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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:14:31 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

At least every week seems like, someone is ranting about being "took", about I "twusted" them--etc etc etc--so maybe this thread will help--or not.
 
When you read a profile, how much do you believe?  I know for Me if there is a long list of expert, I'm turned off--been there done that bought that t-shirt and sent it home on the train. If the profile is blank, nope---screams to Me troller. I have the boy now, not because of what was IN his profile, but what I learned was NOT--but it also wasn't filled with blankness or Mr Macho with the silver tongue and the ever protruding dick tatooed with a list of do-me's.
 
 
So how much do you believe? What is it that makes you go, hmmmm--possibility?


I tend to read profiles more for the comedy value than anything else. I suppose I'm not easily convinced by a premediated diatribe on spirtual healing by a Mother Theresa/Florence Nightengale cyber hybrid. I mean, you can't possibly understand a character without spending significant time with that person. No amount of promising the earth and a life of harmonious co-existence should detract from that.

I don't have the answers on what leads people to be easily duped because I can't speak from experience; regardless, I'm going to pontificate on cultural matters relating to the United States, a country that I've never visited I'll add, because I can't help myself. So, here we go:

My impression of this board is that 'hope springs eternal'. I mean, you have the American Dream and all that, and then there's the high value placed on religion, which I think can lead to a climate of naievty. Then there's American films where everything turns out for the best in the end, in contrast to English films where everyone dies including the dog. Throw in that you seem to be quite an optimistic bunch, and you have a recipe for being taken in by every passing con-man in an expensive suit. Now, I know there's such a thing as rule and exception, and I know there's no substitute for experience; this is no more than an observation based on my time here.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:20:26 AM   
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Status: offline 		maybe i shouldnt admit this in public but i am an idiot. i will believe almost anything anybody tells me. i think what is the use of be fake or phony so i assume others are the same way. i dont really like that i am so gullable but i havent taken the time to change.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:28:37 AM   
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ORIGINAL: hamster11

maybe i shouldnt admit this in public but i am an idiot. i will believe almost anything anybody tells me. i think what is the use of be fake or phony so i assume others are the same way. i dont really like that i am so gullable but i havent taken the time to change.



A public declaration of admirable proportion. If it's not broken eh, and one man's idiotic behaviour is another man's naturalistic charm: every cloud has a silver lining.









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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:33:36 AM   
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So how much do you believe? What is it that makes you go, hmmmm--possibility?


I don't put a lot of stock or belief into profiles found on the internet.
If someone seems interesting I will allow my judgement to be formed, over a period of time, by witnessing consistent and sane behavior patterns.  My little voice always says:  this is the big bad interent(s), anyone can be anything, and what a fool believes.


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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:34:35 AM   
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So how much do you believe? What is it that makes you go, hmmmm--possibility?


a profile, for Me, just give me an idea of how a person can express themselves. equally, it also tells the attitude of the person. I have a series of questions I asked anyway...so, when I am approached, I look at the profile as a "guage"...


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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:43:52 AM   
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Status: offline 		I hope for the best and expect the worst.

Either way it's no skin off my arse.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:46:36 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent


 
regardless, I'm going to pontificate on cultural matters relating to the United States, a country that I've never visited I'll add, because I can't help myself. So, here we go:

My impression of this board is that 'hope springs eternal'. I mean, you have the American Dream and all that, and then there's the high value placed on religion, which I think can lead to a climate of naievty. Then there's American films where everything turns out for the best in the end, in contrast to English films where everyone dies including the dog. Throw in that you seem to be quite an optimistic bunch, and you have a recipe for being taken in by every passing con-man in an expensive suit. Now, I know there's such a thing as rule and exception, and I know there's no substitute for experience; this is no more than an observation based on my time here.


Um...Yeah, it's an American thing.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 8:48:29 AM   
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Status: offline 		I think there are a lot of people that believe what they say in their profiles. For some of them it is an exercise of cynicism and for other a revenue stream. For some it is a first attempt at self expression in a new medium (kink) and for others it is a soap box for whatever their hobby horse might be. When i read profiles, i pay attention to the words, but also the words between the words, the context of the words (age, sex, location dont laugh those do tell you something about the person) and the way the words fit together to cover over what they don't want to say but can't really hide.

But then, sometimes i just look at the pictures and make up my own stories about who they are and what they want. It's a fun game; try changing "Dom" to "rich husband" or "surrogate parent" or "in my daydream" or (my favorite) "turnip".
 

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 9:24:19 AM   
slaveboy291


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Status: offline 		Any message with an e-mail address I ignore.  I hope I didn't ignore any real people but I always find that suspect.

