I know there are many people here who just 'knew' that bdsm was for them. But what about those who developed the need for it in their lives via some life changing events? What was the event and how did it happen?

There wasn't one event, I am simply a sum of my life's experiences and thoughts.

I never understood the need for monogamous relationships, for example, despite my parents being happily in one.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/18/2009 9:43:36 AM

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For myself I always felt a submissive side to myself, being it always seemed there from a young age, however having been through a lot over the years when I was around 21, I started to question myself in what I desired so I chose to explore. Once I met my former dominant, he opened my eyes to see things about myself and my desires that I didn't see before, yet it only made me feel the submission deepen in myself that was already there. Starting out I realized through my submission I loved being treated like a pet,originally starting out with desires of being a puppy, yet having always been a bit overweight my former dom while deep in my subspace started to humiliate me in several forms for my weight. Like a piggy,it turned me on like nothing ever has, from there I started to match the desires I had with one another. I realized I love the mentality and the depth when going in that type of subspace with that humiliation

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/20/2009 7:25:31 AM

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I became interested in BDSM during computer exploration as I am ending a 9 yr marriage marked by very poor communication on my part. The aspect that interested me more than any other is the need for open and honest communication for a successful relationship, which seemed to be a hallmark of D/s relationships from an observer's perspective. My thinking was that it would be a good way to build my communications skills.

Now as I start to dabble ever so lightly into this, I am finding that is hasn't improved my communications at all. What it has done is intensify the need and consequences of poorly communicating. I suppose it's like taking someone who has trouble learning to swim and tossing them into a shark-filled ocean to help them learn.

yours

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/20/2009 6:36:05 PM

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We didn't choose it. it chose us. For many of us, me included, these desires are something that have always been with me, and they ain't going anywhere. My only choice was to live them or be perpetually frustrated.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/20/2009 6:59:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: colouredin

Its a bit like why do I like motown, i just kinda do. See and I thought I would be able to write loads, and I probably can but all of it will be psychobable. Is it because I have low self esteem? Is it because I cant do subtle? I really have no clue. Sorry i wish I could be more helpful.

This got water spit on my computer screen. :/ I can so relate lol.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 11:25:38 AM

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I was cast into the lifestyle by a brother- in- laws brother who owned a bondage club. He taught me many things and from there I just went on. That was 28 years ago and I still love every minute of it.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 11:36:53 AM

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Being submissive is more natural for me, and a major relief from trying to not be.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 11:42:19 AM

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It's fun.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 11:48:15 AM

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Well, I always got a "funny feeling" at those Jason and the Argonaunt movies at the Saturday Matinee...( boy am I old! ) I knew then... it was something i didn' t understand until recently... guess I am a slow learner... <Grins>

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 11:49:12 AM

JustDarkness

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No reason..just happened.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 11:58:31 AM

devotedinSD

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Does there have to be a reason? It's like asking why are people gay...

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 12:28:43 PM

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my pat answer to this is that the sex is better. I don't know when i realized that i was differently normal except that i got a lot of drama in highschool for not liking the right kind of guys and being called a lezbo and queer. I guess they all saw it, but it just is how i am.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 12:52:45 PM

akisha

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~FR~

My reason for being in this.....

Because I want to
Because I can
Because it's what feels natural for ME

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 1:01:18 PM

VeryNastyDom

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I have always been this way, but I didn't realize others were into this for a long time. The first time I woman held out her wrists to that I could tie them, I nearly soiled myself with anticipation. The rest was all downhill.

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 1:44:36 PM

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quote:

But what about those who developed the need for it in their lives via some life changing events? What was the event and how did it happen?

Desperation

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 3:13:13 PM

MidMichCowboy

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When I was a child (5 or so) I loved "capturing" girls, tying them up, spanking their bottom and kissing them. It made me feel all funny and warm.
In my teens, I was involved with a couple older women. I loved making them do things for me, serve me, and spanking their lovely bottoms (I left it to them to explain to their spouses).
So ... Why ... cause I was born warped?

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 3:20:27 PM

akisha

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quote:

ORIGINAL: akisha

~FR~

My reason for being in this.....

Because I want to
Because I can
Because it's what feels natural for ME

As an addition....

I think the signs were there when I drew a picture of my family in Kindergarten and they are all anatomically correct lol

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Your pain makes me smile ~ Happy Bunny

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RE: What's your reason for being into D/s, M/s, D/D, an... - 1/26/2009 3:47:50 PM

lilmisssubmiss

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wtf........

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