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DominaSmartass -> "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/6/2009 10:37:34 PM)
So I heard this line earlier tonight and it drove me to post! How can a married man rant about how all the "dommes" are fakes and pros when he openly admits to being married, looking to "serve" behind his wife's back? It boggles my mind! The logic bombs are exploding left and right and there's no convincing men like this that those of us who are not making money off it are not likely to put all that time and effort into a man who belongs to someone else already. Sigh...another day, another rant.

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 12:23:55 AM)
Everyone wants what he/she wants, and he has as much of a right to rant I guess as anyone. Like you, I think he's a little out of touch with reality, but that is only because of my own boundaries/standards being similar to yours. There are people who seek play partners, which in no way involves physical intimacy (kissing, or any type of sex), and they find married men perfectly useful, even if he is lying to wife. In my observation, many will play with or be served by married men, as long as wife also knows. Most would direct a cheat to a professional. I would not, knowingly get involved with a married and cheating man. I met a wonderful human being once, and wanted to play with him, but couldn't bring myself to, even though I knew that his wife was aware and okay with it. Some days, I wish I could have played with him, and have him for occasional... M

YoursMistress -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 12:35:48 AM)
I am in the process of divorce, with a draft agreement in review and a revision pending. I am not trying to fool anyone. While I legally have the barest of commitments outstanding, neither have I promised anything more than friendship in the interim. yours

Nikitaa -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 3:51:31 AM)
But married men are sooooo cute

sirsholly -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 4:11:32 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Nikitaa But married men are sooooo cute looks at hubby...sleeping with his mouth open, snoring like he is downing a small rain forest cute? [8\|]

Nikitaa -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 4:12:44 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly quote: ORIGINAL: Nikitaa But married men are sooooo cute looks at hubby...sleeping with his mouth open, snoring like he is downing a small rain forest cute? [8\|] Cute like baby. LOL

CatdeMedici -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 4:18:06 AM)
Obviously someone isn't getting what he wants so he's pouting. Personally I don't have the interest or the energy to waste on guys like that--trying to either convince them I'm not a Pro or convince them their cheaters--sooner or later Mistress Reality is going to give him a good hard smack and She's a better pro than I could ever be!

MistressAinCT -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 5:03:12 AM)
As a married woman (who's husband knows, btw) I used to only take married men because I figure if anything went wrong we would both have something to lose. Then I woke up. I got tired of the hang ups when we spoke on the phone and the sudden disappearance offline when wifey walked into the room. I was tired of talking at 12 AM because that's when she slept and he could go online and the kids were in bed and..... For the most part, married men can't serve, they aren't always available, and they are just plain selfish. I HAVE known exceptions-those men who's wives do know and accept, but the rarity of that is enormous. And if only pros exist on CM, then why not go somewhere else? The fact is most of the Domina want someone who is available, and most of us sadists want people we can mark. I used to hear, "I am a masochist-but don't mark me". I hate to admit this, but I have yet to figure out how to NOT MARK a masochist who wants more, more, more! I am sure this guy will find someone on here to play with for free, someone HE can control because HE is married. :::stepping off soap box:::::

Madame4a -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 5:07:57 AM)
that one I can live with.. as I'll simply say.. 'next...' I think what bothers me is the married man who tries to convince me (after he's revealed his status NOT up front) that he can serve me completely... my suggestion is, its highly unlikely that someone married can be availalbe in any real way to serve... and I don't particularly feel like having my relationship controlled by some woman I don't know, who doesn't know me or what is going on... quote: ORIGINAL: DominaSmartass So I heard this line earlier tonight and it drove me to post! How can a married man rant about how all the "dommes" are fakes and pros when he openly admits to being married, looking to "serve" behind his wife's back? It boggles my mind! The logic bombs are exploding left and right and there's no convincing men like this that those of us who are not making money off it are not likely to put all that time and effort into a man who belongs to someone else already. Sigh...another day, another rant.