Especially when they spell hotmail and yahoo

hutymail dat c0m  and yeahwhoo dat cum.  or hot.m.a.l dat cum 

WTF??? I have never seen anyone spell either this way before joining this site.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 9:49:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

More proof that Jersey people are very smart and accurate in their opinion of the world around them!



We are an elite group...only five of us here that belong. I'm including beth because she's Jersey by injection.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 9:59:07 AM   
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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

So how much do you believe? What is it that makes you go, hmmmm--possibility?


Though certainly not scientific or a representative sampling of the entire body of those on CM, I found that those who posted on the boards tended to give me a better idea of who they really were than just the profile alone. Those with profiles that never posted tended to be more of a  "curious tire kicker" and came off guarded and timid in getting to know each other, or always waiting for, to borrow a phrase from the movie Hardbodies, "a bigger, better deal". A great profile full of confidence and detailing exactly what they were looking for turned out to be the total opposite, and not once did they ever post on the message boards.  I found prolific posters not only gave you a better glimpse of the real person, but the persona they gave off in posting tended to coincide with what was in their profile.  It was from her posts, and not her profile, that I found Deanna, and I found the Deanna who posted was the same Deanna in the profile, and the same Deanna in real life.

Perhaps a backwards process, but for those who are looking for relationships, I think a much better one than just searching and reading profiles of people who basically sit there and wait for the world to come to them. Profiles of people who often post tended to represent who they are, as opposed to what they fantasize of being.




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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 10:04:50 AM   
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What i hate about threads like this !!
The people who have it all figured out and think they are so fooking superior for it.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 10:11:28 AM   
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Profiles of people who often post tended to represent who they are, as opposed to what they fantasize of being.


This is not necessarily true.  Sometimes it can offer a glimpse of the person. People can also be anything they want to be on a message board.  I have had wonderful conversations with people who never post on the message board, enough conversation to convince me that they are believable.


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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 10:13:54 AM   
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ORIGINAL: NorthernGent
Then there's American films where everything turns out for the best in the end.

You say that but is it true? I watched Beverly hills cop 1 through 3 and in none of them did anyone shoot or kill that annoying Eddie Murphy.
 
Correct me if I’m wrong.


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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 10:18:35 AM   
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she's Jersey by injection.


Oh my.  Injection with what??   


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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 10:22:34 AM   
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ORIGINAL: KatyLied

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Profiles of people who often post tended to represent who they are, as opposed to what they fantasize of being.


This is not necessarily true.  Sometimes it can offer a glimpse of the person. People can also be anything they want to be on a message board.  I have had wonderful conversations with people who never post on the message board, enough conversation to convince me that they are believable.



Which is why I stated at the beginning, "Though certainly not scientific or a representative sampling of the entire body of those on CM".  Just stating what I experienced, and what I found to be common in my search process. The OP asked for impressions, and I'm simply offering mine. 

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 10:31:58 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968


quote:

ORIGINAL: Mercnbeth

More proof that Jersey people are very smart and accurate in their opinion of the world around them!



We are an elite group...only five of us here that belong. I'm including beth because she's Jersey by injection.


Whatever happened to Jersey krissi (sp)? She was my favorite person from Jersey.

She seemed to be very smart and did have a unique accuracy in her views of the world....I she still out here?

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 11:01:10 AM   
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Status: offline 		It is what it is.  It's a roll of the dice.  You can improve your odds dramatically by utilizing some basic common sense as well as fine tuning your people skills.  Personally, I am not interested in a zillion conversations.  Just a few to determine overall intelligence and sanity then it's time for a meet and greet.

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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 11:27:03 AM   
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RE: Believability - 2/8/2009 11:51:56 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Aileen1968

I assume that all info given me is false until it can be shown otherwise.


Wow, this would feel like a really depressing way to go through life for me. I tend to take peoples' word on the most stuff, until I'm proven otherwise. Then again, I don't ask most of my friends for their life history, either. Perhaps it makes a difference, for me, that I'm not looking for romance, love at first sight, or an instant 'relationship'. Acquaintances and opportunities to talk over coffee is more than enough for me -- if something more comes of it, there'll be plenty of time to worry about whether the person is as skilled in tea service or sitting still for a play-piercing or cutting as xhe thinks xhe is.

I probably work too slowly for most people, but that isn't going to change, so I guess what I'm saying is that if someone seems generally decent, I'll give them my -time-, and -that- will determine what else they'll be to me other than a acquaintance. If they end up telling me an insurmountable lie down the road, well, you have to be willing to risk something in order to get anything, so I'll take a few risks every now and then.

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