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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 7:55:39 AM   
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^^^Perhaps there is a significant communication gap occurring here, although we do not appear to be that far apart in age. For some, who are what used to be referred to as "old guard," this is the appropriate way to find and appeal to a slave, who is a slave in every sense of the word -- in terms of being "chattel." I don't believe the OP is actually implying that the slave need not be able to consent to becoming owned. He merely posed the question as to why slaves feel as if they are entitled to actually choose their owners when they are supposed to be chattel/property. I don't believe he is actually expecting to pick up a slave in a nonconsensual manner but it is good exposure for him to put his desires out there, which he has successfully done here. Despite the embarrassing hooplah that has occurred upon this thread, it could still possibly generate someone who actually gets it; so in this way, I can see how he could still come out ahead despite all the.. drama.


Well, I wasn't going to respond once I saw your warped idea of Old Guard, but after you threw the dictionary around I feel I need to set the record straight for any newbies out there that buy into this romantic bullshit.

Okay, newbies.. listen up: Lesson 1. Old Guard was not some glorified leather blast from the past with a rich history of tradition and protocols. It was a bunch of gay guys looking to fuck or be fucked, suck or be sucked often with strangers and usually in biker bars where leather was worn for protection, not proclamation. Those guys were not referred to as slaves unless they were in an actual relationship and even that came later. They were bottoms, their counter-parts were tops and they absolutely had the right to pick and choose who they would let fuck them up the ass. They were not prim, they were not proper, they didn't raise their pinkies over tea. They slammed back beers, took poppers and hid in bars because it was the easiest way to get a piece of ass. They were in it to win it.. in other words, to get their rocks off, cum, splat, jizz all night long or whatever else you want to call it.. it was all about doing it and getting it done to you for the thrill of it all and heightened by drugs, mugs and slugs before going home to the little, clueless wife, snot-nosed rugrats and the three bedroom house with a 30 year mortgage. I don't know about other parts of the country, but in the Castro district of SF, CA, scads of sadomasochists would hang around BB's looking for jolly's and if they couldn't find them there, they'd hit up the parks, adult book stores and any glory holes that could manage to get drilled into the side of a bathroom stall.

Now, some folks want you all to believe that there is a particular 'place' for a submissive, a certain kind of behavior that is expected .. well, there's not because, kiddies, there was no such thing as a 'submissive' back in those Ye Old Glorified, Old Guard days. Tops and bottoms, Masters and slaves and if you weren't gay, you weren't there. Period. Feel free to spin any sort of romantic bullshit onto raw, dirty, stanky sadomasochistic sex and call it what you will .. it's still raw, dirty, stanky SM sex and you can blind yourself to the past, but you can't change it.

Fast forward to 2009 - don yourself a cute little title with an appropriate toppy sort of word and you get the automatic booby prize of INSTANT RESPECT from anyone calling themselves a submissive or a slave despite the fact that no one knows your shit from your shinola ... or, you can join the real world, realize the diversity, take it off the cuff and do your own thing in your own way and maybe you'll find someone who wants to do it with you and maybe you won't but at least you'll be real, in all your foul, rude, sweet, formal or just natural self glory and that's what people will come to respect.. the real you and they won't tell you that you're a fake or a player or anything else because no one will be afraid to call it like they see it because they know you can, actually, handle the truth.

DD - How dare you come in here talking down to anyone from your ivory tower, denigrate PEOPLE and what they do and how they do it and how they behave because they don't fall into line with your way of thinking  .. then expect them to kiss your ass with your fake pronouncements and mutilated concepts of universal slavery and dictionary submission.

Fucking rude my ass. Take a look in the mirror, sister. I hope that cloak of hypocritic crap keeps you warm at night.








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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:14:43 AM   
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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:22:34 AM   
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God Celeste I totally love you.


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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:24:38 AM   
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God Celeste I totally love you.


