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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/18/2006 12:30:01 AM

Petruchio

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I know, it's the same old sob story of a jilted Domme.

Doesn't it seem that dom-Fs are doomed to a life of masochism?

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/18/2006 1:39:55 PM

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Hi Lucky,

Sorry if I missed something, I am kinda not reading the whole thing. But I wanted to express my condolences anyway.

I can tell you all the truths about how life sux, and people are mean but it doesn't mend the heart break.

Just realize that you come accross as a real person here, not one of the BS artists. And sooner or later you will cross paths with somebody who is a good fit for you. It might not be tomorrow, and it might not be here on CM, but if you keep looking with a positive attitude, I think you can go far.

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/19/2006 12:39:47 AM

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Dont feel to bad i had this happen with someone who thought they where a domme i moved in with them they were flirting with another sub behind my back. was told lots of lies and gave up a lot for nothing i have every right to be bitter but in this lifestyle the continuty of loyalty is very loose so i just try to swallow things with a grain of salt and move on but i never forget and i am always leary of like personalites huggles

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/20/2006 5:12:40 AM

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Hi MrDom here just wondering how did you leave it with him? did you arrange to meet at a later date? In any case if he has'nt bothered to contact you it's kinda rude, there are plenty of others out here! Hope you find what your looking for...

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/20/2006 9:05:11 PM

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i wanted to add something about what nuke said there is never a good fit never a 100 percent it all takes work just finding two people that want to stick it out in thick and thin is a hard thing when its right and works its hard to even protect cause everyone wants to judge or take it apart or be competive loyalty is or should be a must among dom dommes and subs only thing i know is give your best do the right thing at least have satisfaction that there is always going to be another door and a better one take the lessons from the last one and avoid the bad ones it makes you wiser to say i now know that difference between a good person and a bad one one that will fight for true love and bonding not for being a fashion statment or just sex gratification but something deeper and richer be step above and beyond

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/20/2006 9:37:15 PM

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This is very common experience. I do sympathize with your hurt and can offer a few pointers that may be helpful to you.

#1 Do not invest major emotions into people you have not met in real time.

#2 If you arrange a face to face initial meeting, always have a backup plan;
seeing a movie, going shopping, etc. And bring something to read. Having
a book or magazine with you makes your waiting less obvious to restaurant
staff and gives you a distraction.

#3 Have a time limit on the waiting. If they do not show up or at least call my cell
phone to say they are nearby but got lost and I have to give them more
directions within 30 minutes, then it is time to go so something else.

#3 Learn to size up people quickly during that initial meeting. Patience, practice and
repeated experience will help you differentiate the folks with decent manners from
the ones who have none. And if they do show up, remember that fantasy
and reality are two very different experiences. A person that seems great Online
or during phone conversations can have zero chemistry with you in person. That is
not a negative reflection on either party, it just works out that way sometimes and
you can still decide to be friends.

Regards,

Vendaval

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/20/2006 9:58:06 PM

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but Vendaval some are also well praticed liars as well they can read you and adapt those are hard to spot but can be i think you said it best time never rush :)

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/20/2006 10:30:05 PM

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True, there are certain individuals who are highly intelligent, manipulative and deceptive.
Because of previous negative experiences in this life, I have become adept at spotting them. For someone without that extra bit of self-preservation instincutal urges, remember to go slow and pay attention to both actions and words.

Caveat Emptor,

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but Vendaval some are also well praticed liars as well they can read you and adapt those are hard to spot but can be i think you said it best time never rush :)

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/20/2006 10:58:47 PM

galsdelight

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It is sad when the actions of the few can affect how W/we view future candidates.
I am very careful to the point of seeming standoffish when it came to meeting potential Doms but I always decided if they were true to their preachings and my safety and wellbeing was paramount then meeting at a club or munch is easier, at least if they chicken out or neither of U/us are compatible the likelyhood of finding another like minded person is more likely.
This is something that can work (and have heard from some) for Dom/mes also.
We are all humans outside O/our Lifestyle and humans as such are nowhere least perfect than when it comes to searching for another

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RE: Kinda upset. - 1/23/2006 11:01:20 AM

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I think one of the problems is that because the internet is so big and easy to get onto, anyone who can, will. So there are any number of people online who are just messing about. People are not always honest, thats obvious, I know but the point is they were dishonest towards -you- and that stings.

Im sorry you were treated like that, I hope you dont give up and find what you are looking for in the end.

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