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chastecuckoldsub -> RE: A very interesting Profile (1/20/2009 8:15:15 PM)
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Hmm... Curious to know what exactly is meant by being a "real man?" I have some Rambo image in mind now after reading that phrase. If so, then I can say that some of the male dominants I know or have met would not fit that image and have actually been derided by some of their female partnes for such things as being quesy in killing bugs or mice or utterly lacking in fixing items around the house. On the other hand, I know some malesubs that could mop the floor with these maledoms if they were so inclined, so actually uber macho in my opinion. So what would being a "real man" mean?
For me, I am no Rambo but neither a whimp, and have no difficulty capturing or killing nasty-ass big bugs and pretty handy around the house, having built an extension to our home. But would any of these things neccessarily make me a man? I think what makes a man a man or woman a woman, for that matter, is who they are as a human being. If you are going by just raw sex appeal than you have to factor in the superficial qualities of looks of course. For men though, there is more a complex issue I feel. Masculity is something that is cultivated and more cultural in context than it is for woman. Being a woman is almost a natural guarantee for any female who reaches adulthood. For a male, however, it has to be earned or proved and one subject to constant reevaluation. I once remember at work a male coworker who stood over six feet tall and every woman in the building just about had the biggest crush on him. Once day in the kitchen area, a hug mouse rat out from under the counter and he leaped up on the chair, screaming like a schoolgirl. He was not joking either. After that day, his sex appeal somehow was greatly diminished in the eyes of the other woman and he himself acted as if somehow defeated in a contest after that. But he could still have kicked all our asses so we didn't laugh out loud--at least not too loudly. :)
I have a different take on the scarnio that you presented however. I have witnessed that some women who are involved in a relationship with a dominant man seeking a male submissive are sometimes simply not happy in the relationship and even resentful of it. Some simply seek an escape and perhaps to justify it in their minds need to see it in the context of being faithful to their primary partner, who of course is the pinicle of manhood, while any male that would be submissive is but a mere lowly male. I have known some women like this and this internal dynamic was unmistakably at play in their thinking. Of course, this isn't to say you have women that are submissive to one or even some men and dominant to others purely out of personal relationships she has.
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