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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:33:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: DominantDamsel
Perhaps there is a significant communication gap occurring here, although we do not appear to be that far apart in age. For some, who are what used to be referred to as "old guard," this is the appropriate way to find and appeal to a slave, who is a slave in every sense of the word -- in terms of being "chattel


I don't know what kind of Old Guard scene there was in San Antonio, but in New York City it was a matter of bars and bathhouses where a gay man could hope to fuck or get fucked without being arrested. On Fire Island it was a patch of dunes between the two gay communities, a patch known as the meatmarket where people groped and had anonymous sex. Absolutely anonymous when there was no moon to give even scant light.

What you folks who romanticize the Old Guard keep forgetting is that gay sex was illegal and that's why it got practiced where it did, in park bathrooms, in bathhouses, on a patch of unlit sand.

And it was practiced by people who only sought to fuck and get fucked in the way they liked without paying the price of three years in jail. As far as it being rough sex? There wasn't any time for people to engage in sensual play. Rough and fast gave them the best chance of being dressed and long gone before the cops raided.

And as Celeste said, leathers gave you the best odds of surviving if the other man in the bathroom happened to be there to beat up a gay, not to fuck him.

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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:36:47 AM   
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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:37:31 AM   
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I will hold up a forth on that!  If I beat the next person... if not... a fifth... sixth or whatever!

I am a dominant and while I do enjoy seeing polite submissive's... as long as they are not my submissive... I could care less what they do.  Having said that... I do not consider polite submissive's to be submissive and meek in public or to take the bs someone dishes out without standing up for themselves.  A mouse I do not seek... a doormat I step on and don't consider to be worthy of spouse material.

I won't go into defining words here... like ego... self positioning... liar's... polite... rude... fake... real... natural... normal... typical... but as for my human friend and spouses... they darn well better not show weakness in a society filled with vultures that prey upon the weak and my spouse or anyone who wishes to be my spouse... had better show only me that submissive side or I am not special and am just like everyone else.  Beyond that... people earn respect and if they prove themselve's to be unworthy of it... so be it.. that is their choice. It isn't like we all live in cave's and don't know how we will be taken... hell even a um knows that at an early age.  I have no compassion or pity for someone who enjoys the personal out of... I am just misunderstood... I didn't understand... I didn't mean it that way... Then watch what you say... pay attention... and grow the fuck up! 

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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:38:02 AM   
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Why would anyone want a person who didn't care who they ended up with?  

Because with MRT's description of a slave, any person who slapped that slave label on their ass would be someone who didn't care, and would just sit at SlaveMart waiting to be plucked off the shelf by any ole dude or dudette who wandered by and threw them in their shopping cart!

Who would want such a *cough* treasure?  I'll tell you who!  The flip side of that treasure coin.  A person who can't find anyone themselves.  So here you have two desperate souls who just want someone, anyone and all normal approaches involving standards, respect or anything else are thrown out of the window just to say they have somebody in their life.

What seems to happen at times is that there are people who find their way into this "lifestyle", not because they are wired for D/s or M/s, but because they are so desperate to find someone and for that person not to leave them.  Some of them figure they can play the role of submissive/slave or dominant/master if it will alleviate the loneliness. 

So when even playing a role doesn't get them what they want, they come here and pontificate their one true wayisms and try to convince some naive passerby that this is how it is. 

Whatever......

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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 8:43:03 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

Okay, newbies.. listen up: Lesson 1. Old Guard was not some glorified leather blast from the past with a rich history of tradition and protocols. It was a bunch of gay guys looking to fuck or be fucked, suck or be sucked often with strangers and usually in biker bars where leather was worn for protection, not proclamation. Those guys were not referred to as slaves unless they were in an actual relationship and even that came later. They were bottoms, their counter-parts were tops and they absolutely had the right to pick and choose who they would let fuck them up the ass. They were not prim, they were not proper, they didn't raise their pinkies over tea. They slammed back beers, took poppers and hid in bars because it was the easiest way to get a piece of ass. They were in it to win it.. in other words, to get their rocks off, cum, splat, jizz all night long or whatever else you want to call it.. it was all about doing it and getting it done to you for the thrill of it all and heightened by drugs, mugs and slugs before going home to the little, clueless wife, snot-nosed rugrats and the three bedroom house with a 30 year mortgage. I don't know about other parts of the country, but in the Castro district of SF, CA, scads of sadomasochists would hang around BB's looking for jolly's and if they couldn't find them there, they'd hit up the parks, adult book stores and any glory holes that could manage to get drilled into the side of a bathroom stall.



