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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/20/2009 10:20:39 AM

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How do you use it if your mouth is full during play? Especially during (painful) play where resistance is anticipated.

Hello rednicky,

I never play with safewords, however "signals" are highly recommended, especially regarding edge-play or times when the mouth is gagged etc.

I have had subs, blink their eyes in a frantic fashion, also the clenching and release, quickly of the fingers hands, even a head nodding can also be a signal, or side to side motion.

Signals should be discussed prior to play/scening

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/20/2009 10:30:32 AM

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I have played with safe gestures, especially with edgeplay or limit-pushing.

Usually, one can hold something that belongs to the Dominant (which has this wonderful way of imbuing the item with significance) with the instruction that, if the item is dropped, it will cause the scene to end or the Dominant to inquire as to the issue, etc.

For me, blinking wouldn't work, as I tend to close my eyes when I start flying with endorphins.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/20/2009 1:20:24 PM

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Even with a gag in, you still can make noise. Grunt three times. Me? I open and close my fists rapidly if there's a major problem. If I just open one fist and try to move it around then he knows that wrist is going numb.

Or keys or a clicker, or a cat toy with a bell.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/20/2009 2:09:38 PM

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We use red/yellow/green, but have also found that during public play, it is usually too loud to hear the words -- i tend to have trouble talking at all, and shouting is right out. Not only do we have a red signal (opening and closing my hands quickly) but a yellow signal (flat hand, fingers straight) and a green signal (clenched fist, moved back and forth in a nod... the faster the nod the greener i am!). This way, He can determine my color quickly without having to ask -- i can't always hear Him either. Naturally, these work just as well when i am gagged or otherwise have my mouth full.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/26/2009 4:58:44 PM

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for myself and my M'lady i have the safe words but haven't used them lately she checks in with me and makes sure I'm OK, she and i play well together. she reads my body language very well. i do know others that have things to drop or pull to indicate the play needs to change. each pairing needs to arrange beforehand the play and safe words. as well as health and safety issues.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/26/2009 5:16:49 PM

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Our non-verbal safeword is me snapping my fingers. We haven't yet had to use it, but it's always been really comforting to know it's there if I need it.

That's half the thing about safe-words for me anyhow - knowing that I may never use them, but being comforted knowing that I CAN if I really want to. (I've only had to safeword once, and that was more a matter of positioning).

Our last play session included a Dom who did the regular check-in thing and I have to admit, it was nice. It made me feel warm, taken care of, and loved. I would definately recommend that.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/27/2009 7:51:40 AM

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All good advice. Best is clicker or simple hand gesture decided on by both in advance anything meaning stop....peace sign...thumb up or down.....or during extreme pain, universal sign the Middle finger!

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/27/2009 2:31:03 PM

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And of course, if certain things are in your mouth, biting will immediately get his attention.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/27/2009 4:47:46 PM

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And of course, if certain things are in your mouth, biting will immediately get his attention.

Ouch!! Which would probably get you more attention than you would care to have.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/27/2009 4:50:32 PM

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Gag the person with a dog toy that squeaks, lol. Just kidding. That is just what I imagined after reading some of the answers.

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RE: A quick question about safewords - 1/27/2009 5:25:43 PM

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Master isnt very sadistic and reads me well so usually there is no need for a safeword.There have been times where i was bound facing away from him and gagged where i was intructed to hold up so many fingers if anything was wrong.It worked well for us i think having to hold something might have been distacting for me.He pays very close attention any time im tied,gagged,or blindfolded as each is one less way im able to express exactly what im feeling in that moment.As long as both of you are clear on the signal and alert its a matter of preference.

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