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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/17/2009 10:28:58 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		In answer to the OP.....

I'm coming up on My two year anniversary on the site.  I'd have to say that My answer goes both ways.  Yes, there are times that I get bored to the ninth degree with the questions that we seem to answer week after week.  I've often thought of creating a word document of standard answers that apply to the seemingly endless rehashing of the same, old, tired, supposed 'original' posts.  Stuff like:

"My Dom doesn't call me after I put out this weekend."

"How do I meet a Mistress?"

(The ever popular) "What's the difference between a sub and a slave?"  (I'm guilty of participating in this.)

"Why can't people have the decency to respond to emails?"

I could go on and on, but I'm sure you get the idea.  The topics we've heard at least a hundred times.  Each one thinks they are the first to have stumbled onto the website and we are all supposed to fall all over ourselves repeating things we've said too many times before.

I think one of the best compliments that I have ever received on this site was given to Me by KnightofMists.  It was in regards to a post that I wrote that he felt was actually original.  After all of the repeats on the boards over the years, he made a point of saying he thought no one else had come up with the topic.

There's another part of Me that feels completely the opposite about it.  As others have said, it's worth sticking around for those I feel I have gotten to 'cyber know' through the forums.  I couldn't begin to tell you how many folks I can identify just through their mention of who is on the other side of the kneel in their dynamic.  I enjoy following along for those who are really living this life, and I appreciate the things they contribute.

Now for this:

quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: rubberpet

It seems like if you aren't part of the major clique here, have a different opinion than everyone else, or you have different kinks, no one really acknowledges your opinions or input.  It's like an adult internet version of high school.

How to Excel in Asshattery 101 (CM style)

1 - know your cliques ...study them well and observe how they post/respond ...always follow their example

2 - always have the same uniform opinions as the clique (having differing opinions not allowed)

3 - always remain friends of those within the clique

4 - never acknowledge any poster who isn't part of the clique

deviate from any and/or all of the rules - and your clique membership will be revoked.




Sorry, but this is BS.  People tell Me on a regular basis that I am a part of the supposed clique.  Still, I manage to have a differing opinion on a vast array of subjects.  Some of which are anything but popular.  If My opinions are recognized, much like many on these boards, it is because I relate My thoughts as they are relevant to Me.  If I find a topic where the general consensus goes against My personal experience, I say so.  I've been called to the carpet many times for voicing My opinion.  On any given subject, some people like what I have to say and others don't.  So be it.  If anyone decides it's time to kick Me out of the "cool kid's club,"  I'll be happy to pick up My toys and go home.


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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/18/2009 12:39:09 PM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		Clicking away the moments here on Collarme
Fritter and waste the hours in an offhand way
Kicking around 'cuz no munch can be found in your home town
Waiting to see what the other posters have to say
Tired of browsing through the profiles
Reading OPs which drive you insane
And you are free and alone now
And looking out for chances to play
And then one day you find
You've made five thousand postings
Paddles have long replaced the vanilla cone
You're on your way to being 'insane'

And you try and you try to start new threads but they're sinking
New threads appear asking the same questions again
Your postings are the same in a relative way but you're older
Shorter of breath, and looking a bit more like death
Every posting is getting shorter, never seem to find the time
You drift off to Random Polls and Stupidity, or Off Topic is where you spend your time
Hanging on in quiet desperation is the kinky way
The thread comes back two years later
When some newbie finds something more to say

On Collarme yet again
I like to be here when I can
When I come home, home and tired
It's good to work out how some folks are wired
And suddenly into a thread
Moderator Eleven makes it plain
Brings the cantankerous to their knees
Or has them [awaiting approval] again


original by Pink Floyd

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/18/2009 5:00:14 PM   
CelticPrince


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ORIGINAL: YoursMistress

Please don't discount the value that you provide to others with your knowledgeable replies and interesting posts.  Man cannot live on snark alone. 

yours



yours,

well put!

CP

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/18/2009 5:41:56 PM   
Prinsexx


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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/19/2009 4:38:45 AM   
allthatjaz


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Status: offline 		I was thinking about this yesterday and after a brief look through the forum headings it is clear that most of the topics are about 'trust' 'betrayal' and what does sumbissive/Dominant mean to you. There is a huge amount of competition regardging who is the best submissive/Dominant are very, very few questions asked about specific areas of BDSM and those that do ask will either be ignored, scorned and accused of being a wanker, a show off or what they are doing is sick or dangerous.
If I want to learn anything then I go to other BDSM or related sites. I

Education wise there is very little these forums offer. Discussions on the many areas of BDSM tend to be avoided here.


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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/19/2009 9:52:22 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

quote:

ORIGINAL: rubberpet

It seems like if you aren't part of the major clique here, have a different opinion than everyone else, or you have different kinks, no one really acknowledges your opinions or input.  It's like an adult internet version of high school.

How to Excel in Asshattery 101 (CM style)

1 - know your cliques ...study them well and observe how they post/respond ...always follow their example

2 - always have the same uniform opinions as the clique (having differing opinions not allowed)

3 - always remain friends of those within the clique

4 - never acknowledge any poster who isn't part of the clique

deviate from any and/or all of the rules - and your clique membership will be revoked.




