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Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:08:56 PM

Nikitaa

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I have looked on many woman dominant profiles on collarme. Many (not all, I not write all so do not wad your panties) of the dominants write mean profiles. They write harshly and many appear rude.
I admit I become annoyed with many messages I receive and I want to write rudely but I not write rude in my profile because I do not want to scare the good submissives away.

Are dominants supposed to write mean? ARE WE SUPPOSED TO YELL IN OUR PROFILE AS MANY DO?

I sometimes treat my sub harshly. Is his kink. I do not treat stranger submissives harshly because they are people, not my submissive, and I not know their kinks.

I am thinking I need to change profile and write more fierce so men think I am serious dominant.
I do not want men to think I am nice and then become surprised when they discover I am not as nice (or as f-ing adorable) as I appear.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:11:08 PM

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Write your profile to express the kind of dominant you want to be. I would much rather have a silly, gamer geek dom who laughs when I grab a bag of candy and run away yelling "MINE!" and then sheepishly return when called then someone who is always talking about how they are going to beat me within an inch of my life for being two minutes late.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:22:24 PM

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Agreed. If you want to be mean, be mean. If you want to care about your sub, make that clear.

You're cute enough that you'll have loads of interest either way. Just be yourself.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:27:24 PM

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No no no! You definitely absolutely don't have to be mean in your profile! As a sub, I try to avoid mean profiles... If I can't know without a doubt that the domme I end up with is loving and caring behind whatever kind of mean actions she somehow takes, how can I really trust them? I would much rather know that the domme is nice, and work into the sadistic side of things, rather than just know she can be mean.

In the end I think showing that you can be mean doesn't prove anything. Showing that you can be nice, can be something that leads to a safe, loving environment.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:30:31 PM

Badguylol

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I feel the same way. I've checked out out some dom profiles just to see my competition (no homo lol) and damn.. some dudes seem harsh. Not that I have had problems finding girls to sub for me, but I do feel that if I decide to write an aggressive profile I might have better luck finding what I'm looking for online. I would feel like a major douche if I went that route though so I'll probably just keep doing what I do lol

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:30:39 PM

Domin8tingUrDrmz

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Nikitaa,

We haven't spoke yet, but I've read many of your posts. While you may sometimes be annoyed that everyone here at CollarMe seems to adore you, please don't be.

We adore you because you are funny and cute; however, I'm quite certain you have an evil streak that many submissive men find quite appealing.

Don't change, unless you want to.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:36:18 PM

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Nikitaa, if you try to write your profile to appear to the masses here as being more fierce in order to be perceived as being more real, you'll be fighting a losing battle. You will never be able to convince all of the goofy men on this site no matter how you write your profile.

AquaticSub's advice about writing and presenting your profile to support your idea of your dominance is the best way to go, in my opinion. As long as you're comfortable with how you've written your profile... happy with the way it presents you as a dominant... you will find those subs that match what it is you are looking for.

Just know that however you write your profile, you're always going to receive a good amount of mail claiming that you're not real. That seems to be the nature of the beast, not just around here on CollarMe but on other sites as well. For those idiots you can either block their messages or send them off to Bulk Mail.

Just be honest to yourself about what you're looking for and you'll be noticed and appreciated for that. :-)

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:39:03 PM

Nikitaa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

Nikitaa,

We haven't spoke yet, but I've read many of your posts. While you may sometimes be annoyed that everyone here at CollarMe seems to adore you, please don't be.

We adore you because you are funny and cute; however, I'm quite certain you have an evil streak that many submissive men find quite appealing.

Don't change, unless you want to.

I not annoyed if people in forum think I am cute and adorable. I just pretend I am annoyed. I do fear if men sending messages have incorrect idea. They might think I am "motherly" dominant but no, I am not. I have fetish fantasy as others have. In my fantasy I am not a sweet adorable girl. I do make this clear in replies I send but I think some men do not believe.

I took many new pictures or myself in not cute poses. Unfortunately my camera refuses to allow me to download the pictures. F-ing camera is jealous. LOL. Probably not matter, the new pictures look the same except I have a whip which I can not use correctly.

Edit

Excuse my rudeness, I not say hi back, Hi Domin8tingUrDrmz good to meet you<---------------------see, saying hi back is not fierce. lol

< Message edited by Nikitaa -- 2/11/2009 5:40:28 PM >

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:43:55 PM

Nikitaa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: IamNumber42

No no no! You definitely absolutely don't have to be mean in your profile! As a sub, I try to avoid mean profiles... If I can't know without a doubt that the domme I end up with is loving and caring behind whatever kind of mean actions she somehow takes, how can I really trust them? I would much rather know that the domme is nice, and work into the sadistic side of things, rather than just know she can be mean.

