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SteelofUtah -> RE: ~~Rules, Rules, Rules~~ (2/21/2009 9:08:16 AM)
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KoM,
See I get your point but I don't intend to be a Legal System for my girl. I make my desires known and she meets them because she wants to please me. There are times in which things are not always perfect, if you have never experienced this I pray you never will, but for me Laws are followed (Or Broken) out of individual choice and regard to consequences. I do not want everything that andi does or doesn't do to be out of regard to rule, I would rather it be out of regard to her wanting to please me and show she is paying attention to what I desire.
There are those 3 matters in which I have little tolerance. When they begin, and they have once or twice, she is informed she has a choice to make, she knows what that choice is and she understands the consequences at that moment, but it is in that moment and the next few actions are hers and hers alone. If she chooses to do something that is Relationship Positive or Relationship Negative. Either way in that moment the decision is hers. I have found that this brings reality to the situation and she finds it more important to focus than she was a moment ago and is more willing to calm down and collect herself.
As to laws and cops, well I believe there is a serious problem with our legal system, I believe many of the laws we have are unnecessary as the consequences for them are non rehabilitating. My personl views on this would be far too political for this thread, The point in bringing it up is that you had mentioned Anarchy. Anarchy is more restrictive than most think. Anarchist Parties tend to have more rules (or rather ideals that if you don't agree with you aren't one of them) than you would think, Ironic I know, however the point where Anarchy tends to break down is that most people are unable to find a balance in their actions and thier actions over flow into other people lives. Part of my discipline, the life and set of concepts I am trying to teach andi, is to self govern herself in such a way as her actions do not force others to make actions. That what she does effects in a positive way only as long as it can be achieved. And that when something she does effects someone negativly that it was something that could not have been helped, that it had to be done.
I find that long lists of rules, ones that can either be forgotten or broken without consequence because the rule setter would be unaware, while in a power or authority based relationship serve little purpose other than to have a rule. I find that Rules are what we use to define a line in which an action is simply not acceptable and the repercussion of breaking said rule should make the breaking of the rule highly un favorable. If a rule is broken and no one knows (I mean that literally, when there are 100's of rules sometimes BOTH parties are unaware that a rule was broken) was there ever a rule to begin with?
Steel
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