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stella41b -> RE: This new guy.. (2/24/2009 12:26:32 PM)
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I think you're nuts to even consider such a proposal. I write on the basis of my own experience of forming international LDRs between the UK and Poland and I've travelled extensively through Eastern Europe all the way from Poland as far as the Iranian border with Armenia.
Oh don't get me wrong, I have got nothing against Turkey on the whole. As a Muslim country it's one of the more progressive and it's currently trying to get its act together to enter the European Union. In fact a few years ago I was offered a job at Istanbul University and I've even had two of my plays staged in Turkey.
However as with anywhere east of Berlin, no, east of the Vistula in Warsaw you're taking an incredible risk, especially if you have no knowledge of the language, culture or society of the country you are heading into. It doesn't matter what gender or age you are, it makes you vulnerable. I'm all for taking risks, but you know at least before taking a risk you should calculate it.
I did say 'on the whole'. Bear in mind that there's a lot of organized crime going on in Europe at the moment, and there are three main routes - smuggling routes - two of which pass through Turkey along which cannabis, drugs, heroin, tobacco, alcohol, guns, firearms, explosives, children and people are trafficked. This is a network which uses public transport, street markets and various areas in various towns and cities right throughout Europe.
There's been a case recently in the Polish media of a male dom who's been sentenced to the rest of his natural life in prison without parole or remission for the murder of nine female submissives over the past six years. Most of his victims came from sites like this and chatrooms and they were women travelling into the country from other countries such as Belarus, the Ukraine, and Moldavia.
Now the guy you're speaking with might be okay, bona fide and above board. Then again he might not. But even if he is, and we can assume this, you will also come into contact with others on your travels and they might not be quite as bona fide. Another consideration is if it works out, what are you going to be doing in Turkey? Where is he from in Turkey?
I'm a transgendered female, in a stable relationship with a Polish domme from the north eastern corner of Poland. She and I get on fine, we have a wonderful relationship, but there is no way I could live with her or even visit the small town she comes from. We would be lynched. I'm planning to travel with her to Poland in April, but I will remain in Warsaw.
My advice would be to meet in a neutral country if not in Denmark. I would suggest either Berlin in Germany or Warsaw in Poland. That way you would be meeting on equal terms in neutral territory in a hotel. This somewhat minimizes the risks.
ETA: I would only consider an international LDR with someone who really really rocked my world and turned my life upside down and my feelings inside out. You can't even be sure if this guy is for real or whether you can trust him. Something else worth considering.
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