In the end I think showing that you can be mean doesn't prove anything. Showing that you can be nice, can be something that leads to a safe, loving environment.

I think I give wrong impression in my profile. I not seek a loving and caring serious relationship. I am in college and only 20. I seek fun. I want to kink date. I not want to prove anything. I only want not to mislead.
I took pictures of myself walking on my current submissive. He ruined the idea of the picture because he smiled. He was not suppose to smile, the dumb ass.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:45:04 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Badguylol

I've checked out out some dom profiles just to see my competition (no homo lol)

Anyone who wants to hear conflicting reports can c mail me on the other side.

chia* (the pet)

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:47:25 PM

Domin8tingUrDrmz

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I think you communicate very well. If men get the wrong impression, I'm sure you will show them otherwise

. Don't worry about it.

Oh, and I too forgot to say hello. So, HI!

**Skips away not worrying if she appears fierce.**

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:48:12 PM

Maya2001

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Nikitaa... I hope you never change..you have a good head on your shoulders for your age, incredible insight into relationship dynamics, your bright, witty, and a breath of fresh air. Continue being yourself ..don't try to change just to please others or the masses..otherwise you would likely end up attracting a lot more of the wrong people and become jaded like so many others out there

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:49:51 PM

Nikitaa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: sappatoti

Just know that however you write your profile, you're always going to receive a good amount of mail claiming that you're not real.

(quote snipped)

Thx for advice sappatota and AquaticSub

I am not worried about men who think I not real. This not issue. I do not try to prove realness to strangers. When men write and ask if I am real I send reply and write "no, I am a man"

My issue is men thinking I will act as girl-next-door (a phrase many men send to me). I am girl-next-door in hell.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:53:13 PM

Nikitaa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

I think you communicate very well. If men get the wrong impression, I'm sure you will show them otherwise . Don't worry about it.

Oh, and I too forgot to say hello. So, HI!

**Skips away not worrying if she appears fierce.**

LOL
You can skip because You have beautiful but fierce picture. I need picture as you have.

ps. My room mate has now informed that the word "fierce" is not correct word. She is laughing hysterically and now calling me fierce Nikita in mocking tone. Soon I will kick her ass. lol

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:55:49 PM

sappatoti

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Nikitaa

quote:

ORIGINAL: Domin8tingUrDrmz

I think you communicate very well. If men get the wrong impression, I'm sure you will show them otherwise . Don't worry about it.

Oh, and I too forgot to say hello. So, HI!

**Skips away not worrying if she appears fierce.**

LOL
You can skip because You have beautiful but fierce picture. I need picture as you have.

ps. My room mate has now informed that the word "fierce" is not correct word. She is laughing hysterically and now calling me fierce Nikita in mocking tone. Soon I will kick her ass. lol

Once you get your camera working, posting some photos of you kicking your roommate's ass (along with kicking your sub's ass for smiling when he should not have been) might be helpful.

:-)

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:57:05 PM

Domin8tingUrDrmz

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LOL Nikitaa,

That image next to my name is just an avatar provided by CollarMe. In my profile picture I look all cute and cuddly holding a kitty cat in my lap. Trust me, I too am FAR from cute and cuddly.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 5:58:35 PM

Nikitaa

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Maya2001

Nikitaa... I hope you never change..you have a good head on your shoulders for your age, incredible insight into relationship dynamics, your bright, witty, and a breath of fresh air. Continue being yourself ..don't try to change just to please others or the masses..otherwise you would likely end up attracting a lot more of the wrong people and become jaded like so many others out there

Thanks. I am not trying to change. I am only trying to appear as myself.

Is funny. I made profile (handle, they not have profiles) on craigslst. Their kink forum has not any moderators. Half the women on the forum hate me. LOL. They upset because attention men give me. Many women troll me. On CL they have rating points. I get 20-30 minus points and 20-30 plus points every time I post there. Is what happens when forums not have moderators. People become immature and trolls come in hordes.

Collarme= adorable Nikita
Craigslist= fierce mean bitch Nikita (and adorable)
Fetlife=Lonely Nikita (The forums too slow and weird)

I make edit...
To Domin8tingUrDrmz. awwwwwww. I see now. You are adorable. lol. I thought you were fierce.

< Message edited by Nikitaa -- 2/11/2009 6:01:55 PM >

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 6:06:35 PM

Domin8tingUrDrmz

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**Stomps foot** Dammit, I knew I shouldn't have mentioned my kitty kitty.

Don't go around giving me your adorable reputation, I'll have to get all fierce on you.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 6:13:56 PM

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quote:

Once you get your camera working, posting some photos of you kicking your roommate's ass (along with kicking your sub's ass for smiling when he should not have been) might be helpful.

Or at least entertaining.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/11/2009 6:20:45 PM

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I dunno - i think fierce is a great word to describe any dominant

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