This is about as true a reflection of the Old Guard as I have heard.... particularly in the beginning.... BTW... we are talking back in the 50-60 decades here and into the 70-80 decades.   Things didn't begin to change until AIDS!  When there numbers started to die from the risky if not reckless lifestyle that many if not most of them where living.  Death does have a way of changing the way people live!  Aids was a significant motivating factor to that change!

Another affect to change was the HET community itself.  but that is another story!

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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 9:30:18 AM   
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OMG you so rock Celeste!!!

Reminded me of Jack Rinella when he spoke about what Old Guard was/is and every bit as bluntly too!


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quote:

ORIGINAL: DominantDamsel

^^^Perhaps there is a significant communication gap occurring here, although we do not appear to be that far apart in age. For some, who are what used to be referred to as "old guard," this is the appropriate way to find and appeal to a slave, who is a slave in every sense of the word -- in terms of being "chattel." I don't believe the OP is actually implying that the slave need not be able to consent to becoming owned. He merely posed the question as to why slaves feel as if they are entitled to actually choose their owners when they are supposed to be chattel/property. I don't believe he is actually expecting to pick up a slave in a nonconsensual manner but it is good exposure for him to put his desires out there, which he has successfully done here. Despite the embarrassing hooplah that has occurred upon this thread, it could still possibly generate someone who actually gets it; so in this way, I can see how he could still come out ahead despite all the.. drama.


Well, I wasn't going to respond once I saw your warped idea of Old Guard, but after you threw the dictionary around I feel I need to set the record straight for any newbies out there that buy into this romantic bullshit.

Okay, newbies.. listen up: Lesson 1. Old Guard was not some glorified leather blast from the past with a rich history of tradition and protocols. It was a bunch of gay guys looking to fuck or be fucked, suck or be sucked often with strangers and usually in biker bars where leather was worn for protection, not proclamation. Those guys were not referred to as slaves unless they were in an actual relationship and even that came later. They were bottoms, their counter-parts were tops and they absolutely had the right to pick and choose who they would let fuck them up the ass. They were not prim, they were not proper, they didn't raise their pinkies over tea. They slammed back beers, took poppers and hid in bars because it was the easiest way to get a piece of ass. They were in it to win it.. in other words, to get their rocks off, cum, splat, jizz all night long or whatever else you want to call it.. it was all about doing it and getting it done to you for the thrill of it all and heightened by drugs, mugs and slugs before going home to the little, clueless wife, snot-nosed rugrats and the three bedroom house with a 30 year mortgage. I don't know about other parts of the country, but in the Castro district of SF, CA, scads of sadomasochists would hang around BB's looking for jolly's and if they couldn't find them there, they'd hit up the parks, adult book stores and any glory holes that could manage to get drilled into the side of a bathroom stall.

Now, some folks want you all to believe that there is a particular 'place' for a submissive, a certain kind of behavior that is expected .. well, there's not because, kiddies, there was no such thing as a 'submissive' back in those Ye Old Glorified, Old Guard days. Tops and bottoms, Masters and slaves and if you weren't gay, you weren't there. Period. Feel free to spin any sort of romantic bullshit onto raw, dirty, stanky sadomasochistic sex and call it what you will .. it's still raw, dirty, stanky SM sex and you can blind yourself to the past, but you can't change it.

Fast forward to 2009 - don yourself a cute little title with an appropriate toppy sort of word and you get the automatic booby prize of INSTANT RESPECT from anyone calling themselves a submissive or a slave despite the fact that no one knows your shit from your shinola ... or, you can join the real world, realize the diversity, take it off the cuff and do your own thing in your own way and maybe you'll find someone who wants to do it with you and maybe you won't but at least you'll be real, in all your foul, rude, sweet, formal or just natural self glory and that's what people will come to respect.. the real you and they won't tell you that you're a fake or a player or anything else because no one will be afraid to call it like they see it because they know you can, actually, handle the truth.

