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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus
One of the things that amazes me about kink dating is how incredibly cheap some of the men are. Like, not offering to buy a coffee cheap. These are the men that don't get a second meeting. I don't use "generous" as a criterion in my profile, but it sure is in my mind! Monetary cheapness really does link up to miserliness in other areas.

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ORIGINAL: chiaThePet


Ok FINE.......here you go.

Easy coconut macaroons;

• 3 cups shredded coconut
• 1 cup sweetened condensed milk
• 1/8 teaspoon salt
• 1 1/2 teaspoons vanilla extract
• 1/2 teaspoon almond extract

Generously grease baking sheets. Combine all ingredients; stir until well blended.
Drop by teaspoonfuls, 1 inch apart, on prepared baking sheets. Press down with
the back of spoon to even thickness. Bake at 350° for 15 minutes, or until
macaroons are golden brown. Cool 5 minutes; remove from baking sheet.

For some added kink, add melted semi-sweet chocolate whilst blending, or,
dip half the cooled macaroon into melted milk chocolate. Ooooo edge play!

When entertaining in the dungeon on those special evenings, have your submissive
serve your guests in full collar and chaps as you seductively flog them along the
way, announcing, "Smacaroons everybody, Smacaroons".

chia* (the pet)

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ORIGINAL: Observer20

I really can't stand how some dominant women want to be "in charge" yet they still expect the man to pay for everything. LOL, its funny how people wants things both ways.

BTW this post isn't directed to anybody in particular, I dont know why it says its to LadyHibiscus

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ORIGINAL: LadyLupineNYC

Damnit!  Now no one will want to come over for MY macaroons since you gave out the whole recipe!!  *sulks* 

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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1

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ORIGINAL: AlexandraLynch
I'm not looking for a generous man.

Generosity is not a bad word, and it shouldn't become a word that needs to be defended, in my opinion.
I don't know about most people, but one of the qualities I apreciate in fellow human beings, is generosity, meaning nothing more than

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1 a: the quality or fact of being generous b: a generous act

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Additionally, dominants have a right to desire or demand whatever they desire, as long as they aren't forcing anyone against his/her will to submit.    M

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ORIGINAL: LadyLupineNYC
Go for the Hermes crop!).

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

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ORIGINAL: GotSteel
it IS a dating site.

Actually, no, it's not.

Here's the text from the google link for collarme: BDSM Personals - Collarme.com Notice the part where it says personals.

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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1

Dennison is not the original poster, unless I've missed the name change along the way. As to being shy as a problem, I don't think of it as a major problem, because I am very open about suggesting to a boy how to go about wooing me. Besides, I think shy guys (not to be confused with evasive guys), are cute. M

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1
On the other hand, "fancy dinners and expensive gifts" seems like an unwise filter to me

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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

My point is that you shouldn't confuse the online "confidence" that comes from horniness and seeing a username that starts with "asian" with the reality that not many people in the world -- male or female, straight or nilla -- are going to be more interested in you than in how you appear. In particular, people who spend a lot on trappings sometimes cannot see below them.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

It could be a confidence issue, yes. I NEVER ask anyone to pay for me on a first meeting--which to my mind is nothing like a "date"--but not asking if I would like a refill on my coffee, or even worse, not buying one for himself, show a level of miserliness that I don't accept. I have seen it from executives MUCH more than from blue collar types.

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ORIGINAL: Observer20

I really can't stand how some dominant women want to be "in charge" yet they still expect the man to pay for everything. LOL, its funny how people wants things both ways.

BTW this post isn't directed to anybody in particular, I dont know why it says its to LadyHibiscus

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ORIGINAL: asianchloe

Dennison IS the OP - at least he was when I signed on a few days ago and saw the thread. And while some shyness and awkwardness may be cute, I don't think Dennison is just shy. He's forward enough to list the sexual activities he enjoys/hopes to find from a partner [edited since then]. That's not shy; that's forward and crass. What he calls "shyness" was his response to why he hasn't gone to any live events. Rather than being due to a quiet or reserved demeanor (MY definition of shyness), I suspect it has to do with fear of rejection, lack of motivation or shame/embarrassment about his proclivities.

If Dennison is sincere about meeting people, he needs to take some risks (such as going to R/T events) and invest time and effort (starting with filling out a more detailed and interesting profile than "I'm interested in martial arts and I'm looking for dominant women").

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ORIGINAL: FullfigRIMAAM1

Dennison is not the original poster, unless I've missed the name change along the way. As to being shy as a problem, I don't think of it as a major problem, because I am very open about suggesting to a boy how to go about wooing me. Besides, I think shy guys (not to be confused with evasive guys), are cute. M

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ORIGINAL: asianchloe

If a first meeting isn't a date, then I wouldn't expect him/her to treat. But I thought we were talking romantic/dating relationships, not just two people meeting as friends.

When I was younger, I've dated fellow grad students/writers/artists who made the same amount of money as I did and we would split the tab or take turns treating the other. (I did notice that the Asian-Americans or European guys always treated even if they were poor). But I personally haven't met but one or two executives who didn't pay for the first coffee/drink/meal. But if someone can afford it but is stingy, it's worse. I don't mind dating someone who is poor; I mind dating someone who is CHEAP.

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ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus

Would you expect a vanilla date to pay her own way? 

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ORIGINAL: asianchloe
Is there such a thing?

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ORIGINAL: LadyLupineNYC
Go for the Hermes crop!).

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ORIGINAL: asianchloe

It's not just that more beautiful dommes are more money-minded. It's that more beautiful dommes can be more selective and if you don't meet their standards, SOME may be willing to play-for-pay. I'd say the reation you've gotten is more about the relationship between your attractiveness (photo, intelligence, interests, etc on profile) and the attractiveness of the domme you are contacting. (I'm speaking in generalities since I haven't seen your profile or the profiles of the women you've been in contact with).

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Have to remember, Panda, that within certain age groups/body types, it can be more common. It doesn't happen so often when one doesn't especially only read the profiles of pin up Dommes.