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aidan -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/7/2009 8:05:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: LovingMistress45

I WANT one!!!


I'll come jizz in your sock drawer to give the same effect.

'Cause I'm a giver.



SylvereApLeanan -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/7/2009 9:21:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: VelvetCruelty
He would put his tribute on the table, strip and get to work.  He'd take about two hours.  Never spoke a word, unless it was to ask about more cleaning supplies.  He knew what he was doing and my house was SPOTLESS! 


Wow.  Where do I get one of these in a 30-ish, female model?



manxcat -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/7/2009 10:57:38 PM)

I told a sub who was coming to visit, that there would be no strings housework.  He replied, "What's that?"  I responded, "You have it in your profile under loves.  What else in your profile don't you understand?"  "Mumble,mumble, mumble."  Was it really such a surprise that he was not submissive at all, and looking for something else entirely?  No, but he did work his little tushy off, but not at housework.  I didn't need any.

Peon, I am a gourmet cook, and can find all the things you lose.  That is not what i swallow.


I thought no strings housework was part of what he does to make my life easier.  But seriously, i do need someone to take care of all that for me.  I can do all the repairs (been a carpenter- had my own business in home renovation and repair) and build whatever i need (designed and built furniture).  But when i come home after 12 hours of classes 2 days a week, and from labs and work for 12 hours on 3 other days, 12 hours of work on the 6th day, anything i bring in the house that does not need refrigeration gets dropped on the floor until classes are over.  Oh and i sketch and edit on the 7th day.  Well i do that other days too.  And rather than clean during semester, i do online backgammon and collarme.

Oh yes, that is what littleSarbonn was talking about, shaktisama. 
Do you live anywhere near me ls?  Peon  doesn't, although he keeps threatening to make an American tour.... I say lets some of us Domina's fund his trip and see just how good his housekeeping skills are. littlesarbonn's too.[:D]  We can make it a contest to see who is best.[sm=alien.gif]

manxy



AlexandraLynch -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/7/2009 11:09:45 PM)

I seem to have acquired one. Without really trying to.

But understand, I have an issue with other people touching my stuff. It's probably a control thing, and if I had someone living in I could train on how I want things exactly it wouldn't be an issue, but for now it still is. So what I don't want is the invisible servant thing right now. What I want now is someone who comes in to spend time with us, sees me walk into the kitchen and says, "Can I help, ma'am?" and as I have a one-butt kitchen (I rate kitchens by how many butts moving about in them they can handle) sometimes I say, "Yes, I need you to do x," and more often I say, "Nope, will call you when I need you," because I like to cook and Kitten despises dishes so much that I am saving that lesson for a...special occasion. (evil grin)

Next week she and I are going to clean out a closet together. I have to make executive decisions about the contents; she is going to do the heavy work. Works for me.

And eventually she will probably learn how I do things and just be able to do them, the way she keeps a soda at my left hand and automatically takes out the trash when it is full now. And then that will be fine.



MissEnchanted -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/7/2009 11:26:59 PM)

OK, now that is a great idea.

My house will be after yours, ok?

We could get the ladies together and have tea while they work.

*rubbing hands together and chuckling* [:D]



RumpusParable -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 6:56:30 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Lockit

Okay, what is this thing called no strings housework?  I really want to know.  I have never seen no strings housework slaves/submissive's and I believe it is a fable... an evil little story that was created to torment dominant's with the fantasy of it.  Who was the evil lil one who decided it might be nice to entice a dominant woman with this little fable?

I have heard of no string house cleaning slaves, but I have never personally seen one.  Are they real?  Do they really come and clean and expect nothing?  Do they really know how to clean?

Tell me true... what should I do... believe in the fable and it might one day happen for me or move it along oh domina one... everyone knows no strings housework submissive's are not true????


Believe.  They're out there but RARE.  I've had what I would call one and am hoping to find one again someday!



FullfigRIMAAM1 -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 6:58:40 AM)

I've been offered no strings housework by married or otherwise unavailable folks...   I've never taken them up on it, because I have an uhm I don't like to expose to random strangers in our home.    They seemed sincere enough in the offer, so I cannot say it doesn't exist. [sm=sigh.gif].    M



PeonForHer -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 7:02:50 AM)

Manxy,

Thank you for the kind suggestion.  I feel my cheeks reddening already. 

You know, I actually feel a surge of competitiveness with you.  Do you reckon you could do all the DIY stuff better than I could?  Hah!  Can you use a kanga?  How are your electrics?  How's your plumbing (nothing rude meant there)?

