LadyHugs
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Dear WestBaySlave, Ladies and Gentlemen;
First WestBaySlave, do you have any suggestions and or remedies to offer?
Second, it is unfortunate for BDSM at large to have a huge umbrella as far as behavior 'manners' goes, as nobody really knows how to start as a stranger, into the pre-existing realm of individuals into the scene.
With porn, BDSM movies and television skits, these things invite mishaps as there aren't any foundations on starting up a conversation as a stranger and or two a stranger, regardless of gender and or role.
I am from an age and location where children and younger adults addressed those older, as sir and or ma'am. The problem is once in the person to person interaction, one cannot tell if they are saying it in the context of 'sir' or 'Sir' or "SIR as a title/role."
Equal problem is when one has a screen name with sub, slave, mistress, master, etc., it is difficult for those to whom get 'slapped' per se, for using a label in a screen name and or scene name. For me, the person to whom uses that title in a label, e.g. screen name/scene name; invites these issues. Thus, I hope that realizing the problem of novices who are just so innocently trying hard to be accepted, will be given patience and guidence--and, not being blackballed for an error.
I do agree with several individuals, to whom posted concerning those individuals to whom assume too freely, and think being a Dominant automaticly affords obedience, respect and a person's submission. I also agree with those having posted as being addressed as an owner should be addressed, by a submissive/slave, to which they are not a familiar and or, part of the well explored relationship. It is hard to let some of these slaves/submissives down, advising that their 'claim' of my mistress --is premature and non-consensual.
But, what is important to me personally, and I am speaking for myself -- is the spirit of intent.
In this, I prefer to handle any false steps on a case by case basis. If the person is a bully, a person to whom is rude, sarcastic, casting insulting humor along with these titles and or speeches of politeness/respect, e.g. sir, ma'am, etc.; the embarrassment is not mine but, the person to whom is being thoughtless and or with purpose provoking a negative response.
I am pleased to say though, that most who address me, do so out of respect and or appreciation for who I am. Not just the title I bear and or have earned.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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