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Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:19:31 AM

tracksofmytears

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My ID on here used to be DirtyLittleSecrt. I was talking to a man on here that I was really, really falling for. We were going to meet on V-day. Then a few days before, he writes me some nasty notes, saying that he received a bulk mailing about a munch a Master in michigan was trying to start, and he named me as his new collared slave. I was crushed and hurt. He would not listen to me, other than these awful, awful text messages and notes that I was a fake and a player and a liar. I;m still not totally over that one.....especially because he would not talk to me about it at all!

I changed my ID to TracksOfMyTears, because thats the way I have been feeling. Another Master wrote me that he received a bulk mailing on a munch, again naming me as a collared slave to this man. No one will tell me who this Master is that keeps doing this to me. Perhaps at some point I didn't give him the time of day? Or perhaps it is not even a Master at all? But I don't know what to do anymore.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:23:21 AM

marie2

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Sorry but if your potential dom believes some random note received on the internet, rather than you, what does that say? I wouldn't waste anymore tears on that. Furthermore, maybe he's the one mass mailing this misinformation.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:24:58 AM

Kana

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Laterrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr dude.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:28:02 AM

MyWorldCT

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As a Dom, I would never do that to anyone, unless I had other proof to corroborate the email evidence. If you say you were not collared, then you were not. That does not mean that I would fully trust you like I may have before, but I would still give you a chance, if your online relationship was as strong as you say it was.

He just went crazy when he heard this "news", but look at it this way. He sounds to me like an insecure person, and you are lucky to have found this out now, then a few months down the road when he is with you and flips his top like that.

Move on and good luck, there are plenty of stable and secure Doms on here...

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:29:33 AM

KatyLied

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Furthermore, maybe he's the one mass mailing this misinformation.

My first guess as well. I think there's a possibility that he is in the middle of all of this. Why would you waste any tears on him?

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:33:45 AM

Honsoku

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Most likely it is either that he doesn't have anyone and therefore is trying to look like he does, or there is some miscommunication in the manner of her "name" or profile is the same or very similar to yours (typo perhaps?). There is the chance that this is malicious, however this seems like an ineffective way to go about revenge. If you have someone going around saying these things, make it clear in your profile that you know about this message, that it isn't true, and you don't know who or why this message is getting sent out.

Secondly, if he didn't trust you enough to believe you over a random canned message, then he wasn't that into you. Yes, it sucks and there isn't anything you can do about it, so try not to dwell on it too much and move on.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:39:50 AM

Lynnxz

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tracksofmytears

My ID on here used to be DirtyLittleSecrt. I was talking to a man on here that I was really, really falling for. We were going to meet on V-day. Then a few days before, he writes me some nasty notes, saying that he received a bulk mailing about a munch a Master in michigan was trying to start, and he named me as his new collared slave. I was crushed and hurt. He would not listen to me, other than these awful, awful text messages and notes that I was a fake and a player and a liar. I;m still not totally over that one.....especially because he would not talk to me about it at all!

I changed my ID to TracksOfMyTears, because thats the way I have been feeling. Another Master wrote me that he received a bulk mailing on a munch, again naming me as a collared slave to this man. No one will tell me who this Master is that keeps doing this to me. Perhaps at some point I didn't give him the time of day? Or perhaps it is not even a Master at all? But I don't know what to do anymore.

Ew, a psudo-stalker, don't want. Changing your online name was probably a good thing- did the guy sending out the mailing use your real name, or your ID? I'm less bothered by the guy you were dating, who sounds incredibly insecure, than I am the guy who is claiming you, when you say you've never even met him.

People are strange online... don't take it too seriously. :)

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:47:39 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tracksofmytears

My ID on here used to be DirtyLittleSecrt. I was talking to a man on here that I was really, really falling for. We were going to meet on V-day. Then a few days before, he writes me some nasty notes, saying that he received a bulk mailing about a munch a Master in michigan was trying to start, and he named me as his new collared slave. I was crushed and hurt. He would not listen to me, other than these awful, awful text messages and notes that I was a fake and a player and a liar. I;m still not totally over that one.....especially because he would not talk to me about it at all!

I changed my ID to TracksOfMyTears, because thats the way I have been feeling. Another Master wrote me that he received a bulk mailing on a munch, again naming me as a collared slave to this man. No one will tell me who this Master is that keeps doing this to me. Perhaps at some point I didn't give him the time of day? Or perhaps it is not even a Master at all? But I don't know what to do anymore.