DD - How dare you come in here talking down to anyone from your ivory tower, denigrate PEOPLE and what they do and how they do it and how they behave because they don't fall into line with your way of thinking  .. then expect them to kiss your ass with your fake pronouncements and mutilated concepts of universal slavery and dictionary submission.

Fucking rude my ass. Take a look in the mirror, sister. I hope that cloak of hypocritic crap keeps you warm at night.









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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 10:14:56 AM   
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DAM!!!!


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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 10:46:55 AM   
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Slaves rise up and demand Owners! yeah i can see that one going over well.


We tried that once. A Master came along, saw us demanding Owners, rights, and hard limits, commanded us to kneel and *poof* there went the rebellion.
 
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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 10:53:07 AM   
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  Perhaps you could explain what his or her place actually is?  


 
I’m guessing it’s the SUB-way station!!!


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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 10:54:01 AM   
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Somehow it tends to go over better when you just beg for beatings and housework (wink)

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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 11:15:45 AM   
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Somehow it tends to go over better when you just beg for beatings and housework (wink)


*thumps head* So THAT'S where we went wrong! And here I was thinking that demanding is the way to go....
 
Oh and catize...a Subway restaurant?
 
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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 11:21:03 AM   
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Where did I say they were not people? Of course they are people..BUT AGAIN I SAY, by the actual def. of what a slave is they are ALSO property! They have no rights. The fact that no one owns them only means that they are available for ANYONE to own them. Back to the 1800s again. Were those cotton pickers not people? yet, they HAD no rights or privliges! What about prisoners? Do they not have their rights taken away? Yes, most of them have committed crimes, but it seems that practically every day we hear about someone innocent in prison that was put there wrongly. Are those innocent prisoners not legal slaves?


You may want to do some historical research on slavery..... slavery in the American south tended to be ugliest form of slavery historically  to have existed since the beginning of slavery  with the least amounts of rights and protection  which consists of about 300 year of history  a small fraction of the 4000 year time frame in which slavery has existed on earth.   so just as others say in BDSM  there is no one true way ...the same exists for slavery  there is great variances  between societies and cultures and with laws and releigions

Many societies did not allow owners total dominance/right over their slaves

Slavery existed long  before christ.... not all slaves were captives without a choice some gave themselves freely over to someone else or sold themselves into slavery...that meant they had CHOICES.   on who they where willing to sell themselves to or freely give themselves to. 

here is other info

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The slave usually had few rights and always fewer than his owner, but there were not many societies in which he had absolutely none.


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Slavery was a form of dependent labour performed by a nonfamily member. The slave was deprived of personal liberty and the right to move about geographically as he desired. There were likely to be limits on his capacity to make choices with regard to his occupation and sexual partners as well. Slavery was usually, but not always, involuntary. If not all of these characterizations in their most restrictive forms applied to a slave, the slave regime in that place is likely to be characterized as “mild”; if almost all of them did, then it ordinarily would be characterized as “severe.”

***even in slave societies they had LIMITS


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In a host of other societies, such as ancient and Roman Egypt, Babylonia, Assyria, Talmudic Palestine, Gortyn, much of medieval Germany, Thailand, Mongol and Ch'ing China, medieval Spain, and the northern Nigerian emirates, slaves had the right of property ownership. Some places, such as Rome, allowed slaves to accumulate, manage, and use property in a peculium that was legally revocable but could be used to purchase their freedom. This provision gave slaves an incentive to work as well as the hope of eventual manumission.
  

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In Muscovy, for example, a slave might have honour and could recover from a third party who injured his honour.


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A few societies, such as late Assyria and Muscovy, allowed slaves to testify in court, but most did not. It was a rare society that permitted a slave to serve as a witness against his owner, but some societies, such as ancient Nuzi and Muscovy, allowed slaves to testify against, even to sue, third parties. That was particularly likely to be the case when slaves played a major role in the society, because disputes could not be resolved by the freemen alone without resort to evidence provided by slaves.


