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Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/27/2009 6:13:37 PM

Underumam

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Older male subbies- younger Dommes.
or
Older male Doms- younger female subbies
or
Younger male Doms- older female subbies..........

What's your take/experiences? I prefer close to, or older than me just because it's real, and it's difficult to be truly inferior to one who's much younger..But then again, I could be completely wrong..lol.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/27/2009 7:33:49 PM

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I am sure there will be before long many variations on a theme.

I seek someone close to My age. I do not think someone drastically younger can fully share in the many interests, experiences, history and challenges someone My age has.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/27/2009 7:45:19 PM

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I know there are all variations that work...my preference is to be involved with dominants close to my age...being a mother/grandmother I can't mentally get into the idea of being dominated by someone close to my sons age especially considering we are at such different stages of our lives..and I find those that are beyond 10 years I really find interest wise we don't have much in common generally

I am looking for a relationship partner rather than simply a play partner as such therefore that plays a large role in my preferences

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/27/2009 7:48:46 PM

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If I am just playing with someone, age isn't really an issue with me. If I am looking for a relationship, then I want her to be close to my own age. I am sure there are exceptions out there, but I haven't met her yet.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/27/2009 8:26:23 PM

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They're all 22. I don't know why but they all are. 22 is younger then me and I have a fear I'm going to wake up 40 and they still are going to be 22.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 4:47:45 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SunNMoon

They're all 22. I don't know why but they all are. 22 is younger then me and I have a fear I'm going to wake up 40 and they still are going to be 22.

I hope that was a joke, because I was laughing my ass off..lol. (if not I apologise)

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 5:58:54 AM

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For play? I have done demos for a class with people 30+ years older than me and people just barely legal. Was it good, yes! I enjoy bottoming for newbies with someone with practice teaching them what and where. Actually it makes me feel really "subby" because of the dynamic and getting to Dom-hog.
For relationship, well it really depends on the person. I have had very meaningful relationship with people 15 years younger than me and people 15 years older than me. To me, the relationship is about the shared time together, not so much about the similar life experiences from before we met. The relationships have a different "flavor" when they are age similar or age different but the love and respect is still there and young or old, they all have something to teach and to learn and funny stories to share.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 6:10:50 AM

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alysia's Master is four years younger than her. Ok, so it's not a great deal of difference but usually would have gone for an older dom. When we first got to know each other alysia did think He was older going by His 'maturity', mannerisms and speech, so when she found out His age, was quite shocked that He turned out to be younger than her but by that time it didn't really matter.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 6:19:48 AM

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We've never found chronological age to matter much. There may be different flavors to interactions with someone much younger, or much older, than we are, but we enjoy both.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 6:43:38 AM

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My relationship preference has always been for older men. For friendship and play, age isn't really a factor.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 6:53:55 AM

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My husband and I are 29 and 27, respectively, and we've found that we generally wind up playing with older folks - 40's and 50's, but that's fine by us. I think he enjoys being able to top a slightly older woman (the power trip, I imagine, is immense with that) and on the occasion when I can top an older gal sub, I, too, find it very exciting. And being topped by an older male is just....*sighs happily* neat.....

The gal who introduced us both to the scene, though, is 4 years younger than I, but that's also fun, fresh, and exciting to play with her.

Age, in general, not an issue with us, as long as you are able to shower and brush your teeth, it's all good.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 6:55:41 AM

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i think we all think we have a preference, but it the end its the chemistry that has the choice. I myself would prefer someone 5 to 1o years older than me. As i would find it hard to be a bottom to someone younger. But is'nt that the point? To summit to anyone who is a domme. i think being straight, bi or gay, is the only really preference.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 7:57:01 AM

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If i was just going to play (which i don't) age would not be an issue. When i was looking for a relationship i looked for an older Dom. I have always liked older men, my Master is 19 years older then me. We have so much in common though. We are a perfect fit.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 8:54:12 AM

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I don't believe that inferior has anything to do with any submissive or submission I have or get. My submissive is simply different than I am. I am not a superior to inferior.

