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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/6/2009 2:56:44 PM

MasterLark

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I suspect that life experience is more the culprit here , than an age factor . Some folks lead relatively sheltered lives - most of their lives . Or they have little exposure to the internet . Or are minimally curious about learning much outside their own immediate world.

Occasionally , I've seen this sort of "clueless" come on in a wide range of ages - and both genders. None of them get very far ! Ugh.

Congratulations. Yes, you are correct, as all the posts validate, it is life experience, not age specifically. So if the OP's question was -- Does life experience have anything to do with it? -- the answer would be yes.

That said, part of life experience for some is never to learn how to develop a good relationship, and for others it is about what they take away from many relationships and what they are willing to settle for and fight for or not waste time on. Good people focus on taking the time to cultivate a relationship and learning from life experience, they make better choices.

The more life experience I have, I notice that I make different choices, yet affirm the values (including BDSM values) I hold dear consistently.

I regret anyone being exposed to jerks, idiots, arrogant fools, and lazy sonofabitches, and too often many of them were that way in their teens.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/6/2009 8:59:49 PM

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I wouldn't turn a 70 year old woman down.

Their skin is so soft...

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/6/2009 9:35:34 PM

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hehe good for you...let's see, who's famous and 70-ish...Ali MacGraw, Claudia Cardinale, Connie Stevens, Diana Rigg, Liv Ullmann, Stella Stevens...

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/6/2009 9:56:41 PM

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lots of interesting theories. As an old geezer of 57 if I contact someone it is respectfully. I search my age group first and work backwards. slim pickins for subs my age.   Maybe because of the grim reaper who knows. The last subs I have been with have all been in 30's to 40s. Not because I wanted younger women but because nothing clicked in my age bracket and as I worked back in age things clicked. Some women like older men. some older women like younger men.
I have chatted a with a few younger women who wanted to challenge my bona fides as a Dom because I didn't start my email with "kneel bitch" BDSM is a realtionship. Like any relationship it starts with two people who have specific needs. there needs to be some neutral interations to see if the needs are compatible.   Then you can move on to the lifestyle part. there are young women who enjoy baiting older men. string us a long like they are interested. I don't it's just the way things are. If you are straight forward and honest then that is what counts. From what I have been told, men of all ages come on like asshats. sorry you seemed to get all the older ones. Maybe some old guys have bad manners and some are desperate. there are desperate young guys too and with manners no better. Maybe because the young guys look hotter they get more slack on their bad manners. It's not the age. it's the person.
I will continue to be respectful, even when I know they are jerking my chain. Bad manners from someone else doesn;t excuse bad manners from me. And there is no expiration date other than death. many retirement home have people in their 80's still gettin it on.   Of course I doubt if they do much lifestyle play ;)
it's nice to be young and full of piss and vinegar. and it's nice to be old enough to know what to do with the piss and vinegar. it's not the old, it's the guys.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/6/2009 9:58:21 PM

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damn I hope it list me as nilla cause it's my first post!

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 6:27:04 AM

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ORIGINAL: Dennis157

lots of interesting theories. As an old geezer of 57 if I contact someone it is respectfully. I search my age group first and work backwards. slim pickins for subs my age.   Maybe because of the grim reaper who knows. The last subs I have been with have all been in 30's to 40s. Not because I wanted younger women but because nothing clicked in my age bracket and as I worked back in age things clicked. Some women like older men. some older women like younger men.
I have chatted a with a few younger women who wanted to challenge my bona fides as a Dom because I didn't start my email with "kneel bitch" BDSM is a realtionship. Like any relationship it starts with two people who have specific needs. there needs to be some neutral interations to see if the needs are compatible.   Then you can move on to the lifestyle part. there are young women who enjoy baiting older men. string us a long like they are interested. I don't it's just the way things are. If you are straight forward and honest then that is what counts. From what I have been told, men of all ages come on like asshats. sorry you seemed to get all the older ones. Maybe some old guys have bad manners and some are desperate. there are desperate young guys too and with manners no better. Maybe because the young guys look hotter they get more slack on their bad manners. It's not the age. it's the person.
I will continue to be respectful, even when I know they are jerking my chain. Bad manners from someone else doesn;t excuse bad manners from me. And there is no expiration date other than death. many retirement home have people in their 80's still gettin it on.   Of course I doubt if they do much lifestyle play ;)
it's nice to be young and full of piss and vinegar. and it's nice to be old enough to know what to do with the piss and vinegar. it's not the old, it's the guys.

Good first post. Welcome to the boards.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 6:29:25 AM

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I don't think it's slim pickins. I'm in your age group but not in your geographical group. I think that's more the problem than anything.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 6:37:12 AM

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I stand corrected. bad demographics in My area.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 11:05:18 AM

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What I have not seen and probably missed in the posts is the misunderstanding of SOME older people. I always look to the psychological matter because that is my profession. What many people refuse to see is that many of these older people are trying to relive their younger days. Anyone ever hear of the midlife crisis? Of course you have, however, if someone who is 70 y/o is out contacting people, perhaps they are merely trying to get someone to talk to, who will remind them of days gone by.