A bit ago, someone e-mailed me and asked if I commuted to Georgia, since it was an odd question I asked him why, his answer was that when he pulled up m'Lords name he saw that he lived in Georgia. Perplexed, I ran a search for m'Lord and sure enough a person with the same name showed up- the only difference is that there was a "9" at the end of his username.

DirtyLittleSecret seems to me like it would be a popular name and so if there was such an e-mail I'd suspect that his dirty little secret had some small change in her name to differentiate it from yours, it's possible that the originator of the e-mail forgot this difference or the readers didn't notice.

However, the red flag for me is that no one is divulging to you their source so that you can get to the bottom of it. I'd suspect that I was being played if I were in your shoes.

And like others have said, if he's willing to believe some stranger on the internet over you, what would happen in the future if he was faced with slanderous gossip about you or even just a simple mistake about your charecter? I think you dodged years of justifying yourself from his desire to believe the worst in you.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 11:58:38 AM

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Something smells funny here. A real Dom would not go nuts on you like that without at least giving you a chance to either explain yourself or deny that you knew the other fellow. I would ask to see a copy of the broadcast e-mail and get to the bottom of this.

In either case, you are rid of a very insecure Dom and that may not be so bad.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 12:33:25 PM

tracksofmytears

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Thank you for the advice! I totally agree that if he believed some unknown Master's word over my own, he must be terribly insecure and that in the future I would always be having to prove my innocence to him over his insecurities. I just wish it hadn't said in my "birthday, stars, and numbers" book that we were supposed to be soul mates......I threw the book away! LOL

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 12:37:43 PM

Lashra

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The guy doing this is not a "master" at all, he is a stalker and for some reason feels that he must ruin your reputation. But I will say this, any "Master" that believes some email from someone that they do not know is not a very secure person. He should have listened to what you had to say. But by him not doing so at least you saved yourself a lot of trouble for if this relationship had proceeded I do not see a very happy outcome.

Sometimes those little black clouds do have silver linings.

Good luck,
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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 12:54:23 PM

alovelylady4U

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i have a feeling all you were chatting with was a stalker. Once he felt a meet and greet was nearing- he did the worst opt out possible. he tried to make you feel bad about yourself. doubt yourself, as well as discredit you to E/everyone possible to cover his own tracks. (i had/have the same trouble (yes he is still around and still on this site.)

Dirtylittle secret you take your name back and you stand strong. Any Man that understands this lifestyle will also know about the cons, the liars and the cheats. He will look to you for the truth, not a stranger. He will know what to do and believe it or not- so will you.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 1:10:39 PM

urlittleprincess

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perhaps 'Dom'#1 and 'Dom'#2 were one in the same person...making up the same story each time...there are some very sick, weird people in the world...

if you dont think that could be so, perhaps remove all photos of yourself and only send once you have received what looks like a real pic of the potential 'Dom'...

best wishes...

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 1:21:49 PM

chamberqueen

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tracks, I was also recently framed by a "Master" in Michigan which ended up leading to my dismissal. He was very clever.

While people can say whatever they want about the Doms who choose to dismiss rather than to find out the truth, the fact is that there is a very dangerous man in Michigan who gets an incredible amount of pleasure out of ruining the relationships of others. It is best to ignore cyberstalkers if they target you - any attention at all is what drives them. I have to remove my account here because of one, and also close my Yahoo account because someone else handed out my email address there to him. He went so far as to set up a Yahoo account using my real name (which I don't do) and faked IMs from me running down my Master and his other slave.

Chalk it up to a harsh learning experience. I lost my Master of 14 months due to ugly tactics like you describe and a week after the dismissal I am still in shock. I know the hurt you must be going through. Just hang in there, be careful who you talk to, and I certainly hope that things will get better for you soon.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 3:04:39 PM

allthatjaz

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quote:

ORIGINAL: VeryNastyDom

Something smells funny here. A real Dom would not go nuts on you like that without at least giving you a chance to either explain yourself or deny that you knew the other fellow. I would ask to see a copy of the broadcast e-mail and get to the bottom of this.

In either case, you are rid of a very insecure Dom and that may not be so bad.

