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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/12/2009 5:21:25 PM

MyWorldCT

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Nikita... last week, I opened the "Introductions" forum and noticed that you had responded and welcomed every new person on there. Is that too nice? Is that not what a Domme is supposed to do?

I personally have never seen this "book" and I think that only Batman and Scooby Doo have seen this book, so personally, I think that you need to be yourself. Be mean when you need to be, and be smart and funny when you need to be. WE all have our dual lives... Kinky lifestyle side, and vanilla got to go to work sides.

Be real, be honest, and DO NOT drink the punch or eat the tiny sandwiches... trust me

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/12/2009 9:27:24 PM

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Would my pic help?
http://img255.imagevenue.com/img.php?image=03328_Milo_122_370lo.jpeg

I dunno about fierce, I do look crazy...

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/12/2009 9:53:24 PM

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Nikitaa, you enjoy humiliation and devaluing and sarcasm.

Why should you want to be cruel?..
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I'll take my tongue out of my cheek now.

Where is your profile anyway??

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/12/2009 11:27:28 PM

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Being dominant in no way requires fierceness or anger. A dom can be cruel, or a dom can be very loving and affectionate. As a master, I'm still kitten-like in that I am loving and affectionate. I still have my kinks, but at the end of the day, that is who I am. As a pet, I seek someone that is kind, loving, and cuddly. I avoid harsh profiles, doesn't mean I don't have my kinks and desires, it just means at the end of the day, I want to be loved and appreciated as I sleep curled up with them. If you are kind and adorable deep down, then be that person. It took me time to come to terms with who I am and to be that person for me, not to be what others wanted. If someone wants a harsh dom, wish them luck in finding it, but be true to yourself.

And the thing about stealing the bag of candy....that was really cute, I giggled a bit. I find myself daydreaming of things like that lately, but, thats who I am.

~*Kitten*~

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/13/2009 9:13:24 AM

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ORIGINAL: BondageBarbieX

I have seen more female Dominants than males on here with mean profiles.The ones that call men worms and such..honestly though a lot of guys are turned on by verbal abuse so I see nothing wrong with it.

Yes, a lot of guys seem to be turned on by it. But a lot are turned off by it. So choose what you like to do, and attract the ones you want.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/13/2009 9:37:41 AM

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I am thinking I need to change profile and write more fierce so men think I am serious dominant.

be u...
i think "being mean" is a stereotype of ALL dominant Women in the lifestyle. if u want to give off a certain persona, i think that is definitely up to the Woman...but i say, be u b/c subs will pick up on that...the real u.

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/13/2009 12:40:01 PM

Nikitaa

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ORIGINAL: thetammyjo

You should definitely mention that when you play that you want to be "mean" though you will be asked what that entails so think it out. You also should mention that you aren't looking for a relationship, just for play time, not that everyone will care when/if they read, but at least you can then say "I was honest about that from the start".

I update profile and mention I do not seek serious relationship, only kink fun, and I mention I am not nice in kink role-play.
I have follow message I send to desirable men with details of what I do in play and examples. Some men receiving message have decided is better to send nasty reply instead of becoming sub. lol. Mostly were men seeking relationship and sex and not happy with sentence in my message...."I will treat you the way I desire and discard you as trash when I become bored." <-------Is removed from context of entire message. Is not as harsh as appears because is part of the kink role-play. Many men like sentence. Those men not liking sentence may fly a kite.

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ORIGIONAL: MyWorldCT
Nikita... last week, I opened the "Introductions" forum and noticed that you had responded and welcomed every new person on there. Is that too nice? Is that not what a Domme is supposed to do?

I respond to those not receiving responses. I feel bad when I see lonely introduction on bottom of page with zero replies.

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Be real, be honest, and DO NOT drink the punch or eat the tiny sandwiches... trust me

CM run out of chips and dip. Still plenty of punch, because punch is nasty. I would make suggestion for more chips and dip in collarme suggestion thread I posted but I can not. I think I misplaced the thread, is gone. :-(

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/13/2009 1:49:18 PM

MistressAinCT

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I don't think I am mean, I think I am direct. I know what I want and what I require and I think My profile reflects that. If someone thinks I am mean, demanding or BITCHY (like that's a BAD thing ;)), well, then perhaps I am. But like many on this site I am tired of the bullshit and game players. If being bold and "mean" is the way to get the message across, then so be it.

Yes, I still get those who can't accept or understand what I need and those people are deleted, but if someone is looking for a strict, no nonsense and lifestyle Dominant(as well as other things outlined in the profile) then that's what the profile projects.

But I think there is a difference between being mean and just letting people know what you want and don't want. Too many people on here write "meanly" out of frustration because they are getting undesireables and wannabees.

Just state what you want and let the subs fall where they may.

< Message edited by MistressAinCT -- 2/13/2009 1:51:49 PM >

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/13/2009 6:43:05 PM

antipode

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my camera refuses to allow me to download the pictures

When you connect your camera to your PC, it should show up in the Explorer as another drive letter. Look for the picture files, and you can copy them from there, as you would do with any file between drives. The convoluted software that comes with many cameras is not necessary.

As to being mean - ugh. I think you just need to be you. This is not about people believing you are who you say you are, but about sufficient respect for someone to accept what you say. I personally think that anybody who thinks a dom has to be mean is a bit screwy. Those who question your "domness" you can eliminate, makes life easy, no?

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/13/2009 6:52:45 PM

Nikitaa

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ORIGINAL: antipode

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my camera refuses to allow me to download the pictures

When you connect your camera to your PC, it should show up in the Explorer as another drive letter. Look for the picture files, and you can copy them from there, as you would do with any file between drives. The convoluted software that comes with many cameras is not necessary.

Thanks for help.

I downloaded 2 new pictures 3 days past and no problems. Now problem is camera is not doing as it should. I think is broken. Maybe camera likes new sexy pictures and refuses to share. lol. Maybe is okay because some of pictures were me in leather outfit I borrow from friend. Outfit is too large and I think maybe I not look sexy, only goofy.

WoW. CNN just say a mouse in California is receiving 30 million dollars. Mouse is pet project of the head lady congress person. Is in stimulants bill. What is a mouse going to do with 30 million dollars? Maybe I not translate what I hear properly.
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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/14/2009 6:36:30 AM

HandSolo

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Augh! Did you delete, or hide?

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RE: Am I not mean enough for dominant? - 2/27/2009 8:36:23 PM

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