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MistressONYX -> Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 5:27:50 AM)
Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves? I live in Vancouver, Canada and I cannot find them. I mean there are tons of bi and forced bi guys. I know there are so many chunky men or guys who want to relocate to live in a cage in my foyer. All I want is a guy who goes to the gym. One that does not send me photos of his gaping butthole. One who doesnt beg me to force him to suck off another guy. I am a hot black women. I am knowledgeable about equipment, own a playspace am educated and understand the BDSM lifestyle. There are a lot of males who want to tribute me but I want a lifestyle guy who hits the gym and is funny. Do they not exist in Vancouver? Not everyone on here wants your money. End of Rant :)

RedMagic1 -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 5:43:28 AM)
It's hard. I dated a woman in Nanaimo for a while, and frankly my general impression was that the BC scene was better than a lot offered in the US. I've got a female friend who is known in the kink scene in San Fran, and she's literally corresponding with men all over the country, because she is attracted to intellectuals with PhD's, and finding guys who are single, kinky, and not relationship-incompetent is difficult. To be honest, I'd suggest Match.com. I was on it for three months, and met two of my best friends there. The SF friend I mentioned is on there now, and has met a few kinky professor-type guys, including one who already had a profile on a kink site. There's a lot more people actually willing to meet in real life on a site like Match, and people are a lot less weirded out by kink than you might suspect.

IronBear -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 7:32:15 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressONYX Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves? My wife Lady Neets cornered the market perhaps she may be willing to sell a few to you........

MistressONYX -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 7:35:28 AM)
Excellent! I am off to the gym then when I get back I will sign up on Match.com. It is true I correspond with men all over the world. Vancouver is very small. All the good subs have been used over and over. Everyone has had sex with everyone. Do you know how hard it is to rock full rubber? How long it has been since I have had an ice cream sunday? If a athletic straight man walked into a BDSM event forget flipping coins for him. It would turn into a star trek like cage match music and all.

closetpoet -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 7:36:34 AM)
I think In BC, the young, handsome, fit and single sub me are hangin out at Starbucks and Tims - it is not like Europe, it can be intimidating going to a kink club after rowing practice at the local university.

lovingpet -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 7:45:10 AM)
If these are your search parameters, then the pool of candidates is the pool you have. There is no sense in fussing about it. You set the standards, didn't you? Now the question is how important these things actually are to you. Sometimes we box ourselves in by walls that don't need to be there. If a person is all I want in other areas I can't imagine looks or sexual orientation would keep them out of my life and my bed. There is the case of the just gutteral lack of attraction, but that often centers around other traits upon closer examination. I have to wonder if these are artificial barriers that you should examine more closely or if they really are essential to your happiness in a relationship. Certainly I can't make that call for you. I can only voice my own experience on the matter. I guess it is a matter of balancing needs with wants. I wish you the best! lovingpet

Maya2001 -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 8:07:17 AM)
I actually took a look at the search results to see just how many straight male subs there where between the ages of 30 and 45 in british columbia without screening for weight or height and there are only a couple recent ones listed...which I thought was quite shocking .. in Ontario there is a heck of a lot more available ...so looks like you may need to expand your search

akisha -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 9:21:58 AM)
I know U-Vic sometimes holds seminars and demo's you might try attending one of those and might find what you are looking for. Only a fairy ride away S

mistoferin -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 9:30:40 AM)
I just keep thinking that if the OP"s post had asked where all the "fit" female submissives were and she stated that all she ever sees are "chunky" female submissives....well, this thread would be about 17 pages long by now! LOL

Lynnxz -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 9:40:28 AM)
Women are touchier about their weight. (Mostly)

akisha -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 9:43:35 AM)
How does the saying go.... "Men and women will not be equal untill a woman can walk down the street, with a beer gut, bald and nothing but a pair of old shorts on and still think she's sexy" Something like that anyway. I've come to view things like this as just another fat thread, and everyone says the same thing on ever fat thread. so why repeat it again? Wow edited cause I obviously can't spell beer today

HeavansKeeper -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 10:55:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz Women are touchier about their weight. (Mostly) Fat and Happy, reporting for duty. Society is more accepting of overweight men because, stereotypically (a force which is changing slowly) men are praised for their things while women are praised for their bodies. A good job, a nice house, a legion of followers, a flash car, a big boat, a warm sense of humor... The list can go on and on about what makes a man "attractive" before we see any physical characteristic. The first one we see is "handsome", and that's not a body-attribute. Women are, sadly, too often judged first by looks, then by the facts of their existence. I don't mind this objectification when discussing cows (yes, the farm animal). When products are sold and bought the specifications are public. Height, weight, muscle:fat ratio are all important to the slaughterhouse. If the same factors are important to a person acquiring a human, then they should be looked at. Physical traits vary and inevitably fail over time, so I don't shop for them. In short, I'm completely fine with people wanting "pretty things". It would be hypocritical of me to call an owner of fine art a "connoisseur", and an owner of fine humans "shallow". More power to you, MistressONYX. Go get your pretty thing. BUT... just as an art collector doesn't find Van Gogh's at every garage sale, your search is harder because of your extra demands. Here I'm assuming shallow is used in a derogatory manner, not just to say "likes pretty things".

cantilena -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 10:55:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: akisha "Men and women will not be equal untill a woman can walk down the street, with a beer gut, bald and nothing but a pair of old shorts on and still think she's sexy" LOL... quite frankly, I wouldn't find that sexy in a guy either. Especially if the old shorts are plaid. [:D]

akisha -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 11:12:47 AM)
Well neither do I but they still seem to think they are hehe I agree, especially if they are those nasty fades droopy brown plaid ones. Those should be outlawed hehe

rubberpet -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 11:26:16 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressONYX Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves? Hmmm, I don't know where they might be, but I know I'm taken. [:D] (Sorry, couldn't resist.) Seriously though...they are out there. Patience is a virtue. I hope you find the subby guy of your dreams. [:)]

Arpig -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 11:39:23 AM)
Taken

kittinSol -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 11:41:49 AM)
Eaten polite burp .

DavanKael -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 12:44:14 PM)
Lol, I'm not sure about right where you are but I've noted a number of profiles for sit, straight male subs/slaves on CM in general. Typically, women are more forgiving of men for their physical deviations from the 'ideal' but you're very clear that you are not, so I think it's reasonable that you're making clear it's part of your 'must haves'. And, as some others have suggested, you may need to expand your search to more 'vanilla' venues. Ooh, how about colleges? My best friend is of the opinion that most boys will live upto the kink you'd ask of them. I'm not sure that that's really accurate but I do think there are more that fit your criteria if you venture out into the rest of the world. Best wishes, Davan

aravain -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 1:54:34 PM)
~FR~ I ate them... and flipped 'em too! ~Aravain, who's feeling silly today EDIT: awww kittin got here first

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Where are all the fit straight subs and slaves. (3/12/2009 2:14:04 PM)
Couldbe. quote: ORIGINAL: mistoferin I just keep thinking that if the OP"s post had asked where all the "fit" female submissives were and she stated that all she ever sees are "chunky" female submissives....well, this thread would be about 17 pages long by now! LOL

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