As you get older, ones communication lines dwindle and with that, so does the common sense that we young folk are use to seeing. I'm 40+ and have known even an 87 year old dominant who loved watching slave girls dance because it took him back to a better time in his life that he loved so well. Did he ever have sex with these slaves, no...it was just a release of his current prison (old age) for a mere few moments that made him feel young again.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 11:20:30 AM

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I am not trying to relive my younger days because I cannot and know it. I am living for TODAY with the person that will live it with me. I have always been active. midlife crises guys suddenly realize they aren't young and try to make up for it. I ride the same fast motorcycles I did when i was young and am still sexually active without the help of meds. I am just enjoying whatever life I have left. remember, sometimes a cigar is JUST a cigar. though if you are lucky it is a damn fine smoke.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 11:21:58 AM

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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Hey, I am feeling positive ancient now! And, since my girl is 23.........like an old pervert.

~nudges you good-naturedly~ I've got you beat on the age, lovely one. But...~grins and winks~ you ARE a perv.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 11:55:42 AM

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LOL I can't wait until you get to be in your 50's !!! Let's just see how OLD you think you are... LMAO...

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 5:53:22 PM

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Not sure about a midlife crisis, I was 45 when I stopped playing with boys toys in combat zones and only stopped when I stopped healing quickly and saw my reflexes slowing down thus placing others at risk. Still did some armed security locally for a few years until injuries caught up and I developed osteoarthritis. Most of the folks I mix with are in their early 30s to 50ish, simply because I have more in common in what I like to do than those around here closer to my age. I’m drawn to a person for what they are inside and not due to an age thing. Age hasn’t daunted my sex drive just ED had effected my physical ability to do things as I used to..(T 2 diabetes and my smoking has a great deal to do with that too). It is not in my makeup to be crass or crude when approaching someone (and I usually have a good idea that we could hit it off)I just have very old fashion ideas about propriety and good manners. No excuse for bad manners.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 6:16:00 PM

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With time, intelligence and personality will determine who follows who around more than anything else.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 6:20:51 PM

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I agree! But, this has been my expierence with men of all ages. They see all these web pages with all this exciting (false) information and they come here thinking all they have to do is say I am a Dom or I am a slave and women in numbers will wisk them away to some beautiful red velvet dungeon and do them all kinds of erotic things... all in leather corsets. So when the first thing I hear is Mistress I want you to do ____ to me and ____ to me I just stop talking to them.

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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

I'm probably gong to get flamed here but I offer a qualifier "many..not all"

Being from that age bracket here is what I've seen, they are divorced, widowed or cheating--they have heard through the ever reliable internet grapevine tha all they have to do is claim an orientation and bam!

Profess Dominance and a bevvy of lusting nubile women will fall to their knees, proclaim you Master of their domain and be attentive to their cocks 24/7,-- living naked and never questioning authority---I mean what else is there ya know?

Profess Submission and a bevvy of hot stiletto heeled, busty financially secure babes will collar them, take them home, relieve them of all life obligations, take on theor debt and their baggage and spend the day playing lasso the winkie---never asking anything more, well maybe oral service then lasso the winkie----I mean what else is there ya know? ( oh and I find more of the Dominants in this age bracket "are really submissive but didn't want any one to know"...

Its become the latest testerone game in town--annoying as hell, IMHO.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 6:24:35 PM

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/7/2009 6:49:38 PM

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Sometimes, I guess, they just say fuck it to common sense, and dancing around the subtleties.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/8/2009 5:46:42 AM

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ORIGINAL: naswitch

I'd say you have been exceedingly lucky not to get the same (old) stuff from the young ones. But if you think deception is a good thing, more power to you. I like to know the whole truth up front and if the idiot is an idiot or an Awhole or whatever else it is, I'd rather see it in spades than hear the babies lies and cries.
That is not to say older folks don't lie, but neither the lying nor the straight up bullshit is good in my book.
Deception doesn't do it for me. Yep, that's experience speaking.

edited to add that I don't think it's the age so much as the individual

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/8/2009 7:17:51 AM

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Getting older has a tendency to play strange tricks on you so that you might start doing stupid things. I am in my early 40s, and I'm starting to feel really old. The other day, I was in a Korean restaurant and I noticed the CCTV, and one angle actually showed me the top of my head was balding. I panicked and went out and bought a ball cap to wear. Never did that before. Was never self conscious about anything like that. But did it almost immediately. I would think there are probably a lot of other things that older people start doing because they don't want to face the fact they're getting older. I still think I'm 20 in my interactions with people. It takes a moment like that for me to realize I'm really not.

Yeah, not exactly completely topic specific, but the OP topic really reminded me of that moment a few days ago.

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RE: Does age have anything to do with it? - 2/8/2009 1:41:19 PM

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The following does not refer to specific people (unless you recognize yourself in it) or specific types of people (again, if you recognize yourself .. your problem).
There are a lot of posers and cock roosters out there that honestly think if they proclaim themselves a DOM, women will drop to their knees and they have their choice of them to build a harem. They honestly think that women do not have a brain and will be overwhelmed by their maleness. It doesn't matter what age they are, it crosses all age boundaries.
There are also a lot of women out there who think they can get a guy to support them by being a sub/slave/Domme. By allowing themselves to fill this roll, they can hide in an artificial world and not worry about other things. Male subs, sorry, some are my good friends, but I really haven't figured them out yet.

So I agree there are a lot of fakes or people who see it as a way to get something, they have been unable to get another way. But, I see it in all ages.

I have also met some very authentic people on here. I don't always agree with them, but I do respect them. I've made a lot of good friends on here. So, it's a mess out there. The term "buyer beware" has never been more applicable. That is really the sad state of affairs.

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