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TigerNINTails -> RE: So what causes Y/your Switch? (4/11/2007 1:49:35 PM)
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That is a good point. It seems as if that's another one of those triggers. If a woman is independent of me in her life, and is capable of taking care of herself financially... Moreso, I think that if I'm not (and this is going to agree with another woman's viewpoint that boys seek to fall into their place, so the rest of their life will) taking care of things financially, and am in that position, and she's Top in her life, it might trigger me to bottom... But this also presumes that I'm live in or something, that it's a 24-7 thing... Which is something I'm not doing.
I'm coming from the stand point that we're referring to switching, more so on the fly, than we are for long term gains or relationships.
So that said, my above points stand on this issue, but it was interesting that WormsGoddess brought up that point, as it's in the realm of my experience. I was once the live in slave of a very good friend and former slave... Go figure.... Odd thing is that I don't normally switch with bottoms, but the case was this.
She began training with me, but from the outset it was known she was also a switch, and off and on we'd switch roles. One day, I just simply stopped switching. Something clicked. It had a lot to do with "I'm not providing for you, other than what I can do for you directly, and physically, mentally. I'm not providing financially, nor is this "my" environment." I was living in her house with her at the time. It just seemed to suit the situation well.
And it worked like that for greater than a year, until she decided to move to WA. That was an interesting time in my life, and I enjoyed every minute of it. But I found that it only applied to her.
As I'm not submissive, I'd often engage in conversations and have to school someone as to how to address me, or speak to me in general, because they seemed to have a misconception of my role with her and how it applied to them.
Food for thought... Never assume that any slave/bottom/switch that serves one person has any relative desire, nor prerequisite to serve anyone else. Nor does it automatically make them the slavebitch for the rest of the group, or anything of that nature... I think this thought is getting away.
Point being is that yes, strong conviction, an ability to provide (which enables me to focus on service), a firm hand, and a soft voice combine usually into ingredients for me to switch. But other than that, sometimes it happens for no other reason than a wish to "play" or to reaffirm my own knowledge of slave behaviour, or to learn a new technique.
Funny how I can find more thoughts on something I already covered... heheh... Peace.
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