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MsDDom -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 11:47:31 AM)
quote: this slave wouldn't go to Turkey alone. nooooooooooooooo way. too scary. this i agree with...especially if u have never been... w/ that said, still take ur time...u might be excited about the invite, but there is still doubt in ur text (mind)...

RealSub58 -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 11:51:42 AM)
I can't wait for more drama from Muriel. "I learn by going where I have to go." ~~ Theodore Roethke from "The Waking"

tazzygirl -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 12:27:48 PM)
LOL ...... was waiting for the next chapter myself

feydeplume -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 12:31:36 PM)
Anyone else feel a Stella moment coming on just from the thread title.... I think i am in the block and ignore crowd here. I mean even if it went really well and he was super, what the hell would you do? Would he move here, would you stay there? Can he get work here or you there? Are you ready to learn a new language and culture just so you can make beds at a hotel for a living? It is a sad little fact but often geography does stop even the best relationships. Just do a search on long distance relationships here and see how hard it is to even maintain what you have now until such time as you could go visit.

lovingpet -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 12:46:00 PM)
I would not could not go to Turkey I could not would not get on that plane Not on a wild bet Not for money or fame Because I'm not I'm not insane you see! lovingpet

Lockit -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 12:51:15 PM)
Hehe... well I am insane and I wouldn't get on that plane either!

MARIEL -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 12:55:13 PM)
I am not going to just throw everything overboard, if that is what you think. And I havent even decided what I will do. But one things for sure, IF I do, I will plan the trip for myself, that means my own hotel room and everything. Ordinary vacation, so to speak. And IF I do, I havent thought it to be more than my actual vacation is. And I am not just going to throw myself to him,either, IF I go. So that will say, relocate just like that? forget it. It doesnt matter what he says. IF that ever would happen, I will know the guy for a very,very,very long time. AND also learn the lingo from home. Not down there. But I havent even thought about relocating down there. I just ask how good idea.

MARIEL -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 12:57:28 PM)
As long as it is ordinary vacation, made on your own, what is the problem? are you guys afraid of traveling alone? IM NOT

Lockit -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:01:06 PM)
I am afriad of quick online hook ups with strangers... traveling... not such a big deal. I don't think people are agaisnt the idea of travel... but more the guy in another country making promises as a new guy and your receptive attitude to them... or at least... the way you jump so quickly and need our advice rather than from the wealth of your own common sense. Traveling can be dangerous... but quick hook ups from online... far more. But the real danger is in believing these new guys or not being able to figure out what is good for yourself.

antipode -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:06:15 PM)
quote: Hes invited me to Turkey this summe Turkey is a high risk country for single women. Parts are civilized, parts less so. And as I assume you do not speak Turkish, you will have no way of ascertaining what's what. It is, for Europeans, a dirt cheap holiday destination, but it is a predominantly Muslim country, where you can get in trouble with these kinds of liaisons. Honour killing is still practiced widely, and an escort of my acquaintance was complaining that Turkish clients in Western Europe habitually remove their condom when they think the girl is not looking. Last but not least, for a Turkish guy to hook a Western woman is, more often than not, a trophy thing. Whether that's your cup of tea or not...

lovingpet -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:13:05 PM)
Travelling is not the issue (as one who has travelled quite a bit on my own and in some less than optimal circumstances of my own choosing and after careful consideration). One issue is where you are travelling. The other is why you are travelling. There have been folks that talked online for a long time and had a rude awakening face to face. Others it was a fairy tale come true. To take the long odds in a country full of unrest and not a whole lot of tolerence for visitors is not the best idea. Why can't that trip go the other way so that he is building your comfort level? All the money and effort could put either one of you on a plane. Why not him instead, for your sake? Was it even offered? lovingpet PS: Read the Dr. pet again and take it to heart!

tazzygirl -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:14:45 PM)
im not afraid to travel in the US...i speak the language, know the rules, ect. i wont travel to a country where i dont know the language or the laws... and certainly not to a muslim country! your lack of fear speaks volumes! i suppose you would enjoy the idea of becoming a slave without thought or whim... a captive in a country where women are seen as objects.. especially western women. to travel there with friends, i think would be a great holiday... to travel there alone, to meet a man i only knew from pictures, all i gotta say is.... WHERE IS YOUR BRAIN?!?!?!?! why cant he come to you? its easier for a first meet to have it on the submissives turf. he wants you this badly, let him jump through hoops to get you.. or are you that desperate that you think so little of your own well being and safety?

Mercnbeth -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:17:38 PM)
quote: are you guys afraid of traveling alone? to the market down on the corner?...no. but then, it's in a safe neighborhood in this slave's native state/country. internationally?...yes. being a foreigner adds to the disadvantages this slave already posesses when it comes to the ablility to thwart/get away from/ward off predators.

sirsholly -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:19:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MARIEL As long as it is ordinary vacation, made on your own, what is the problem? are you guys afraid of traveling alone? IM NOT well...that said, may i ask why in the hell you started this thread?[8\|]

MARIEL -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:20:56 PM)
well he did not mention him coming here only me coming there. It has never been discussed. He said to me he wanted me to stay as long as I could over summer,which is five months but I only have vacation one. So he would like one month. Then if everything went alright me staying,but that is not something I will agree to,just like that. That I know for sure. Well he can just as well come here,yes. at least in my mind but as I said,never discussed.

MARIEL -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:23:22 PM)
But many western women travel alone to those countries. and im sure they fuck the locals too!

lovingpet -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:24:26 PM)
Discuss it. It would be the honorable thing for him to do. I have nothing against visiting someone first, but this is a rather extreme situation and he must be willing to understand that. lovingpet

tazzygirl -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:24:32 PM)
time to start discussing, dont you think? your submissive, not a doormat... think of yourself first... your not collared to him yet. your primary obligation is to yourself, your own safety and well being. and if he cant understand that, dump him and move forward.

Lockit -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:24:34 PM)
Who says you will actually have a choice? Who says it will go the way you want it to? Who says next summer will even see you chatting with him? You are totally missing the point many are making. Why ask us anything? You seem to know exactly what you are doing and why...

tazzygirl -> RE: This new guy.. (2/23/2009 1:26:37 PM)
lets try it this way... since you are obviously not thinking with your brain. he has a hard copy on his pc where you agree to come ... BE HIS SLAVE,,, those words take a different meaning in a country where women are seen as second class citizens!

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