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RE: ignoring.. just a question - 2/27/2009 9:20:10 AM

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Loving Mistress, I think you illustrate that distinction well and it's a distinction I've tried to convey in this thread.

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RE: ignoring.. just a question - 2/27/2009 3:41:08 PM

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Im thinking more if you have no clue,when theyre coming back,and they just drop a line to you with very long time in between. They dont want to release you but they ignore you long term.

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RE: ignoring.. just a question - 2/27/2009 3:54:00 PM

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Im thinking more if you have no clue,when theyre coming back,and they just drop a line to you with very long time in between. They dont want to release you but they ignore you long term.

You have to question your definition of 'owned' then ... this isn't a relationship to me. Therefore, it wouldn't even be a debate.

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RE: ignoring.. just a question - 2/27/2009 3:58:21 PM

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As I said before, in that case I quite simply move on with my life and don't tend to respond when/if they next contact me whenever that is, unless it is to say goodbye and don't contact me anymore. It's a game I just do not play and I am very careful to not get emotionally invested with someone online and offline it takes a long time for me to get emotionally invested. I just don't like to play those games. They are useless and reminicent (sp) of high school.

Ignoring=he is just not that into me so why waste my time?

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RE: ignoring.. just a question - 2/28/2009 12:08:00 AM

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I thought that likely was the case and my replies remain the same to you, regardless of 'wiitwd', would you consider that a mature and healthy form of behaviour within a relationship, or would you see it for what it is? This isn't about what other people think, it's about what is/isn't acceptable/desirable to you. If not, you have your answer either way.

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RE: ignoring.. just a question - 2/28/2009 2:47:19 PM

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what do you say about Doms ignoring their sub when gone wrong/done wrong,and put you in limbo for longer time? Is that abuse or can it be correct?

I had a Master once who banished me for six weeks. He knew I had abandonment issues that were pretty severe back then and he did it anyway. He deliberately chose that which he knew would inflict the greatest and worst damage. I endured it though, and did a whole lot of soul searching during those long weeks. I took a long, hard look at both our behaviors within the dynamic over the course of our history together and didn't like what I saw. Life is too short to ever tolerate that kind of treatment. Imo, it is never correct behavior. It is abuse. Even so, there was a period of grieving on my part when that horrid relationship came to an end. Not for the abusive way he dealt with me, but rather the friendship we had before I allowed him to become my master. Some people are just incapable of good leadership, and their personalities can change drastically when placed in that role.

Those who aren't mature enough to handle the responsibility of owning property show their true colors by running away when faced with the challenges that come with the privilege of ownership. Ultimately, the death of that relationship left me with the freedom to kneel at the feet of my Master. I have chosen wisely this time.

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RE: ignoring.. just a question - 3/1/2009 9:49:56 PM

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Sure, ignoring a person can be a valid formof punishment. It, as all punsihments, needs to be done with care and with concen that it not become abusive.
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