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Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:10:08 PM   
inkywet


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Status: offline 		I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We are going to get married and have a life together. He says he loves me more than I will ever know. I love him back : )

But... i found some personal ads up on craigslist
Top looking for bottom. S/W/M 25 years old
Send me your pic and what you are into.

I confronted him about all this and he said that bdsm is not all about sex which is true... but, he posted this up 2 days after i left.

Also he has one in platonic friends and several in casual encounters. Basically saying he has weed and wanting girls to smoke with and hang out with but if anything happens so be it.

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:19:52 PM   
Lynnxz


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Status: offline 		Craigslist is dirty. ;)

He's trying to get laid- and/or looking for kinky pix. I'd consider it a breach of trust, and a pretty poor personals ad.

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:20:56 PM   
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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:22:51 PM   
LaTigresse


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Status: offline 		Oh good grief.........if you were my daughter I would tell you to dump his sorry ass faster than I could get the words out of my mouth.

Unless you have agreed to a poly type relationship, he's cheating and doesn't give a rat's fat ass about you.


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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:28:07 PM   
peppermint


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Status: offline 		What about this wonderful man do you love?  Do you love that you can trust him?  Do you love that he goes to Craig's list in search of women?  Do you love that he wants females to smoke and hang out with and not guy friends? 

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:32:47 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: inkywet

I am currently in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend. We are going to get married and have a life together. He says he loves me more than I will ever know. I love him back : )



I'm sorry. I know this is not what you want to hear, but either he's lying about how he feels about you and what his plans are for your future; or he does love you, but is cheating on you anyway. There is no third option. Either way, you'd have to be a fool to go ahead with him now.

Cheaters are cheaters, you'll never be able to trust him. Sorry, but the sooner you get his worthless, lying dog-ass out of your life, the sooner you can get over the heartache and start working on finding a decent man to replace this one.


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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:45:30 PM   
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Status: offline 		I am sorry you are hurting... but I am with LaT here.  I would be telling you to find someone worthy and dump his sorry ass.

I would personally be tempted to post a craigslist ad... saying you were dumping the top that wants to meet and smoke out with bottoms.  Posting it right where he would see it.  But that is the bitch in me...  and it isn't always best to react on the bitch parts! lol  But I would enjoy thinking of him reading it... as well as all those bottoms!  And... if he post's often.. I bet he isn't getting any or they aren't coming back for seconds.  But he is still trying and that is a betrayal of what he has said to you and promised.



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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:49:24 PM   
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Status: offline 		Yes, I'd say it sounds like cheating, but I'm curious about something...He's still placing ads to meet women, but you are still reading ads from men.  Are you sure that either of you are as serious about the relationship as you claim?

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:50:35 PM   
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If he was just a guy you were seeing.. and not a "Dom" wouldnt you immediately dump his ass and tell him to go to hell?

I know I sure as shit would.

Cut your losses. We are all worthy of having someone who actually cares for us in our lives. It sounds like he just cares about dipping his carrot.

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:52:35 PM   
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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 1:56:28 PM   
Lockit


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ORIGINAL: igor2003

Yes, I'd say it sounds like cheating, but I'm curious about something...He's still placing ads to meet women, but you are still reading ads from men.  Are you sure that either of you are as serious about the relationship as you claim?


They are long distance.  She is reading craigslist in his area.  I would assume she was checking on him becasue of one of those inner voices saying something isn't right.  Either she is concerned about it as her own issue or his and finding his ad's suggest to me the girl was simply figuring out what was what.

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:06:40 PM   
Viridana


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Status: offline 		I have to echo what other said. It's definately cheating.

Now you have to make the tough decision on how you are goint to handle it. Are you going to work it out with him or leave.
I personally vote the latter option. It takes a lot of committment, work and penance on his part to be able to gain trust again. I'm not saying it's impossible..... but extremely hard.

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:18:43 PM   
LaTigresse


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I said it in your other thread and I will say it again in this one.

It is grossly apparent that this boy cannot even begin to master himself. WHY on earth would you want to trust him to attempt to master you???

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:31:59 PM   
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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:37:23 PM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		cheating or not, he sounds extremely irresponsible...not someone to put your life in the hands of, especially while you are bound & gagged.
didn't he choose to go to jail rather than support his offspring...then blamed it on the post office?
or was that a different guy?

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:39:58 PM   
Lockit


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ORIGINAL: VeryNastyDom

If you had to post this question in a public forum, deep inside yourself you already know the answer.  Position him gently over the trap door, make sure the pond is well stocked with hungry alligators, and press the red button.  Wave.


I smiled as I read... and then that wave!  I lost it then... I could so picture doing that! ROFL  Bah bye!

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:41:43 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		Yes, I would.  Now I have a question for you.

If this person was just your boyfriend instead of your <cough> dom, would you still want your life to be like this?


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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:43:58 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Yes, I would.  Now I have a question for you.

If this person was just your boyfriend instead of your <cough> dom, would you still want your life to be like this?



From the other thread that she started, yes it appears that she does. 

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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:50:05 PM   
Bella1965


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quote:

ORIGINAL: VeryNastyDom
If you had to post this question in a public forum, deep inside yourself you already know the answer.  Position him gently over the trap door, make sure the pond is well stocked with hungry alligators, and press the red button.  Wave.
*wipes off monitor*

Next time, wait 'til I'm not drinking Diet Pepsi Max please. I needed my caffeine jazz and you just made me waste about half the mug. Warning labels would be nice...


Stay safe, play nice, & share your toys w/ others...





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RE: Would you consider this cheating? - 3/23/2009 2:50:32 PM   
littlewonder


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Status: offline 		Even if it wasn't cheating...why the hell would you waste your time on such a man?



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