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Many Islamic societies, broadly interpreting the Hebrew prescription, generally prescribed that slave owners had to free their slaves after the passage of a number of years,


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Some legal systems prescribed manumission when the slave adopted the religion of his owner.


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It should be noted, however, that in Rome manumission was relatively easy and was widely practiced, even though there was a 5 percent tax on manumission in the Republic, and the Lex Fufia Caninia of 2 BC forbade manumission by testament of more than a fifth to a half of one's slaves, depending on the number owned. In much of sub-Saharan Africa, manumission was common in most periods, and the freed person typically became a kind of relative in a process of assimilation.


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although the status of the slaves was uniformly lower than that of comparable free people in every society, the material and sometimes other conditions of slaves were frequently better than those of free people; thus it is not surprising that free people occasionally volunteered to be slaves


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In Africa, where most owners and slaves were black, lineage incorporation was the primary purpose of slavery, and in most societies slaves were allowed to participate in many aspects of social life


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Still other high-status slaves worked as merchants. Before the invention of the corporation, using slaves was one way to expand the family firm. The practice seems to have begun in Babylonia and was perpetuated in Rome, Spain, the Islamic world, China, and Africa. Slaves were entrusted with large sums of money and were given charge of long-distance caravans.


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A related function was concubinage, unquestionably one of the major uses of female slaves since the beginning of the institution and particularly prevalent in China. Some societies prescribed that a concubine who bore her owner children was to be freed; others, ranging from the ancient Middle East to the European Middle Ages, specified that the offspring of free–slave unions were to be freed.


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Hanbali Muslims stated that a slave could insist that his master provide him with a spouse, and Ming Chinese masters were obliged to choose mates for their female slaves when the latter were in their teens and for males around the age of 20. In Russia marriage between a free person and a slave was recognized legally, but according to one of the oldest Russian laws the free person became enslaved by marrying a slave.


above clips from this article on the history of slavery http://www.britannica.com/blackhistory/article-9109538

here is an article on Aztec slavery http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aztec_slavery

some clip from it

A slave could have possessions and even own other slaves. Slaves could buy their liberty, and slaves could be set free if they were able to show they had been mistreated or if they had children with or were married to their masters.

a slave could escape the vigilance of their master, run outside the walls of the market and step on a piece of human excrement, and then present their case to the judges, who would grant freedom

a master could not sell a slave without the slave's consent,

People could sell themselves as slaves. They could stay free long enough to enjoy the price of their liberty, about twenty blankets, usually enough for a year; after that time they went to their new master. Usually this was the destiny of gamblers and of old ahuini (courtesans or prostitutes).


You have narrowed your views on what is slavery based on a narrow time frame of slavery  based on one  slave owning society only

If you look at other slave societies you can find semblences to BDSM consentual slavery.







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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 11:35:29 AM   
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So.. is everyone here that claims the label of submissive or slave only submissive or slave-like in the bedroom, with whom one desires to be submissive or slave-like? So then this whole thing IS a roleplay after all, isn't it? It's only reserved for those who one chooses to "act like the label" with. So what does the label really mean then? This is nothing but a roleplaying GAME for many, it would appear. It's like a costume that can be taken on and off at will. It's not real. It's not truly their nature.

I am of the heterosexual persuasion, yet oddly enough, I don't tear the clothes off of every woman I see.  And there are days I'd like to!

I pick and choose when to bring forth different aspects of my personality, based on the objectives I want to achieve in the given situation.  For a submissive woman, to tell some guy in a bar, "Get your fucking hands off me," can be a survival skill, not a breach of protocol.  So too, there are times it's correct for me to smile and put up with something, instead of going all domly-womly.

It is the people who cannot see past the static unreality of confining roles who are really play-acting.  The world is not a game to me, and I choose to live in real life.


