RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay

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atypicalsub -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (4/4/2009 9:08:01 PM)
The sad part is that there is a stigma at all. Why should anyone care about how someone else has sex, or who they choose to do it with? Why can't people just do what they enjoy and let others make their own choices without being judged. Why should there be any negative connotations to a man being gay or bisexual?

LadyPact -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (4/4/2009 9:14:12 PM)
There shouldn't. That's the other problem with it along with the terminology.

OrionTheWolf -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (4/4/2009 9:36:37 PM)
From everything I have read, it usually does not have anything to do with homosexual desires. The anus is actually the first part of our bodies we feel anything close to a sexual pleasure from during early development (do not want to go into detail because of TOS), not to mention the stimulation of the prostate. Not exactly sure why, but I have never been inclined to try or desire it. Each to their own I suppose. quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact But wouldn't the very fact that he is with a woman at the very least have him fall into the term bisexual if anything? The problem that I have with the terminology discussed here is that it isn't even accurate.

Tslaveboy -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (4/5/2009 12:24:39 AM)
In the privacy of your bedroom, who knows what you're doing. Unless you broadcast it to the world, then you're just asking for trouble if you already have issues with it. When I'm at work and this subject comes up, I let people know I get drilled with a dildo and I like it. Somehow I can explain it and no one thinks I'm gay. They think I'm wierd, but not gay.

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (4/26/2009 1:58:38 PM)
1) accused of being gay..what ??? is it a crime??narrow!!!!!!!!! 2) good heavans HALF the nerve endings of the pelvic region are in the anal area...it is of the most neglected erotic zones of the human being.. and having this area STIMULATED has little to do with your sexual orientation..who you fall in love with has a lot more... I let men put their fingers in my vagina...like lesbians do to fuk.. oh oh......... maybe I am a lez... and I let a woman use her strap on on me. oh my god !!!!!!!!!!! I am a HETERO...!! and I kissed a cat on the mouth once... am I a pussy ???????

BareBalls -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 5:34:03 AM)
Being a male who enjoys sex with both men and women I very much enjoy the feeling of a hard cock in my ass and have the guy breed me ( I am strictly a bottom with the guys) but enjoy fucking women just as much so there is a difference bewteen being bisexual , str8 and gay as I do not have sex with men only nor with women only then what else would one call it other than bisexual which is referred in the dict. as being one that is attracted to and has sex with both genders. quote: ORIGINAL: GoddessTeaze quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum ehhh two girls going at it.... gay... 2 guys taking turns up the ass... still gay. 2 bitches with da stud man HOTTT!!! BadOne Hello sexy SailingBum, I've done it with a hot sexy chick, but am still NOT GAY ! ya know, did you ever hear of the term Bi?? Because I'm very bisexual [;)] When guys take it up the ass, it doesn't mean they are gay at all, I fuck all My submissive men, and no one was gay, they can be bisexual too really ! Gay is loving the same gender, and want to b involved with only them!! Alright? Case closed. [:D] I wish you enough. GoddezzT`

vield -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 5:50:24 AM)
The discussion has lasted a long time and has gotten lots of comments, so it was a thought provoking question. In my own opinion, the ONLY label which can ever be accurate is one I apply to my own forehead. I have no guarantee that anyone else will understand what that label may mean to me. If I know someone else is wearing a label, the only way I can understand what that label means to them and they can understand what I think it means is for us to sit down together and discuss these points in detail. Language can be quite decieving without any intent to decieve by anyone in the communication. Throw in a few fears, inhibitions, ambitions and personal baggage, and everything can get very mixed up easily. The old example (Aristotle maybe?) of twelve blind men each attempting to describe an elephant based upon the part he touched comes to mind. All could mean well, all could be completely honest, and all could have very different opinions. In real life I have enjoyed MANY people who proudly wear certain sexual interest labels eagerly LOVING to enjoy things with me which one could ass u me the label would bar them from sharing with me!

GreedyTop -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 6:22:25 AM)
the 'discussion' only lasted 24 days, until it was resurrected almost 2 yrs later.

mycandor -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 6:22:37 AM)
Can anything really be so black and white any more? Sexuality is, or should be, about exploration. If it feels good...do it. It does not define a person. why should one be pigeonholed into one category or another. A friend in the lifestyle once told me that all girls are a little bi. Of course she also says that men can't be bi..and she does not believe in being a switch either...but I digress. I just find it amusing that being in this lifestyle, there is even a debate? Is it not hypocritical to be debating this issue when this lifestyle is all about pushing the limits of sexuality and experimentation? I on some level, believe that Most so called masters are bloated, bald, macho tools who could not get laid unless there were others out there with low self esteem willing to submit. But again I digress.

