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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/14/2009 5:35:30 PM

marysdream

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hmmm ok let me understand....you are both swingers..and now decide you are D/s ?....sorry doesn't compute! i hate it when others relate this lifestyle to swinging!
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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/14/2009 5:45:05 PM

camille65

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Hello all We have been and are working on us and JUST US. We have decided to stay closed and teach each other trust of each other. Yes you are right it did become a drama because I K didnt know how to talk to Sir. And I (Sir M) did'nt know how my girl felt and i really wish i had but know i do and i really want to keep her happy and in my life since i now know and really should have known that she loved me but you see i was hurt as well by past partners and i did'nt know that K felt like it was all her when it wasnt it was all me. ~~~~M& His Girl K~~~~

Um as hard as I try I cannot figure out who is supposed to be the one actually posting.

The whole revenge scene puts me off.

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ORIGINAL: marysdream

hmmm ok let me understand....you are both swingers..and now decide you are D/s ?....sorry doesn't compute! i hate it when others relate this lifestyle to swinging!
ree!

Granted I may have misread all of her/his posts but I got the impression that they are swingers but also involved in a D/s relationship.

The two are not mutually exclusive.

OP, you may want to try and break down your posts into paragraphs and sign your name at the bottom if you are both using the same account.

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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/14/2009 6:29:33 PM

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Ok, SubK your feelings are entirely NORMAL for a new cuckqueaning situation. Which, btw, is what this would be... I say that not just to SubK, but to all the jerky comments that people have felt the need to post. Some of you seem to think that swinging is wrong and that she deserves this HUH?; others tell her to "cope" with no helpful advice about HOW. Others act like this is poly (it's NOT); still others are saying to leave him. I even saw one that expressed confusion about how swinging and bdsm can mix- as if they NEVER mix!! (I do apologize to the few of you that had useful input... I don't refer to you.)

SubK... there is something that you need to know straight out of the box- cuckqueaning if really tough and any feeling you can imagine is normal. Secondly, it has been my experience that many females feel very threatened by the concept of this lifestyle. Thus, they tend to not understand it.

Please do write to me and I'll try to help. Isn't it funny how cuckolds are treated with normal human respect, but not cuckqueans? Aaak! I am feeling terribly frustrated. -- Jenn

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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/14/2009 6:35:13 PM

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I even saw one that expressed confusion about how swinging and bdsm can mix- as if they NEVER mix!!

I am not sure if the quoted bit indicates my post, if it does then there was no confusion on my part about how they can mix.

Chances are some of the unhelpful responses are due to the difficulty in wading through the OPs posts themselves, it can be difficult to give advice when the situation is so unclear or when one isn't sure who is even doing the posting.

Most here on CM do try and give good advice but it can't be done in a void or when the posts are so very hard and laborious to read through.

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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/14/2009 7:32:59 PM

Ph0enixF1re

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K,
I'm going to try to answer your original question:
1. You write so poorly that almost no one can actually understand what you are talking about or what the real situation is.
2. You have severe jealousy issues.
3. You don't communicate well with your Master (see #1).
4. You don't understand SSC or RACK and are using this womans interest/curiosity in BSDM as a revenge vehicle.

I'm sure there are other things, but off the top of my head, THAT's what's wrong with you. Get some lithium and a real therapist.

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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/14/2009 10:25:05 PM

PrincessEllie

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quote:

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My Sir and I are building a 24/7 relationship and getting a house we have talked about not being so active in the Swing Lifestyle and being more monogamous with each other and keeping others out of our bed. So here is my dilemma. Sir was asked by a Married Lady that is not in our circle of friends or even network to teach her to be a the sex slave she wants to be and to open her eyes to what else is out there since she has never been with any one but her husband. I asked to be present and he talked to her and she feels that she can’t be her self with me around.

Okay, I'm pretty much as anti swinger as you can get (for my own life, if you are a happy swinger, well you just go have fun and swing!), but I have to comment on this. I have a bad feeling about this. You probably are having a worse bad feeling right about now though. If you two were starting on a long term monogamous relationship, he has no business accepting this offer in the first place. But since he did, he should have let you be present at the sessions. And he said no to that either.

To me, this feels like using BDSM and your earlier swinging lifestyle as an excuse for cheating. You should tell him how you feel. Everything you posted, you should go to him and voice. Maybe this will knock some sense into him because you are distraught.

EDIT: I forgot to add this most important tip. You will hear conflicting replies on CM to your question. Your decision on this matter shouldn't be swayed by others. Others should simply add on to the idea you already have. What I'm basically saying is that you need to talk with your Dom and always be true to how you feel. If you do not feel okay with this, then you should not do it and should tell him so.

< Message edited by PrincessEllie -- 3/14/2009 10:28:04 PM >

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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/15/2009 10:13:30 AM

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Ok here is what i wish for every one to know is that when i made this post it was a journal entry that i cut and pasted to the foroum to ask if it was normal to feel this way. I will also never leave my Master I trully love him in ways i have never loved or given myself to. Most of the time it is me K posting and only one was Master M to kinda set the record straight

Hello All M here i know that K has been posting and at first i was up set that she told all of you before she told me but i understand now why she vented on you first. I taking K's thoughts in to mind called the husband and we meet for beers and i found out that the lady in question didnt have her hubbys permision that she said she had. He was very angry and wants K to mistreat her and at first K was so for it but than she thought how whould i feel if M did that to me and she knew what she would do she would kill me. So the teaching had been cancled and i think for a while i will keep my Lady and my Girl to my self and just work on us. M

And one once was from us both lastnight before he had to go to work.

Hello all We have been and are working on us and JUST US. We have decided to stay closed and teach each other trust of each other. Yes you are right it did become a drama because I K didnt know how to talk to Sir. And I (Sir M) did'nt know how my girl felt and i really wish i had but know i do and i really want to keep her happy and in my life since i now know and really should have known that she loved me but you see i was hurt as well by past partners and i did'nt know that K felt like it was all her when it wasnt it was all me. ~~~~M& His Girl K~~~~

Thanks Master M's Lady and Princess

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RE: What is Wrong with me - 3/15/2009 10:17:49 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: marysdream

hmmm ok let me understand....you are both swingers..and now decide you are D/s ?....sorry doesn't compute! i hate it when others relate this lifestyle to swinging!
ree!

Master has been a Dom for the last 20+ Years I was a Switch for the last 5 years but we also liked to swing we know that they are two diffrent Lifestyles. I NEVER SAID THAT WE WERE JUST SWINGERS OR JUST D/S WE ARE US!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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