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IronBear -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (3/31/2009 10:42:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Kaiel

I don't quite get the initial posters question... but I will reply that I am 35 and you can see Me in My pic and My boy is 52... I don't consider him old and def. not ugly... to Me, he's hot hot hot... and I think he thinks I am pretty cute...LOL...



I’ll second the cute comment although I would have said gorgeously cute.. [;)]




kiwisub12 -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (3/31/2009 12:39:34 PM)

Older = experience.
Younger = inexperience.

If you are a young sub, would you want a young inexperienced dom, or an older experienced dom?  Not that i am saying young is inexperienced, but if you did a poll regarding age and experience, i am reasonably sure that most people would equate age with experience as a general rule.  And if you are in your 20's, and a dom, how  much real life experience could you really have, compared to a dom in their 30's and above, who has been in the lifestyle for a while?

ok, ok - there are always exceptions, but there is a reason why young doctors get enquiries about their experience.




Prinsexx -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (3/31/2009 1:29:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Prinny, I'm sorry, but I disagree.  I don't go along with the thinking that an "ism" can be attached to personal preference.  Nor do I think it should be.  We're not talking about housing, jobs, or opportunities to be in the community.  We're talking about who we chose to play with or have in intimate relations in our lives.  I mean, are we really at the point where we're going to slap an "ism" on something just because someone picked a certain look for a partner?

I'm not saying I have slapped an 'ism' onto anything... I'm saying that 'seeing' age in the first place is innate.....part of how and why we see babies and kittens and cubs and all young as 'cute'... part of the way in which we recognize parents as yarents... it's innate. It's why plastic surgery is such big business, why cosmetic youth is a growing desire.
I am saying age is also 'learned'.. and not necessarily valued in this society... in as much as ;wise' is not automatically associated with age.

The balance of innate and learned could be debated forevermore. And what I am saying is that what I desire and crave and consent to is like an inversion of what I learned was
the 'natural order' of things. Technically my Master is young enough to be my son.

No I am not slapping an 'ism' onto WIITWD. All I am saying is that although it would be complicated, there is probably an explanation for what choices we are making when we play... given that much of the smbd community goes against the vanilla grain of what is acceptable in socity as a whole.




LookieNoNookie -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (3/31/2009 5:21:51 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MARAA

First,this is no offense or negative towards you with young partners what so ever (whatsoever).
It just stroke (struck) me, looking at one of those adds (ads) with bondage, they were all young subs with old men, most of them had (have) seen better days.

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Getting off on some hot,young chic. There were nothing else! All were young and pretty.  (Just a thought to consider....old, baggy, flabby women....well they just don't sell well on the whole porn theme).

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I myself happen to be in my 30'ies (30's) but looks much younger, and I cant (can't) help relating to all those Dom´s (Dom's) Ive (I've) met,that more,or less, prefered (preferred) it that way and or those young pretty subs. (also met the opposite(comma)those that dont (don't) care(comma)but I think there are a lot of the first group,and it annoys the hell out of me, I think its superficial.

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So now I ask you,what you have experienced and how important it really is. Is it getting worse for those of you,that happen to look good?

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Do you meet more shallow ppl? just wondering.. in general.. im (I'm) pissed thats (that's) why and curious (.)


Thankfully, I'm 50 (wayyyyy the fuck old), so I'm vastly more flexible....and frankly hon...I prefer women my own age....so don't mix all of us old fuckers in with your assumptions.

Most of us prefer women who can talk in coherent sentences (and can spell, paraphrase....it's just our thing...nothing against those who can't...honest).

Those that prefer the sweet young thangs....I have no clue what they're looking for.  Yeah...it's nice to look at candy...but...at some point...they open their mouths....and that's where the trouble starts.

So...before you assume ("ass"..."u"..."me"...etc.), consider your audience hon....many of us are old fuckers...and most of us prefer our own age.

(We actually enjoy talking to women that don't know how to twitter).

L.




BeIgnited -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (3/31/2009 5:51:24 PM)

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Most of us prefer women who can talk in coherent sentences (and can spell, paraphrase....it's just our thing...nothing against those who can't...honest).


Her profile lists her as from Denmark.

I think it's likely English is not her first language.






IronBear -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (3/31/2009 7:20:17 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LookieNoNookie

Thankfully, I'm 50 (wayyyyy the fuck old), so I'm vastly more flexible....and frankly hon...I prefer women my own age....so don't mix all of us old fuckers in with your assumptions.

Most of us prefer women who can talk in coherent sentences (and can spell, paraphrase....it's just our thing...nothing against those who can't...honest).

Those that prefer the sweet young thangs....I have no clue what they're looking for.  Yeah...it's nice to look at candy...but...at some point...they open their mouths....and that's where the trouble starts.

So...before you assume ("ass"..."u"..."me"...etc.), consider your audience hon....many of us are old fuckers...and most of us prefer our own age.

(We actually enjoy talking to women that don't know how to twitter).

L.


Generally I am inclined to agree with you but then many women I know in their early 30s (My wife's age) are more than capable of holding a logical and sensible discussion without the modern usage of "like" sprinkled into every sentence. The ones I do have more problems understanding are those in their teens and early 20's but I plod on and usually am able to underconstumble what they are saying. I generally set my lower age limits at early 30's and I do require any potential slave to have a reasonable grasp of the English Language. The rest such as correct diction and deportment can be taught.




asianchloe -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (4/2/2009 10:09:09 PM)

I'm probably in the minority here but even when I look for play only situations, compatibility is important. Engaging with someone on a BDSM level is very intimate to me and I'm just not interested in playing with someone I don't like, admire and respect.