Sorry, but this is BS.  People tell Me on a regular basis that I am a part of the supposed clique.  Still, I manage to have a differing opinion on a vast array of subjects.  Some of which are anything but popular.  If My opinions are recognized, much like many on these boards, it is because I relate My thoughts as they are relevant to Me.  If I find a topic where the general consensus goes against My personal experience, I say so.  I've been called to the carpet many times for voicing My opinion.  On any given subject, some people like what I have to say and others don't.  So be it.  If anyone decides it's time to kick Me out of the "cool kid's club,"  I'll be happy to pick up My toys and go home.


i have been accused of starting and being of a clique too ...getting flamed and ignore because i speak my opinions bluntly instead of sugarcoating and kissing bums is nothing new for me.

what i wrote was done in sarcastically however it's not bs. take a look at the current state of certain forums these days ...you might find it surprising or not.

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/19/2009 10:32:21 AM   
LadyPact


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i have been accused of starting and being of a clique too ...getting flamed and ignore because i speak my opinions bluntly instead of sugarcoating and kissing bums is nothing new for me.

what i wrote was done in sarcastically however it's not bs. take a look at the current state of certain forums these days ...you might find it surprising or not.

I'm not sure if I know what you are referring to about the current state.  Since I've only been more active on the boards again just recently, My only observation is that there are fewer topics of interest.


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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/19/2009 10:37:41 AM   
feydeplume


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Status: offline 		My understanding is that this site IS about d/s issues rather than say sensation play, TPE, S&M, actual real life community events or classes, or any of the zillion other things out there. I believe that was sort of the point of this site, a place for people that were primarily interested in d/s and tired of all the BDSM stuff that was the norm for forums a few (lots) of years ago.




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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/19/2009 10:39:35 AM   
allthatjaz


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Joined: 8/20/2008
Status: offline 		We get cliques wherever we go and we can choose to join them or just ignore them. There are actually some really nice cliques on here at the moment and we should remember that clique does not necessarily equate 'negative'

What I tend to avoid on here is the 'sarcastic posters'. Not the ones who make a random sarcastic comment but the ones who do it constantly. You can always guarantee that, that sarcastic poster will have a little following that will be tagging on behind and that is very reminiscent of bully mentality.
I also avoid the posters that come in with these over inflated opinions about a particular person. I ask myself how on earth one can judge to such a degree, especially about the said persons partner, without knowing them as long term friends!


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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/19/2009 10:52:39 AM   
hardbodysub


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quote:

Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum posts after about a year?


Gee, it took you a whole year? Sometimes it only takes one or two threads to prompt a leave of absence for me.

I go in cycles, interest waxing and waning, as some others have also said. I generally ignore threads which are the same old tired issues that come up again and again (and again). So I've become a lot more selective in the threads which I pay any attention to. I ignore topics that I'm tired of, and I only read ones that look interesting. That means that I generally ignore threads with non-descriptive titles.

That raises a related issue: why do people start threads with non-descriptive titles? Why title your thread "A question", or "Need help with", or "What do you think", without stating the nature of the question? I think you'd get more hits from people interested in your topic if you actually put it in the title.

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/22/2009 2:16:07 AM   
BondageBarbieX


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Status: offline 		Yes,I get bored very easily and seriously do not understand how some people can spend all day on here..it boggles my mind.

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/22/2009 6:48:01 AM   
Imakemensquirm


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Status: offline 		I would have to agree with most of what you say, but I have a slightly differnet view on what part of the problem might be.  There is little doubt that topics will repeat themselve, especially when you consider that there are always new people coming along every day, but that can be a good thing if we just allow the newly asked, all be it repeated questions to be answered.  All too often I see someone put a negative remark about this has already been discussed, putting a link to an old string and while that's true, it doesn't mean that something new may come to light, perhaps posted by somebody that wasn't a member when it was first discussed.  We shouldn't expect people to go back and read old postings, they want to be involved in something current and I certainly wouldn't expect it to be any other way.

Also I see a topics get shut down by negative remarks from people who aren't into the topic being posted, which I feel may cause the newer members to not want to take the risk of expressing their views.  I have never understood why people would want to chime into something they have no interest in, but they do all too often.   

The last point that I'll make is that if you aren't seeing things being discussed that interest you, them step up and post topics that interest you and increase the depth of your postings so that they become more interesting to the members with more experience and have been around for a while.   

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/22/2009 7:13:35 AM   
Rushemery


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Status: offline 		it does get old but so do the other sites, I bounce between sites some I pay for some I dont. Sometimes the off line world is more interesting. I would say take a break find somewhere else to go for awhile come back later and maybe it will be fresh again

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/22/2009 7:15:43 AM   
MarsBonfire


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Status: offline 		I might also point out, if you've spent the last year on Collar Me, that means you weathered through one of the worst years on record, thanks almost entirely to the election and the "Limbaugh wannabes" who cranked up the crappola level to where I even stepped away for several months as the events reached a head in November.

But, do I get bored answering questins from new folk, who just want quality information about BDSM? No. I've spent close to a quarter century in this life. The least I could do is pass on what I know.

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RE: Does anyone else get bored with Collarme forum post... - 2/22/2009 7:22:01 AM   
came4U


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quote:

I've spent close to a quarter century in this life.


Ditto.

Newbies don't bother me, as long as they are sincere.  Newbies that act like they know it all then post those ridiculous 'know it all' first (gossip/faux-informative) posting is what gets old. 

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