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If I told you what you should feel, would you feel differently?  How about you focus on what you do feel.  You're hurt and pissed off.  I don't know all the context here, but if you were having "long discussions" about it, I'm guessing that his sexual interest in this other woman was fairly clear.  So, you managed to extract an assertion from him that he wasn't going to act upon that interest (after a "long discussion") that he went back on.  Your first step out of your predicament is to recognize that your strategy of having a "long discussion" until he gives in ain't going to work.  Pretend for a moment that he just handed you a note that reads:

I MIGHT SAY WHAT I HAVE TO SAY TO SHUT YOU UP SOMETIMES, BUT I'M GOING TO DO AS I DAMN WELL PLEASE.

Read it, and believe it.  Now, do you still want to be there?  If so, how will you behave differently in the future, as not to waste your time and his, and set yourself up to be disappointed and pissed off again?  Notice I'm asking what you're going to do, not what he ought to do, or what you should try to get him to do.  In your situation, young Miss, that is all you can bank on.

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Take care of yourself

Leonidas