I prefere close in age for many reasons... family, vanilla and just 'getting' one another. I have seen exceptions to maturity levels and such... but they are a real exception. I don't want someone I could have birthed and I want someone who can still get it up. (smile)

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 9:41:01 AM

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I tend to prefer men a few years older than me. I'm not quite sure if it's a preference that will stick with me as I age, or simply a reflection of my own youth - men my age or younger tend to be immature. (For that matter, I'm sure some of you would argue than men five or ten years older than me are still immature.) I've always formed friendships with people a few years older than me, and some of the same qualities that make a man a suitable play partner also make him a good friend.

Men my own age also tend to be completely inexperienced, and although I've toned my play down a bit, I always worry that I'm going to be too rough and scare someone away from BDSM.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 9:44:35 AM

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Age doesn't matter at all to me. However, there may be some correlation between age and other things that might matter. I think that generally, when people talk about age, what they're really doing is using age as a proxy for other concerns: physical attractiveness, experience, shared culture, etc.

Physical attraction is crucial to me; my submissive desires aren't stirred at all unless I'm sexually attracted to a domina. The relationship could be non-sexual, but the attraction has to be there, or I have no desire to submit in any way. Personally, I'm attracted to physically active, well-toned athletic and/or slender bodies that tend to be more prevalent among younger people. With that in mind, statistically speaking only, I'm more likely to fit with a younger domina.

Experience tends to be positively correlated with age, and is something that many people want in a domina. It doesn't matter much to me. There's some advantage to a domina being experienced and really knowing what she's doing, but I see advantages for an inexperienced domina also. I like the idea of a domina using her accumulated knowledge and wiles to control me, but I also like the idea of being a guinea pig for a less-experienced domina as she experiments and learns.

The only other things that matter to me dominant personality/nature and compatible interests. I don't think those are correlated with age at all.

Of course, she has to be interested in me as well. I find that a lot of people simply won't even take a look at someone who's over some specified age. That means that a lot of younger dominas that I'd be interested in wouldn't consider me. That's perfectly understandable, and it makes sense for them to focus on what they want. However, it can be frustrated when people make assumptions based on age, when you're somebody who doesn't fit the mold. Pre-conceived notions about physical appearance and attitudes correlated with age often eliminate consideration of individuals who don't fit those pre-conceived notions.

I try not to do that, and to focus on the underlying concerns that matter instead of the proxy of age. So, taking all those considerations into account, I'm statistically more likely to fall for a younger (than me) domina, but I'd be perfectly happy with an older one if the "things that matter" are there.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 11:08:55 AM

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I just wish there were older doms who look younger.

As far as a younger dom 'looking' older, he is still young and has no clue.

So, I'm screwed (or not).

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 12:04:13 PM

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Why do you have to be inferior? If you really aren't as good at her at anything, then what use can you be? If she's the better cook and has to cook all the meals, and better money manager and has to do that for you, and better gardener so has to do all the yardwork etc. I hope you see my point. If you are truly inferior in everything then why would she value you? What good would inferior service be?

Beyond that, if you find you just don't have chemistry with someone your own age or younger, that's your preference and that's fine. You need what you need and we click with the people we click with.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 12:18:26 PM

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Age doesn't matter one whit to me in the big picture. I just seem to attract the younger women and I am okay with that.

The factors that are important to me have nothing to do with age, but may be affected by life experiences. Things like...I don't really want to live with children ever again. I don't want a slave that thinks the way their past mistress did things is the only "correct" way. I don't want someone that needs an active nightlife. I don't want a dramallama, energy vampire.

And yes, if they want a sexual service relationship, I have got to be sexually attracted to them.

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RE: Older Dommes/ younger male subbies- or - 1/28/2009 2:21:25 PM

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I prefer younger for any sort of intimate relationship. I've dated people older than me and close to my age (a few months to two years either way). I was bored out of my mind. I find younger people more adaptable (i.e. less set in their ways), and more vivacious. Which is good for me, because I tend to be a hermit. I need someone to help provide balance. Plus, I'm generally not physically attracted to anyone over the age of 35, though there are some notable exceptions.

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