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Lockit -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/4/2009 11:35:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: pyroaquatic If you do decide to take me down a notch you better bring me back up. It is a balance issue for me. I do not care for verbal degrading very much but it is really effective. Yelling can bring me to tears even if it is not me that is getting yelled at. Pyro, considering that yelling can bring you to tears and you don't care for being degraded, I can't see how effective that would be in dealing with you. I think it would actually be more damaging to you. There are other ways to deal with whatever is going on. How do you feel it is effective?

XYisInferior -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 12:50:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici "i am a slave, i am a worthless piece of poop that needs to be under your heels" "i am slave, i am here for your humiliation pleasure, please write to me signed, slave" " i am a slave, knowing i am worthless, awaiting your ownership" What in the name of all that's life makes you think that is appealing? The question is: do they really think this about themselves, or is it just gratuitous affectation? From my experience, most have very little experience with actual slavery, and while the idea of being worthless, inferior and disposable under a Woman's heels sounds wonderfully hot, the reality of being treated like subhuman chattel tends to ring differently over time to many of these same romantics. If you really do view yourself as existing to be abused, exploited, used and thrown away, and you convey this to a potential owner, there's really nothing wrong with that at all, other than harmless moral valuations others place upon notions of esteem and self pride.

thishereboi -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 6:05:23 AM)
While I agree that seeking someone who you feel is worthless makes no sense to me. Nor would I want someone who felt I was worthless. However after perving profiles from some of the females on this board, I think there are some out there who seek this. "As my slave you need to know a few things about yourself... 1. You are worthless" "You came to me because you are a pathetic, weak, mindless male" "worthless slaves and sissies- Do you crave a sense of worth? It is a lost cause, as you are nothing but pieces of crap." "So all my future pets, strat lining up, because princess has NUMEROUS positions that need be filled by pathetic, worthless, mindless creatures such as yourselves... "

ignoreme -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 7:01:07 AM)
Yes, there are certainly dommes that are like that, and want slaves to be that way, but as LafayetteLady already says the person approaching should be considerate of what the domme wants (which is, in this case, clearly visible from the profile), and not forcing a certain view down their throat.

pyroaquatic -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 11:40:03 AM)
Lockit, Let me lay out a situation for you. I am busy cleaning a room from top to bottom, rearranging furniture, vacuuming, sweeping, mopping.... when I get in this 'mode' there is very little else I can focus on. Well, except for the hungry-growlie thing going on in my tummy. I have learned that it is more bad than good to avoid eating so I make a sandwich. I use the last of the bread and accidentally leave the empty bag on the counter. I am back to cleaning again completely focused in what I am doing. "YOU MOTHER FUCKIER-CHRISTOPHER!" I am berated, yelled at, and called names by my father's wife a sweet but stern Philippine lady. My head lowers, I do not even want to look in her eyes. I toss the bag and go back to what I was doing. I finish cleaning and I cannot stop sobbing. The disappointment and the yelling is too much. She apologized after. She felt terrible. I do not want her to get upset any longer and I have never left an empty bag on the counter again. (actually she is much more pleased with me and decided to give me extra money for working so hard. I work so hard so she does not yell like that again.) FIN Ah... the life of a care facility.

Lockit -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 11:43:07 AM)
Pyro, do you feel that she could have gotten you to never do that again, any other way?

sweetsub1957 -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 12:03:53 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici <note: this is not another profile or email rant, I am just beyond curious> *"i am a slave, i am a worthless piece of poop that needs to be under your heels"* *"i am slave, i am here for your humiliation pleasure, please write to me signed, slave"* *" i am a slave, knowing i am worthless, awaiting your ownership"* What in the name of all that's life makes you think that is appealing? When I read/hear that, it makes me think of a do-me sub, all that "i am, i am, i am" stuff. It really hits my ears about the same way as "i want, i want, i want." Plus, why on earth would any Dom/me want an s-type who was worthless, etc, anyway? I would not want something worthless myself. Submission means nothing if the s-type has nothing to surrender to the Dominant. In my opinion anyway.

pyroaquatic -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 12:20:44 PM)
Lockit, Honestly I do not know. That was the way she chose to 'discipline' that very day. Some days it is a calm lecture that repeats itself over and over again... English is her third language, with Spanish as a second, and Tagalog as her first. I tell her I understand but I do not know what to do when she gets like this. So I listen. She gets stressed easy. I get stressed when other people are stressed. I could be in a situation where I should be stressed and if there is no one around I do not get stressed. I have lots of worth. I know this and she knows this.

Lockit -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 12:27:50 PM)
Pyro, you are in a situation where you would be living in fear of her upset. That is like walking on ice way too thin. You never know when you will piss her off and when she is pissed off... she may be too harsh which causes more stress. From my experience, someone who is living under the gun so to speak... they make more mistakes because they don't feel safe and that has an ill effect upon them. One thing I insist on in my relationships, whatever they are is that everyone feels safe. Correction doesn't come in fear unless like with my children and they were doing something dangerous and I had to show them the danger. With an adult I do things differently. You already have a problem with these upsets and to continue in a situation like this just sounds to me like you will become even more sensitive to similar things and that isn't a good thing. I wish you well...

pyroaquatic -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 12:37:32 PM)
Lockit, I understand what you mean by being in fear means you could make more mistakes. I had already lived it the other day where one mistake lead to three in a row. I don't know what to do about this. I would like to relax someday. Ahh... damn this sensitivity thing.

Lockit -> RE: What in the world do you think is appealing about... (8/5/2009 12:57:09 PM)
Pyro, you have mail.

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