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Andalusite -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 3:57:01 PM)
Seriously, there are lots of guys looking for online hookups, who would be happy to get involved with a married man on the down-low! Some of them will even do BDSM, and they don't charge for it! I'd recommend full body condoms, though.[:'(] I'm glad you didn't choke on your coffee - someone made me laugh while I was drinking strawberry soda once, and it came out my nose! At least it wasn't hot!

AlexandraLynch -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 4:21:30 PM)
I personally could never be a pro domme. I fall in love with the people I dominate. (weird, huh? It's just how I'm wired.) I think it's fair that in any relationship you do look at what the other person has to offer you. Some of it is money, some of it is connections, some of it is experience and personalities. I am not looking to financially domme anyone. However, if a sub says, "Let me take you out to dinner and a bookstore, and don't worry, I'm paying," I'd love it, because I don't get to unrestrainedly shop in a used book store too often. (I couldn't give a shit about clothes or shoes. Books, though, and fabric....um....)

SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 4:33:16 PM)
to answer the question posed in the subject, because I'm sure this is four legitimate responses and 10 pages of poo flinging, I don't respond to any Domme that is looking for a generous sub because I'm pretty much the most generous, shirt off my back, give you a kidney if you needed it, drop everything because someone needs to talk to me about something type person ever and shockingly those Dommes don't really respond to that. I'll give my soul, the moons and stars to the right person, but they'd never ask or expect it, therefore deserve it.

azjojoba -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 4:33:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MoGa quote: Most of the older women are sincere but they want 24/7 sugardaddies to support them. Either way, the women here want to be paid to be a dominant. quote: Well put....now watch the usual suspects disparage you and call you names for this post. First of all, I have no intentions of calling anyone names, and I am not one of the usual suspects who come out to defend myself here. But this statement is just as ridiculous as I have ever seen. I am an older woman here. I do not want to be paid in any way, shape or form. I do not need a man to save me or support me in any way. Such a blanket statement as the one quoted should be corrected to say "Some* women here want to be paid to be a dominant".* What is wrong with a woman knowing what she wants and goes after it? What is wrong with a man who knows what he wants and pays for it? Why does it bother so many people on here who are not into this? If you aren't into a kink, stay out of it. Is that so hard to understand? Truly there are subs out there who offer me money all the time to get their kink on, a kink that involves paying me. I don't put them down for it. To some submissives it IS their kink. I say a polite no thanks and move on. Jesus, how hard can that be? MoGa You are arguing semantics. You think instead of "most" I should have said "some". Why don't you look at the postings in your area and see how many under the age of 30 want to get paid? And how many over 50 want 24/7? I'll stick to "most" since that is more accurate. Folks, I don't have anything against younger women charging. In fact I think it's OK for all women to charge as long as there are men who want to pay for services. I'm not making value statements, I'm just stating the facts. Use the search engine for dominant women if you doubt what I am writing. Filter it by age groups.

azjojoba -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 4:35:04 PM)
quote: LadyConstanze I appreciate your sense of humor, but I wish you would make more sense!

azjojoba -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 4:44:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze Since you don't want to pay, you expect us to deliver the service pro-dommes deliver for free even if you call them prostitutes, You are arguing semantics. I know the word "prostitute" has a negative connotation, which is unfortunate. That's a reflection of our sexist society. You probably prefer a politically correct term like "professional", which in my mind is really a stupid thing to call somebody that charges for sexual services. Can't somebody come up with a word that is better than a generic term like professional, which could probably mean any type of skilled worker?

azjojoba -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 4:54:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze I think that brings up the old question, what do you have to offer a dominant woman? The fact that you are married and try to sneak behind your wife's back to see a domme? A very tempting offer for any age group. Married men appeal to many women -- mostly those that want to have fun without worrying about being with a guy that's going to fall in love with them, or want excessive attention, or whatever. It's called NSA, and if no women liked that kind of relationship than there wouldn't be affairs. Lady, these things should be obvious to you. I guess you just get a real kick out of dinging me about my marital status. You should be a little more forgiving but I'm not going to fool myself into thinking that will happen any time soon. Uh, just out of curiousity -- how many times have you been with married men?

LadyPact -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 5:40:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azjojoba Married men appeal to many women -- Not so many around here, it seems. At least not those of the lying/cheating variety. Exactly how many times do you need to be told to man up with your wife?

Lynnxz -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 6:42:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyPact quote: ORIGINAL: azjojoba Married men appeal to many women -- Not so many around here, it seems. At least not those of the lying/cheating variety. Exactly how many times do you need to be told to man up with your wife? coughsnortchoke

ShaharThorne -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 6:47:36 PM)
keeping her hipwaders on just in case

PeonForHer -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 7:25:42 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: azjojoba Most of the women on CM want money if they are under 30. Of course that's the age when prostitutes are most marketable. Most of the older women are sincere but they want 24/7 sugardaddies to support them. Either way, the women here want to be paid to be a dominant. I can't speak for those under thirty because I don't usually contact them, or they me. But what you say about older women wanting 'sugardaddies' . . . .just doesn't match my experience at all. I've got to know too many of them, for too long, to believe otherwise. Neither does what you say square with what I've learned generally makes dominant women tick. Hell, life would be so much easier if all I had to pay in order to have a real relationship was money. That's the irony of all this, for me.

