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littleone35 -> Paying (1/23/2009 1:42:45 PM)
Whenever we go out my Master insists on paying for everything. Once he let me give him $10 for something. He does not even like when i buy stuff for him. For instance today he bought us bagels and coffee i was allowed to give him .25 cents he paid the rest. On our first meeting at Starbucks i got there before him so i got a drink he was a little annoyed he wanted to buy it for me. It does make me feel cherished and taken care of. I know it depends on what was agreed upon but do you have a Master/Dom/Daddy the does not let you pay for anything? Matt's littleone

Aileen1968 -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 1:45:08 PM)
Yup...He pays for everything. He's classy and old fashioned like that in my book. I'm allowed to bring him coffee from Dunkin and that's it.

akisha -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 2:07:00 PM)
Everything with us comes out of the same bank account, neither of us ever packs cash so it's never really been an issue. It's whomever pulls out their bank card first.

BeIgnited -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 2:34:48 PM)
He won't let me pay for almost anything. This caused a lot of friction at the beginning because I always felt guilty that he was paying for things. I'm not used to a "free lunch" so to speak. We've gotten to the point that if something is significantly cheaper if I pay for it--like there's a comedian performing at my school or a play they're putting on--because I'm a student here, then I'm allowed to pay.

oceanwynds -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 3:35:02 PM)
Most of the time he will pay, though occassionally he has permitted me to help buy groceries. When we go out to dinner he pays. We went on a day cruise and I had to pay for myself, which I proudly did. That was part of the lesson on my financial independence and learning to budget properly.

mc1234 -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 3:46:57 PM)
Yes, he pays for everything. He loves bringing my favorite cookies and water for us both, and he won't take a cent for anything. Beyond the money issue, which feels very gentlemanly to me, his buying me my favorite treat makes me feel very cared for. Sometimes it's the little things that count the most.

littlewonder -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 3:50:05 PM)
We both take turns. With the economy with the way it is I think it's only common sense that we share in money matters. Plus we're both on financial budgets due to our own different circumstances so this way we can have more fun together if we share.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 3:53:41 PM)
No. Daddy does not ever insist on paying for everything. quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 Whenever we go out my Master insists on paying for everything. Once he let me give him $10 for something. He does not even like when i buy stuff for him. For instance today he bought us bagels and coffee i was allowed to give him .25 cents he paid the rest. On our first meeting at Starbucks i got there before him so i got a drink he was a little annoyed he wanted to buy it for me. It does make me feel cherished and taken care of. I know it depends on what was agreed upon but do you have a Master/Dom/Daddy the does not let you pay for anything? Matt's littleone

torturedmuse -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 4:54:00 PM)
Yes, he pays for everything. I am a stay at home wife (slave), so that only seems logical. When I do work though..I usually take care of all of the money anyway. It goes in one acct, and I pay out of it. We don't really have too many things that are his and mine alone, most things are ours.

Sandyshores29718 -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 4:58:45 PM)
He does not like to let me pay for things. I bought lunch for us twice and come to find out he didn't care much for it. I'm the kind of girl that believes in paying for half or at least doing the tip, ect...So, its taking some getting use to, but its really nice.

KaylaBound -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 5:34:19 PM)
On our trips Sir pays for nearly every aspect. Hotel, gas, dinner, etc. I know Sir does this as a gentlemen, along with holding the door, flowers, and the likes. At times I feel uncomfortable as I am not used to this type of behavior but I know it is done with good intentions. Also I have little money to spend on leisurely activities and without his help the amount of trips I could take with him would be lessened greatly. On our latest trip of three days I bought one lunch. Sir knows what I can aford and if this were to change so would my responsibilities. I have been self suficient my entire life not allowing help even in my worst of times but I feel that in this situation it is a necessary evil if we wish to continue. The rewards far out weigh the downfalls.

ISOHOH49 -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 7:00:19 PM)
Count your blessing, because there are more than enoungh out there that would be more than happy to let you pay for everything. This one guy that was talking with for 3 months, said as my Master he would allow me to continue to work and pay all our living expense. What a great guy.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 7:32:30 PM)
Nope. I'm often expected to provide service through money.

BondageBarbieX -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 7:50:30 PM)
Yes my late MasterDaddy paid for everything and so does my current Daddy ... I would never pay for anything anyway...I am old fashioned like that plus I am spoiled rotten and I love it [:)]

aravain -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 8:10:50 PM)
Anyone I'm with better expect me to pay around half of whatever we get when we're together. I don't like leeching, and I don't like being leeched off of, which is what it would feel like to me. Also I'm really funny/weird about money. Even if it's negligible I usually keep a 'tally' in my head. I'm, like, scared half to death that I might owe someone something, thanks to the lessons my grandmother used to teach me about money. It's part of the reason I cut up my credit card and threw it away, recently. Still haven't told my mother about that, and she's asked where it is a couple of times >.> I dunno, I hate having the feeling that I 'owe' someone, which is what letting them pay for me ALL the time does. I also hate how I get when I feel someone owes me, so I generally try to keep it even-steven when I can.

AquaticSub -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 8:39:00 PM)
I used to pay for most things because we started dating in college. For all intents and purposes, I had an income and he didn't. Now his income vastly outdoes mine and he pays for just about everything. For us it's not a "taking care of me" thing it's a "taking care of us" thing, if that makes sense.

kyraofMists -> RE: Paying (1/23/2009 8:49:45 PM)
He uses the money in a way that best serves the family. Tonight the three of us went out to dinner and when the cheque came, he handed it to me and told me to pay for it "out of my K account". For the most part, the money that is brought into the house from my job is used for our entertainment and fun. The money he brings into the house is for our living expenses. He makes the decisions on how it is used. That he has and exercises the authority within the relationship is what makes me feel loved, cherished and taken care of. Knight's Kyra

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: Paying (1/24/2009 1:24:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Nope. I'm often expected to provide service through money. I love the way you say it... Without making any type of service a dirty word. M

Focus50 -> RE: Paying (1/24/2009 3:30:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: littleone35 Whenever we go out my Master insists on paying for everything. Once he let me give him $10 for something. He does not even like when i buy stuff for him. For instance today he bought us bagels and coffee i was allowed to give him .25 cents he paid the rest. On our first meeting at Starbucks i got there before him so i got a drink he was a little annoyed he wanted to buy it for me. It does make me feel cherished and taken care of. I know it depends on what was agreed upon but do you have a Master/Dom/Daddy the does not let you pay for anything? Yep, when I'm dating, the girl's money is no good. Only exception is if she's a smoker, in which case she supports her own bad habits in the interim but, for long term prospects, she'll be quitting soon, anyway.... Focus.

Zechriel -> RE: Paying (1/24/2009 4:40:07 AM)
Good morning! Mostly Daddy pays for things, offering money or extra groceries for me to take. But there are alot of times where we will buy things the other needs-like at wholesale clubs or JC Penny's-and we will pay each other back. I think it just has to do with the situation. The cutest part is when he slips me money to pick up a fast food snack on the way home, or something for my kids to munch on if we come by. And by the same token I can drop off homemade pies and things for him. It's so wonderful to spoil Daddy and yet also be spoiled, I love it!!! Love, Zechriel [sm=couple.gif]

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