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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 11:40:22 AM   
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But I like it when you get all domly-womly Red. :(

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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 11:47:00 AM   
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ORIGINAL: BitaTruble

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ORIGINAL: DominantDamsel

^^^Perhaps there is a significant communication gap occurring here, although we do not appear to be that far apart in age. For some, who are what used to be referred to as "old guard," this is the appropriate way to find and appeal to a slave, who is a slave in every sense of the word -- in terms of being "chattel." I don't believe the OP is actually implying that the slave need not be able to consent to becoming owned. He merely posed the question as to why slaves feel as if they are entitled to actually choose their owners when they are supposed to be chattel/property. I don't believe he is actually expecting to pick up a slave in a nonconsensual manner but it is good exposure for him to put his desires out there, which he has successfully done here. Despite the embarrassing hooplah that has occurred upon this thread, it could still possibly generate someone who actually gets it; so in this way, I can see how he could still come out ahead despite all the.. drama.


Well, I wasn't going to respond once I saw your warped idea of Old Guard, but after you threw the dictionary around I feel I need to set the record straight for any newbies out there that buy into this romantic bullshit.

Okay, newbies.. listen up: Lesson 1. Old Guard was not some glorified leather blast from the past with a rich history of tradition and protocols. It was a bunch of gay guys looking to fuck or be fucked, suck or be sucked often with strangers and usually in biker bars where leather was worn for protection, not proclamation. Those guys were not referred to as slaves unless they were in an actual relationship and even that came later. They were bottoms, their counter-parts were tops and they absolutely had the right to pick and choose who they would let fuck them up the ass. They were not prim, they were not proper, they didn't raise their pinkies over tea. They slammed back beers, took poppers and hid in bars because it was the easiest way to get a piece of ass. They were in it to win it.. in other words, to get their rocks off, cum, splat, jizz all night long or whatever else you want to call it.. it was all about doing it and getting it done to you for the thrill of it all and heightened by drugs, mugs and slugs before going home to the little, clueless wife, snot-nosed rugrats and the three bedroom house with a 30 year mortgage. I don't know about other parts of the country, but in the Castro district of SF, CA, scads of sadomasochists would hang around BB's looking for jolly's and if they couldn't find them there, they'd hit up the parks, adult book stores and any glory holes that could manage to get drilled into the side of a bathroom stall.

Now, some folks want you all to believe that there is a particular 'place' for a submissive, a certain kind of behavior that is expected .. well, there's not because, kiddies, there was no such thing as a 'submissive' back in those Ye Old Glorified, Old Guard days. Tops and bottoms, Masters and slaves and if you weren't gay, you weren't there. Period. Feel free to spin any sort of romantic bullshit onto raw, dirty, stanky sadomasochistic sex and call it what you will .. it's still raw, dirty, stanky SM sex and you can blind yourself to the past, but you can't change it.

Fast forward to 2009 - don yourself a cute little title with an appropriate toppy sort of word and you get the automatic booby prize of INSTANT RESPECT from anyone calling themselves a submissive or a slave despite the fact that no one knows your shit from your shinola ... or, you can join the real world, realize the diversity, take it off the cuff and do your own thing in your own way and maybe you'll find someone who wants to do it with you and maybe you won't but at least you'll be real, in all your foul, rude, sweet, formal or just natural self glory and that's what people will come to respect.. the real you and they won't tell you that you're a fake or a player or anything else because no one will be afraid to call it like they see it because they know you can, actually, handle the truth.

DD - How dare you come in here talking down to anyone from your ivory tower, denigrate PEOPLE and what they do and how they do it and how they behave because they don't fall into line with your way of thinking  .. then expect them to kiss your ass with your fake pronouncements and mutilated concepts of universal slavery and dictionary submission.

Fucking rude my ass. Take a look in the mirror, sister. I hope that cloak of hypocritic crap keeps you warm at night.




Celeste, forgive me but that just made me HOT!! And want to grab you by the hair and do all sorts of fun wicked things with you!

going off to fan self......

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RE: Slaves with requirements... - 1/24/2009 11:54:52 AM   
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Red... somehow I think that a number of women would be standing in line!

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