GreedyTop -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 6:26:52 AM)
what is this "lifestyle" you speak of? Lifestyle the first definition.. pretty much out teh window. and from the World English Dictionary, I think we can pretty much toss out defs 2 and 3. Def 1 is iffy at best.

81song -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 7:17:48 AM)
I do not want to get into what is or what is not gay or not, I can only tell you from my point of view and what has happen to me. After living many years in Key West (when it was a cheap place) I had never lived in a community like that. After the military moved out the island went through some changes and after a while the gay community seemed to gather there more and more. I had a lot of gay friends and was very comfortable around them it was just the disco music that got to me. Anyway lords knows how many times I have been hit on down there and I found that wearing a bathing trunks downtown was not cool. Men just never did it for me, was not my thing. But back to the subject at hand, I always was thinking if I enjoy anal sex that meant I was gay or at least bi sexual. Fast forward to about 10 years ago or so when I met my first Domme and had my first real scene with her. When we sat down before hand she told me a few things that just made me ever so nerviest and it was that dam butt plug. She told me about a man’s g-spot and all that but I was not thrilled at all about it but was open to it. After our scene we talked for a while and she showed me the dildo she used me (I was blind and could not hear). It was hard to believe that thing was in me and I learned that one could enjoy anal sex and not be gay or bi. So I am still learning along the way but like some have said, it is not so black and white.

Twoshoes -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 7:20:41 AM)
Here's what to do when someone calls you gay: "Hey, you're gay." "Thanks."

GreedyTop -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 7:22:17 AM)
applauds 2S

LadyPact -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 7:22:41 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mycandor Can anything really be so black and white any more? Sexuality is, or should be, about exploration. If it feels good...do it. It does not define a person. why should one be pigeonholed into one category or another. A friend in the lifestyle once told me that all girls are a little bi. Of course she also says that men can't be bi..and she does not believe in being a switch either...but I digress. I just find it amusing that being in this lifestyle, there is even a debate? Is it not hypocritical to be debating this issue when this lifestyle is all about pushing the limits of sexuality and experimentation? I on some level, believe that Most so called masters are bloated, bald, macho tools who could not get laid unless there were others out there with low self esteem willing to submit. But again I digress. OK. Bad enough that somebody pulled up a two year old thread so he could make us all aware of who and how he likes to fuck (as if anybody cared). You want to add onto it the above, which on it's own is pretty much ridiculous. Tell your friend that today you met a woman (I really don't prefer to be called a girl) that who isn't a little bit bi, so she can toss her theory out the window. You can also tell her that men absolutely can be bi if they desire both genders sexually. Switches certainly do exist, whether she believes in them or not. Before you start deciding what the lifestyle means regarding other people's exploration and sexuality, maybe you'd better realize that it doesn't mean to everyone else what it means to you. Last time I checked, there hasn't been a vote and nobody has been elected to be the spokesperson for the kink community.

tazzygirl -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 7:24:14 AM)
~Volunteers to be elected

GreedyTop -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 7:25:24 AM)
gawd, I adore you, LadyP

DarkSteven -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 7:53:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mycandor I on some level, believe that Most so called masters are bloated, bald, macho tools who could not get laid unless there were others out there with low self esteem willing to submit. But again I digress. Huh?

TotalDiscipline -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 8:50:30 AM)
Men, anal sex <> and accusations of being gay : correct Man, female, anal sex <> and accusations of being gay : incorrect

PeonForHer -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 9:50:52 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Twoshoes Here's what to do when someone calls you gay: "Hey, you're gay." "Thanks." Excellent. [;)] I tend to think, 'So you want to think that I'm gay? Then go right ahead and think it. Yup, I'm a raving, screaming, Sex in the City watching, white-wine-drinking, needlecraft-loving, vegan, yoga-fan, tap-dancing, shirtlifter'. Gawd. My father got rid of an employee once because he stank so badly that he was destroying the office atmosphere. It transpired he wouldn't wear underarm deodorant, nor even use soap, because he held that 'only gays did that'. He refused to change his habits. I mean, really - why should we even be respecting such views in this century, never mind considering them?

PeonForHer -> RE: Men, anal sex, and accusations of being gay (1/28/2011 9:54:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mycandor I on some level, believe that Most so called masters are bloated, bald, macho tools who could not get laid unless there were others out there with low self esteem willing to submit. Whoa. That sentence does not sit well with the others in your post, mycandor. I think you could do with reconsidering it.

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