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ORIGINAL: LadyPac

I would contend that for those who seek something in particular from a play only situation (not a dynamic or relationship) compatibility isn't always a necessary ingredient.







ThatDamnedPanda -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (4/2/2009 10:12:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BeIgnited

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Most of us prefer women who can talk in coherent sentences (and can spell, paraphrase....it's just our thing...nothing against those who can't...honest).


Her profile lists her as from Denmark.

I think it's likely English is not her first language.





Yes. And I'd say her English is probably one hell of a lot better than anyone else's Danish in this thread.




asianchloe -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (4/2/2009 10:19:40 PM)

I agree on life experience that for me older people have had more interesting lives (in general), but not sure about the point on "lifestyle". Not everyone gets into the lifestyle at the same time and certainly not everyone acts on it when they feel the urge to explore. I've met experienced 23 year-olds (into the scene since they were 16) and novice 50-year-olds. In fact, (probably due to my age), I encounter many middle-aged men (by that I mean in their 40s) who have no experience whatsoever who want to meet a partner who will teach them Kink 101.


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ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

Older = experience.
Younger = inexperience.

If you are a young sub, would you want a young inexperienced dom, or an older experienced dom? Not that i am saying young is inexperienced, but if you did a poll regarding age and experience, i am reasonably sure that most people would equate age with experience as a general rule. And if you are in your 20's, and a dom, how much real life experience could you really have, compared to a dom in their 30's and above, who has been in the lifestyle for a while?

ok, ok - there are always exceptions, but there is a reason why young doctors get enquiries about their experience.





asianchloe -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (4/2/2009 11:26:29 PM)

Hey, LookieNookie, this was fun! Let's do it again sometime!

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ORIGINAL: MARAA

First,(insert space)this is no offense or (being) negative towards you with young partners what so ever (whatsoever).
It just stroke (struck) me, looking at one of those adds (ads) with bondage, (that) they were all young subs with old men, (and that) most of them had (have) seen better days.

(Paragraph).

Getting off on some hot,(insert space)young chic (chick). There were (was) nothing else! All were young and pretty. (Just a thought to consider....old, baggy, flabby women....well they just don't sell well on the whole porn theme).

(Paragraph).

I (insert comma) myself (insert comma) happen to be in my 30'ies (30's) but looks (look) much younger, (comma not necessary) and I cant (can't) help relating to all those Dom´s (Dom's) (Doms) Ive (I've) met, that more,(comma not necessary) or less, prefered (preferred) it that way and (/) or those young (insert comma) pretty subs. (also met the opposite(comma)those that dont (don't) care(comma)but I think there are a lot of the first group, (comma not necessary) and it annoys the hell out of me, (since) I think its (it's) superficial.

(Paragraph again)....

So now I ask you,(insert space)what you have experienced and how important it really is (was it?). Is it getting worse for those of you, (comma not necessary) that happen to look good?

(Paragraph).

Do you meet more shallow ppl? just wondering..(...) in general..(...) im (I'm) pissed thats (that's) why and curious (.)






asianchloe -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (4/2/2009 11:34:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ThatDamnedPanda

Yes. And I'd say her English is probably one hell of a lot better than anyone else's Danish in this thread.



JEG ikke stemme overens.




greeneyedreamer -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (4/3/2009 4:26:15 AM)

WOW... being an "ugly old woman" I happen to like "ugly old men" They tend to be quite handsome in my eyes. :::shakes head, thinks " and those fake boobs are pretty? LOL":::




Arpig -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (4/3/2009 12:05:18 PM)

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Cause I want to know what "old" and "ugly" are





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torkinkycouple -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (5/2/2009 7:29:20 AM)

Hey, Hollister clothes are expensive. You do what you gotta do.




Fitznicely -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (5/2/2009 7:37:28 AM)

This thread gives me hope for the future [:D]




LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (5/2/2009 7:58:14 AM)

I do not k now i want someone I can talk about things i have experinced  and band like  I like you know when someone is not for your when you ask do you remeber that band called journey or styx or that program that on they go who what

um it is really not rocket science sex is one thing love is another   and for a lasting relationship you have to have balance
if the age is to great  it will not work  and you always want the odds in your fav for stable none drama peaceful nurturing hot passionate rock hard  honding with the person your with  just my take on it  why would i want to grow up again  shrugs
or raise someone elses ums




IronBear -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (5/2/2009 8:59:29 AM)

Could I have that again in English please?  [:D]




breatheasone -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (5/2/2009 9:13:31 AM)

~~FR~~
Daddy says when  fat, balding ,40-50 something women can walk down the street and think their God's gift to men....THEN there will be equality of the sexs LOL




subtlebutterfly -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (5/2/2009 9:19:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

~~FR~~
Daddy says when  fat, balding ,40-50 something women can walk down the street and think their God's gift to men....THEN there will be equality of the sexs LOL


Is it just me or hasn't that happened already?[8|]




LaTigresse -> RE: Young subs and old ugly men (5/2/2009 9:21:36 AM)

I am NOT balding!!!

yet....




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