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Wheldrake -> RE: Sexual or True Submissive? (3/23/2009 1:53:13 PM)
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ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper
There's debate* as to why, but men tend to have a massive change after ejaculating. Anecdotally, I will add that getting off changes my stance on situations. Ideas that were once riveting and sexy are now disgusting, boring, menial, etc. This applies to dominant and submissive driven acts. Hell, I once tinkered with the idea of being made to paint a girl's room while she teased and humiliated me... After finishing, I thought it through and subcontracting to a painter was a better application of my time.
Yes, this is basically what it's like for me too. As a psychological phenomenon, it's really quite amazing. Mistress can tease and torture me to some incredible plateau of arousal - and then, literally the minute she lets me ejaculate, I fall off the plateau and suddenly nothing we're doing feels sexy or even particularly interesting. It's hard to believe that a small amount of fluid leaving my body could possibly have that much effect on my mental state, but it undeniably does. In the aftermath of an orgasm I tend to feel lazy, incredibly clear-headed, a bit silly, and completely asexual.
Under normal circumstances, my submissive feelings towards Mistress have a sexual part and an emotional part, but ejaculating makes the sexual part effectively disappear for a little while. The emotional part is still there, but it's a diffuse, long-term influence that isn't much help if Mistress wants to continue doing things to me or making me do things for her. In the visceral short-term, I have to sort of grin and bear it, forcing myself to obey and endure in a way that is almost never necessary when the sexual motivation is intact. Of course, I'm not complaining - having to cope with situations like that is part of what I signed up for, and feeds into that longer-term emotional satisfaction.
As for the OP being graphic, I thought the detail simply added to the impact of the story - but of course, different people have different sensibilities when it comes to that kind of thing.
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