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Aswad -> RE: So what causes Y/your Switch? (4/6/2007 11:15:48 PM)
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ORIGINAL: arayofsunshine55
I sure could imagine fighing for supremacy with another switch. I've done it with women with whom the physical difference is a bit less, more evenly matched for a true wrestling takedown. Yummy. Might have to take some wrestling lessons.
You could consider BJJ, Aikido or some kind of koryu ju-jutsu. Personally, I've found the latter to be very useful in overpowering and physical restraint, which can sometimes be helpful in dealing with my slave, as she is actually physically stronger than me.
One thing I always found odd is how it appears there are comparatively few lifestyle switches.
Switching in the context of a session might make sense for regular play, but personally I can't see how such an enormous gap in state of mind can be made in such a short span of time as some of the posters indicate. That's probably because I'm not that kind of switch.
Personally, I have a dominant inclination by default. However, my emotions and my "buttons" are almost perfectly symmetrical at all times (no actual "switching" in the sense of changing state), so I can move into subspace as well, for the right person.
Dissociation and/or compartmentalization work well for me in this regard, something that is fairly rare in the absence of childhood trauma IIRC, though I never experienced any. Basically, I can partition off memories, behaviours and facets of personality into "compartments" that are only active around a specific person or when consciously accessed by a complicated method. This has been useful for me in some professional security contexts, too.
If things had worked out differently, I might have ended up as a slave instead, but I don't think I would have been entirely content with that in the long term, and prefer the current situation of owning one.
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