ZenDragoness -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 7:45:03 PM)
The more accepted term would be sex worker, that is what i used to call myself and would call myself again if i choose to work again in that line of work. But, i really hate people who sell sex or bdsm and give it flowery names, that is bigottery and always seems to me like the old wash me but do not make me wet.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 7:50:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky to answer the question posed in the subject, because I'm sure this is four legitimate responses and 10 pages of poo flinging, I don't respond to any Domme that is looking for a generous sub because I'm pretty much the most generous, shirt off my back, give you a kidney if you needed it, drop everything because someone needs to talk to me about something type person ever and shockingly those Dommes don't really respond to that. I'll give my soul, the moons and stars to the right person, but they'd never ask or expect it, therefore deserve it. So, where are you going to live after you graduate? Have you considered say... Michigan? [:D]

ZenDragoness -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 7:50:31 PM)
On the other hand, outside of the realm of bdsm, some days ago i talked with my 70 years old neighbour. He is totally unattached, good looking, funny, has some experience, extremely fit and is intelligent. What he has not is a lot of money. After my asking why since his last relationship nothing new developed, he said because i can not wine and dine the ladies. Sure i can cook very good for them, but i have not enought money to take care of another person financially. I said, at 60-70 the women should have learned to provide for themselves, he still stayed by his opinion. I do not know if this right, but my husband has the same opinion.

SlaveBlutarsky -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 8:35:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus quote: ORIGINAL: SlaveBlutarsky to answer the question posed in the subject, because I'm sure this is four legitimate responses and 10 pages of poo flinging, I don't respond to any Domme that is looking for a generous sub because I'm pretty much the most generous, shirt off my back, give you a kidney if you needed it, drop everything because someone needs to talk to me about something type person ever and shockingly those Dommes don't really respond to that. I'll give my soul, the moons and stars to the right person, but they'd never ask or expect it, therefore deserve it. So, where are you going to live after you graduate? Have you considered say... Michigan? [:D] I almost drove to Michigan to have lunch with someone last week :) Ann Arbor is one of the graduate schools I'm looking at FWIW.

azjojoba -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/12/2009 11:11:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ZenDragoness The more accepted term would be sex worker, that is what i used to call myself and would call myself again if i choose to work again in that line of work. But, i really hate people who sell sex or bdsm and give it flowery names, that is bigottery and always seems to me like the old wash me but do not make me wet. I think that's a far better term. There is certainly nothing wrong with being a sex worker and I agree with the flowery names -- it's like calling a garbage collector a sanitary engineer. LOL!

KoolnSassy -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/13/2009 10:05:58 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 quote: ORIGINAL: DrkJourney I don't see any list in my profile, You must not be True. True dominants have lists. I, for example, keep a list of all the lists I keep. LMAO

Observer20 -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/13/2009 4:21:18 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyConstanze As for Observer, well, maybe if he would step away from his keyboard and stop fantasizing all the time, he wouldn't be quite so bitter, previously he was haunting a pro-domme board and screamed "Men are abused here" - duh, that made him immensely popular especially with the men who paid to get abused, but nice to see that he's off to poison other wells... I'm entitled to my opinions and post my "poison" anywhere I please. All of the insults & shaming language won't change anything. I don't expect everyone to agree, but there are major double standards on this board in my opinion. On the other board, I never said "men were abused." You don't agree, fine. You don't have to be so nasty about it, unless it was striking a nerve. Considering I was nice to you in the past, I can only assume the only problem you have with me is I don't agree with you. Oh well, I won't lose any sleep over it.

RedMagic1 -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/13/2009 4:38:45 PM)
Observer, it's not objectively true that most women on CM under the age of 30 "want money." You agreed with another poster who made that statement. It's not an "insult" to point out that your opinions are not based in reality. Your experiences may be colored by the fact that non-pro women (and non-scammer profiles) choose not to answer your emails for whatever reason. If the only female profiles you are able to correspond with are ones that want money, that says something about your approach, not about the women who use the site.

azjojoba -> RE: What do you think of all the dommes seeking "generous" men? (5/13/2009 4:46:02 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RedMagic1 Observer, it's not objectively true that most women on CM under the age of 30 "want money." You agreed with another poster who made that statement. It's not an "insult" to point out that your opinions are not based in reality. Your experiences may be colored by the fact that non-pro women (and non-scammer profiles) choose not to answer your emails for whatever reason. If the only female profiles you are able to correspond with are ones that want money, that says something about your approach, not about the women who use the site. The majority of profiles of women under 30 say that they want money. Of course they use code words. It's hard to characterize women over 50 because there are so few of them. In the age bracket from 30-40 it's probably more of a 50/50 chance of them wanting some kind of monetary payback. I have no problem with women who want to be paid -- they are young and beautiful and if they want to use their good looks to earn some cash it's no big deal. It's my choice if I want to buy their services or not (I don't use pros). It would be nice if there was a radio button they could click in their to say they are a pro because reading all their profile stuff just to find the code words is a big waste of time. Could collarme consider adding a feature like this?

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