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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/17/2009 2:06:58 PM

camille65

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My owner is not a bad boy, on the contrary he is actually an Eagle Scout Leader!
I am absolutely a submissive pet, much like what you described in your post. So yes, we do exist.

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/17/2009 6:13:29 PM

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If it works for you, it exists. Ignore what other people do, unless you are an, uh, copycat. Pardon the pun.

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/17/2009 6:40:27 PM

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/17/2009 7:17:15 PM

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I have had several of your "pets" over the decades. I have one now, I am a Dominant that isn't afraid to love.

The bad boy is mostly a thing of fantasy for a lot of submissives. They wish the fantasy but once obtained they then find that it doesn't fit into a real life.

Can I be a bad boy, yes, do I want to live as a bad boy, NO. Most of the subs I have been with find it a comfortable place to be, owned and controlled and yet listened too, respected and treasured. I set basic ground rules that include her family being off limits to any orders from me, the same with her work. She knows that she serves me by her choice and that she can leave also by her choice but that if she fails me to often in too many important ways that I will suspend if not end our relationship.

All this means is that my slave has a chance to grow while being cherished. So there are plenty of "pets" out there if you can lead and teach, I happen to call them slaves since they have chosen to serve with very few limits.

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/18/2009 4:39:05 AM

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Yeah...the label isn't as important as the idea behind it. I just prefer pet as it sounds affectionate. As to wanting to mold someone....I greatly enjoyed getting my previous pet to be able to know what I wanted without a word. It made her feel like she was truly mine and she knew what I wanted and expected. At the same time....I'd like someone that is in the ballpark of what I want that can be molded into what I'd like. I mean....if you have a sub that wants and expects pain....there is really only so much you can do with that. Odds are, she won't be the kitten I want. Maybe I'm wrong though, and maybe she could be. I have an idea of what I want, I convey it the best I can, and if someone is that, or can be that, then I'm happy. I don't expect the work done for me, yet, I don't want to try putting a puzzle together that is missing pieces. The best I can do is be honest with myself and my wants, and try to express myself the best I can. Maybe the name throws some people off, maybe I sound too nice, maybe I don't seem like a Dom. But at the end of the day, I was honest with myself and everyone else. If I don't know something, I don't know it. If I haven't done it, then I haven't. I won't pretend to be someone I'm not so maybe more people like me, or know things I don't so maybe more people will respect me. And if I come across someone that can like, love, and respect me for that, it'll be worth the wait. I appreciate all of your replies, the advice, and the opinions. You are all truly helpful and nice people. What I want can and does exist, and one day, I will find it. I just need to remember that and hold on. Mew!

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/18/2009 5:58:27 AM

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I'm not looking for another guy, but that sounds very nice! I think I'm a little too service-oriented to quite be that kind of pet, but I'm sure there are plenty of girls out there that would love that.

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/18/2009 3:14:47 PM

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I am a very happy pet! Master dominates me in subtle ways, and it pleases me when He is happy. However, He is such a gentleman and genuinely cares about me. I admire His confidence and certainty, but He is kind to anyone that crosses His path. I am not only His submissive and pet, but His lover and girlfriend, and a role model for His children. We share many interests, but we also go our separate ways to explore the interests that we do not have in common.

I consider myself a pet because I act like one. I enjoy crawling on the floor and snuggling against Master's legs. I eat from His hand and enjoys when He pets me. I'm playful and sometimes naughty. I also am an attention-whore.

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/18/2009 3:24:54 PM

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ORIGINAL: TwilightsKitten

I understand what you are getting at. Being willing to be corrective and "bad" are not the same thing. For me, I don't enjoy punishment, and the few times I have done it, it was explained why it was being done, and was fitting to the incident. I was never fast to punish, it always had to be something deserving of it. I'd much rather give them the opportunity to show me they are sorry in a positive way after discussing the matter. Perhaps I just come across as way too soft, and that I won't express disappointment or being upset. I was taught early on, to never punish while being angry, and to never be quick to punish. So, for me, if my pet disappointed me, it would be discussed, and depending on what happened, there might be some form of punishment, or a chance given to allow the pet to make up for what has occurred. I'm not afraid to express myself, I just won't do so by using my pet as a punching bag.

In my mind, there is a difference between "discipline" and "punishment". Discipline is meant to correct, guiding the pet towards a better behavior, a simple reminder that they did not please the Owner. Punishment, on the other hand, shows the Owner's absolute disappointment, and that the pet did something that was very wrong. Think of it in terms of the U.S. legal system: fines vs. jail time - one a mere swat, the other a harsh beating.

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/18/2009 4:17:31 PM

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Makes sense to me. Not that unusual in fact. Very hard to find.

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RE: Does what I define as a "pet" exist? - 2/19/2009 1:34:47 AM

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Yeah, I get the distinction between discipline and punishment. I've only had to do mild discipline myself, so maybe that is part of it. I know what I don't want to do, but don't really know what I'd be okay with doing if that makes sense. I guess its something I'd have to discuss with whoever ends up my pet and find a place we'd both be comfortable with.

And to Grace, by service-oriented I take it you mean, someone that wants to just do for someone? If so, I don't have anything against it, my previous pet was someone who just wanted to do things for me so I was happy because that made her happy. My only real thing about that is, I show my appreciation of what is done for me. I don't just expect it to be done, I'd like them to know it was appreciated and has made me happy. Really starting to think I come across as too snuggly.

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