These were my initial thoughts too. The guy was meant to be meeting you for the first time on V day and as it loomed ever closer he needed a get out clause because he was either in a committed relationship or he was getting stage fright.

This happened to me on here. I had a rl stalker and there had been a violent incident. He then set up his name on here as allthatjaz but added another z at the end of it. I reported it and was pleased with the way CM mods handled it so quickly.

If this second guy is not giving you a name then you need to ask why? is he one of the same person?

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 3:08:50 PM

windchymes

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tracksofmytears

My ID on here used to be DirtyLittleSecrt. I was talking to a man on here that I was really, really falling for. We were going to meet on V-day. Then a few days before, he writes me some nasty notes, saying that he received a bulk mailing about a munch a Master in michigan was trying to start, and he named me as his new collared slave. I was crushed and hurt. He would not listen to me, other than these awful, awful text messages and notes that I was a fake and a player and a liar. I;m still not totally over that one.....especially because he would not talk to me about it at all!

I changed my ID to TracksOfMyTears, because thats the way I have been feeling. Another Master wrote me that he received a bulk mailing on a munch, again naming me as a collared slave to this man. No one will tell me who this Master is that keeps doing this to me. Perhaps at some point I didn't give him the time of day? Or perhaps it is not even a Master at all? But I don't know what to do anymore.

Okay....first thing you have to do is stop thinking of these men as "Masters". Just because they belong to these kinky sites and talk a good talk online doesn't mean they're worth a hill of beans in real life, and you've GOT to stop thinking you've found your "soulmate" (gag) from a few chat and/or email conversations. Don't you see what a coincidence these events are? Do you really think these are legitimate, sane, "normal" people? (For lack of a better word) And maybe the reason that "no one" will tell you who this "Master" is that keeps doing it to you is that HE DOESN' T EXIST!!! No one intelligent and legitimate would treat you like this. A decent person would have talked to you about the incident like an adult, not sent childish hate mail and nasty texts. Frankly "nasty texts" sounds so high schoolish, that I wouldn't be surprised to find that that's exactly what he was, some kid. You found yourself a nutcase who probably entertains himself by making conquests online and dumps them in this manner as soon as he reaches that point where he might have to actually walk the walk. It happens a lot in here, just read the archives. You simply got taken by an online player, and it's your responsibility to yourself to make sure you don't get taken again.

There's a lot of candy in the candy store here, but a big percentage of it is saccharine and sugar-free. Put on your big-girl panties, stop living in melodramatic romance, take that book out of the trash and burn it, and start living in the real world. I'm not saying to get offline...completely...but don't automatically fall for every word you read in a chat box, even though they're words you want to hear. The "Masters" here aren't looking to fall in love with you and take care of you, they're looking to entertain themselves. Don't fall for anyone until you are certain they are someone who is really a decent person, and I'll venture that at least 2/3 of the so-called "Masters" in here are nothing but dirtbags. Maybe a little less.....but not much

Get over it, because there wasn't anything real there to begin with, only what you concocted in your mind based on his pretty words. Move on.

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 3:19:22 PM

IronBear

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First you isolate the victim so they have nowhere to go and no one to turn to and when they are at rock bottom you strike as in become the victim's new best friend and take control in what ever way chosen.... Yep pretty classic stalker technique 101..

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 3:34:12 PM

ladynlord

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quote:

ORIGINAL: tracksofmytears

We were going to meet on V-day. Then a few days before, he writes me some nasty notes, saying ......

And therein lies the problem! Too perfect that he gets this mailing right before he is to meet you, then turns the table on you. It happens from both sides of the equation. We have had subs come up with excuses of all types (from lame to outright derogatory) when it came to the "put up or shut up" face to face. {Too many teenage boys have internet access!}

Even if there was a real letter circulated by a cyberstalker out to get you like CHAMBERQUEEN experienced, this supposed "Master" showed how immature he could be. Consider that you are better off without such a person, and keep looking for someone who earns and deserves the title Master and not just the term.

With that said, remember, We all get "slickered" sometimes. So get back in the quest!

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 4:05:55 PM

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well...I say assholes are assholes...and maybe, in the long run[and the hurt gets less] your going to be better off without the guy

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RE: Untruthful postings - 2/17/2009 4:54:06 PM

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Very much resonate with what windchymes said: just because they say they're a Master does not make it so. In this instance, asshat, yes, Master, no.
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