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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/10/2009 12:40:23 AM

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Cliff notes sent, Greedy

On topic- I get what you are saying too, Aynne.

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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/10/2009 1:58:15 AM

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I've only read the first two posts and have to say that I stand along side Steel of Utah, a Man who I have a great deal of respect for. I do not consider mysel;f either above the law or outside the law (mostly), but I will and do ignor the law when it comes to my Home, Family and property. KI have a track record proving this, and yet I am also a fair and just man. I will not isolate nor lock away either my wife or slaves. I encourage them to have friends and mingle socially. I do, however, draw the line when others try to place a wedge between myself and my wife and slaves or family. As long as I am kept in the loop there shoulod be no issues but go behind my back and there is a large issue which is usualloy resolved according to more liberated and advanced societies than that in which we live. I follow the Old Testiment regarding an Eye for an Eye (or somethinmg equally of value)..

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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/10/2009 1:59:31 AM

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I have had Dominants who restricted my contact with others & required that I send all communication to them. I am currently owned by a couple who have little time to deal with such issues. I have shown myself to be completely trustworthy & they know that I will contact them before beginning any sort of longterm communication with anyone, dom or sub. The caveat is simple: be respectful to us & our relationship with you. I don't get very many unsolicited cmails & I'm pretty good at simply deleting them. I've only had to block a few. I require that I be treated with respect & that my relationship with The Owners be given the respect that it deserves.

I don't see contact restrictions as a form of jealousy, per se. Maybe it could be more a form of control, protection or simply interest in your submissive's life.

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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/10/2009 5:11:05 PM

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My submissive has a terrible track record at being able to determine when another person is being inappropriate with her. She has gotten into nearly sexual situations with guys in the past, not knowing they were taking advantage of her trusting demeanor and her submissive willingness to "help". I am possessive and want nobody else handling her, or controlling her, except against a backdrop of my control and guidance. I no longer give her free reign to socialize with the dominant males of this website, not because I can't handle them, but because I don't want to.

I've gotten better in these situations (I think..) but I know that at any moment I can tell him that things are hard and he will absolutely step in and have me not put myself near those situations. I'm not very good at spotting ulterior motives and sometimes it is too obvious to others, so I'm glad that I can ask him for help.

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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/10/2009 7:11:27 PM

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Camille, I'm so glad you admitted that. I thought I was the only one who didn't see men coming on to me if they were the least bit subtle. A kneel bitch and start sucking email I can figure out but the rest, no way. I got upset when someone I thought was being friendly suddenly started asking, or worse demanding, inappropriate things. He doesn't like me being upset. Since I can't head it off at the pass as I don't see it, the easiest way for me not to get upset was for him to step in and say no random talking to male dominants.

Stuff that arises out of forum threads doesn't count, neither did me writing someone to ask about his avatar, or how he made a piece of equipment, and so on. But letters that aren't from r/l friends, or don't arise on obviously nonsexual subjects (obvious even to oblivious me) are forbidden. It's a form of protection for my emotions. If I know not to answer any email that doesn't arise as a discussion in a thread, then I don't worry about being rude, or what did it really mean. I just block and delete. And although everyone else here is strong enough to laugh when they get vicious emails, I'm not.

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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/10/2009 7:26:07 PM

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I don't always laugh when I get mean or vicious emails, but they don't upset me so bad I need him to try to protect me or my emotions from them. I would worry about myself honestly if strangers on the net upset me so bad I needed him to intervene and I've gotten a few mean ones. Maybe they just haven't been mean enough to send me to him with it.

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It's a form of protection for my emotions. And although everyone else here is strong enough to laugh when they get vicious emails, I'm not.

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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/10/2009 10:00:05 PM

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i'm not necessarily jealous, i'm protective. i'm more concerned with what kind of people cub hangs out with, if it's taking up too much time from family, if boundaries are being respected and so on. we have negotiated his online activities between us, i expect those boundaries to be respected by his online playmates. i'm trying to look out for him and keep him from getting hurt, which has happened. i like to see him happy, so i do what i can to protect that happiness.
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RE: Jealous Owners? - 3/14/2009 8:10:33 AM

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I am allowed to talk to anyone, but I have found that the reason why they are talking to me is about hooking up, sorry that is a no go. I always ask them, do I know you in real time or Have I met you in real time. Why are you contacting me? I am blunt I want to know exactly what you had in mind.

If it gets sexual or if they get disrespectful I c/p the convo and let Master talk to them. Also, with all my slave duties, which include family and house chores I don't have time to sit and chat with people. I am a slave and therefore I have work to do, and it has to be done or else.

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