Madame4a -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 5:08:57 AM)
whoops.. I repeated what you said.. grin great minds think alike

LaTigresse -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 5:11:55 AM)
I've an excellent suggestion. You take the husbands, I'll take the wives. They will then be too busy to try and control their husbands!![:D] The rest of the family is going to have to go to a babysitter or something though................

LadyPact -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 5:57:27 AM)
This isn't against the rant, per se. I happen to think the rant is valid. I do think that those in the married and looking to <cough> serve on the side often get a case of sour grapes because it's a rude awakening when they find out that the term "Dominant female" doesn't translate into "willing to fuck any male who's willing to put his ass in the air." Oddly enough, many think the work kinky also means devoid of any morals or standards. It's disappointing for them when they find out we're not just horny women willing to screw anything that walks. With that said, there really are some married men out there who do have the consent from the wife to play, serve, etc and these can be good situations for those of us who are married ourselves. I've never had a problem arise because clip has had marks on him (in fact, he's branded) because his wife was upset or an issue because My husband knew I was with him. Our dynamic doesn't operated that way and never has. It's always been open with everyone knowing what's going on and there haven't been any issues. I do realize this makes our little family the exception to the rule, but please remember that we do exist.

Madame4a -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 6:00:17 AM)
Very nice to see you as I was just thinking about you this morning.. grin funny that... I agree.. and I thought about it as I was typing my post.. I am NOT against married men as a group at all.. but I'll admit, I've come across very few that really do have the consent of the wife. When they tell me that, I respond with, "then I'll be speaking with her at some point, yes?" ... they disappear at that point.. grin again, your words are always well worth the read Missus...

sirsholly -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 6:01:22 AM)
quote: I do think that those in the married and looking to serve on the side often get a case of sour grapes because it's a rude awakening when they find out that the term "Dominant female" doesn't translate into "willing to fuck any male who's willing to put his ass in the air." Oddly enough, many think the work kinky also means devoid of any morals or standards. It's disappointing for them when they find out we're not just horny women willing to screw anything that walks. I agree. It never fails to make me roll my eyes when a married man decides to cheat on his wife and is SHOCKED to find there is not a harem of women willing to flop on their backs in utter joy.

DarkSteven -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 6:15:42 AM)
Lessee now... there are fifty million available sub men in the country, and forty eight available Dommes. Kinda lets the Dommes be picky. No wonder the pay-for-play Dommes are the only ones replying.

thishereboi -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 6:29:00 AM)
What makes you think the women replying are pro's? Do you actually know any of them? Did you even bother to read their profiles before you wrote that?

FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 6:45:25 AM)
I think he means, they are the only ones replying to the cheating man in the rant, not those of us replying here... The only reason I'm thinking that, though it isn't what he wrote, is that he doesn't know us, and we are not pay for play types. M

T1981 -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 6:51:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sirsholly It never fails to make me roll my eyes when a married man decides to cheat on his wife and is SHOCKED to find there is not a harem of women willing to flop on their backs in utter joy. Makes me thank my lucky stars that I am 1) not a domme and 2) part of an established couple in which both of us are seeking partners. If those two elements were different, I'm sure I'd be dealing with this particular headache way more often. It is funny, though, to think about all those poor, sad, frustrated men who think that just because we're kinky we're willing to help them cheat....silly boys!

DarkSteven -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 6:56:38 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1 I think he means, they are the only ones replying to the cheating man in the rant, not those of us replying here... The only reason I'm thinking that, though it isn't what he wrote, is that he doesn't know us, and we are not pay for play types. M Bingo, M. Thanks for the explanation.

LadyPact -> RE: "I'm married...and all the dommes on CM are pros" (2/7/2009 7:11:13 AM)
Hello Madame4a. I was just telling clip that the CM folks have been wondering where in the world I've been. LOL. Thank you for thinking of Me. The funny thing is, I happen to be 'harder' on married people on most fronts. I absolutely refuse to be any part of the behind the back thing because I know that there are those of us doing this who don't have to do that. I couldn't function like that. I want this life to be as much fun as can be had. It's kind of hard to do that when looking over one's shoulder.

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