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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 1/19/2009 5:53:02 AM

chamberqueen

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I have worked with dozens of online only subs. Some people are really connected to the written word. I am myself, so I can understand how a male sub could be. For some it is all of the fulfillment that they desire. While many may not find it something that turns them on we shouldn't discount those who get great pleasure from it. After all, it is just another expression of kink.

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 1/19/2009 8:13:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: Loliita
Guys, can a woman really control you through email? I know you can't speak for all men so just speak for yourself. I would like to read what some of you men say and what is your reasoning.

A lot of it has to do with the voice/font you're using:

Get on your knees NOW bitch, and submit!

You see, that's dominant baby, though it helps if you misspell a couple of words, it shows you don't care about no stinking grammer.

Seriously, it's all in your head, I think some people like the idea of submitting, without the inconvenience of having to travel, meet new people in real life, etc., whether by taste or necessity, it's all good, everybody goes at a pace they find comfortable, some of us like to just dive right in and damn the consequences, other have to stick their toes in and wiggle them around a little first.

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 1/19/2009 9:53:00 AM

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Well.. imagine you're a guy, with a computer, who hasn't had a girl in years and is jerking of everyday on internet porn..

.. Yeah, email domination seems like lot's of fun now.. :P

I can totally understand it if people like to do the fantasy stuff, but I like more irl and I wouldn't have time to write letters etc.=)

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 1/19/2009 12:19:16 PM

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ORIGINAL: Loliita
Guys, can a woman really control you through email? I know you can't speak for all men so just speak for yourself. I would like to read what some of you men say and what is your reasoning.

Years ago I was in a long distance relationship and I did enjoy being dominated by email. I would have preferred being dominated in person but email was a lot better than nothing. But the answer to the question "How she could make me do things through email" is I wanted to do things for her. I got a thrill out of getting the order, carrying out the order, and telling her about it afterward. If I was really squeeked by something I'd say so and we'd talk about it. Let me put this in context though because I'm not sure this would apply to most cases. I got to know her in a chat room and we really clicked but didn't do anything about it for a long time because neither of us wanted an LDR. So there was a lot of ground work there. Also most of the content of these emails were about our lives and non-kinky interest we shared. This is probably a whole different dynamic than some guy who writes you asking to be dominated by email but I think as far actually doing what you command I guess they probably want to obey.

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 2/11/2009 9:22:05 AM

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I dont get it either, I have so many slaves/subs email me on here asking me to domme them online. Whats the point? How do I know they are really doing it? Its not satisfying when its not done in real. I guess they cant get it in real life or they just want the fantasy. I know when Im being dommed by my Master I want to see him, hear him, smell him, taste him, and touch him. Otherwise its not satisfying. Im only talking sexually, I can see dominance from Master via email or chat in other aspects of life.

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 2/11/2009 6:53:16 PM

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What I want to know is what makes a submissive obey a master through the internet? How does the dominant power move through email.

The submissive obeys through email for the same reason they obey in person, they choose to submit.

And if you need to be in their physical sight to dominate, does that mean you can't call out from the other room "Get me another cup of coffee, please"?

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 2/11/2009 8:41:42 PM

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What I want to know is what makes a submissive obey a master through the internet? How does the dominant power move through email.

Now I will get back on my Sand Box. I have seen this question before, and answered my opinion on the subject many times. It seems EVERYTIME someone mentions anything to do with CYBER, most of the nay sayers come out, and act like CYBER is a BAD WORD or HARD LIMIT.

Some people (Like me) are fine with it, and why does that rub others the wrong way? Do I cut them up because they like Scat or Golden showers or what ever? So why the big fuss about CYBER Control? Just because it isn't your cup of WHIP, don't go bonkers when someone might be okay with it.

Now as for my, I would (and did) obey a Mistress online because I am doing something that SHE LIKES ! And maybe it might even lead to RT Sessions, like it did for me once. There are so many Male Subs, who can't get a Mistress, because of where they live, and because there are so many male Subs out there. There is not enough Mistreses to go around, or they are asking for Money (Tribute).

I WILL NEVER PAY for this. I do this, because it might please a female, and maybe we can both have some FUN and Enjoyment at the same time. As long as SHE is having FUN TOO, who is it hurting? It has to be fun for her too, or it wouldn't be worth doing, for me. I will do what a Mistress tells me to do Online, as if she was in person. If I don't do something she asks me to do, and fake it, what is the use of contacting each other. It is a lie. I don't need anyone, if I am going to do whatever I want, when I want. I feel as though I need female to control some things I do, and if I have to resort to someone Online, so what.

As for how does the Power move through the e-mail, that is easy. The Mistress tells the sub to do this or that, and the sub obeys. Very Easy and Simple.

Getting of Soap Box for now, sub balletBob

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 2/11/2009 9:37:24 PM

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RE: Guys...I don't "get" email domination. - 2/12/2009 8:25:54 AM

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I'm having guys message me and asking me to dominate them by email.

They want a quick fix without the responsibility of giving their energy into being a submissive.

For some, that is all they want, need or could ever pull off.

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