But one thing:  the point I drew from littlesarbonn's post was that, though a sub might not offer 'no strings attached housework', he might well end up doing that gladly, anyway.  That's absolutely plausible to me.  What he probably won't want to do is housework for a dominant with whom he has no relationship of any real kind - by which I mean that she's neither dominating him nor even friendly with him.  That would, I'd imagine, be just dismal.  The thought of a dominant saying 'Here are the keys.  Do all the housework, and I'll see you to say goodbye when I get home' and 'reserve the real D/s stuff for my main partner' is quite depressing.



CarrieO -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 8:27:38 AM)

Lockit...

I've been thinking about this question and my experiences with regards to it and I wanted to post something before I get hit with painkillers (foot surgery later).

I'm a switch.  I started this journey as a submissive. I'm not a "pain slut" and humiliation/degradation doesn't excite me...it just makes me angry.  From early on, I've taken great pleasure in doing for others. I consider this serving...sex or play doesn't need to be involved. One of my earliest memoris was going to the house of an elderly neighbor woman and ironing her hankies and "pretties", as she called them.  I did this because it made her smile and it warmed my heart. As time went by, I started to realize that I really did enjoy "serving" others...to the point that I made a career choice that allowed me to express this need on a daily basis. I take pride in my work and my ability to make my employer's life simple and easier.  Chalk it up to too many viewings of "Upstairs/Downstairs"....I've given up trying to explain it.

The first Dom I was involved with saw this trait and allowed me to express it. He would invite me over for a "tidy-up" and that was it.  Yes, I wore clothes (cleaning in the nude or in some frilly maid's costume would be a waste for me...bleach stains and burns the skin!) and yes, he was there while I cleaned...not to oversee, but to do his own work.  He understood that this was my thing and we both benefited from the experience...He got a clean house and companionship and I got the chance to enjoy my "kink" ( thanks to undergroundsea for giving it some defination) and was able to spend time with someone who was great fun.  The treat of curling on the couch for a brief break to watch Sienfeld re-runs is one of those good memories.  We became more friends than play partners and I knew ultimatly it would not work for me because we had very different views on D/s.  We've parted as friends and he moved out of state.

After that, the experiences I've had with "no-strings housework" haven't been so pleasant. People like to take advantage of it so I no longer mention or offer it.

I've since moved more towards a dominant role in relationships....work is my way to express my "cleaning kink".
I've had offers from men to come clean my house....bathroom in particular (what's up with that?!) but when I push them to explain what that cleaning would entail, it comes back to them in "frilly pants" moving dust with a feather duster and me standing by...in "costume", of course...with whip in hand to punish them for a bad job.  Oh for god's sake!!! 
I agree with littlesarbonn, this type of activity is best done for someone who understands you and that you have some sort of relationship with. I'm still confused with my feelings as to this desire to serve in this capacity and I will need to find a partner that can understand (or at least try).

Yes, no-strings house-cleaning elves exist...and some really do like milk/oatmeal/honey. I prefer chocolate chip cookies!

I'm sorry that this became such a long post....just a touchy subject for me.  Thanks for giving me the opportunity to vent.



servantforuse -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 8:58:54 AM)

I have done 'no strings housework ' many times for women. Sometimes I have been rewarded but usually just told to leave when finished..



MamaDomme1 -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 9:49:20 AM)

~~FR~~

Lockit, I really don't get it either.

Back last summer, there was a guy that emailed me asking if he could come for *no-strings housework*.  His profile goes on and on about how his only happiness is to clean a Dominant woman's house.... him buying all his own supplies, etc. and the D not even have to be there.  He would just come to clean and leave.  After exchanging a few messages back and forth, it was decided that he could come clean.  Dude showed up a little late, but that was understandable due to the distance, brought his caustic cleaning supplies and was very shy.  He then spent the next hour changing into his frilly maid's costume, heels, stockings, wig, make-up, etc. and prancing and modeling.  It took him 3 frigging hours to wipe out a bathroom sink, tub and toilet!  Didn't even get to the floor!  All because he couldn't keep from staring into the mirror at himself and whining about sweat stains ruining his costume!  Oh, and there was a 2 hour lunchbreak to eat, drink a beer or two that he had stashed in his pickup, and change costumes!

And yeah, gave him a second chance--- it was an even bigger fiasco!  Got the kitchen floor swept & mopped that time.  And it only took 8 frigging hours!

So yeah, uhm...... no strings, my ass!  SOB shoulda had to pay me triple my normal rates for what I had to endure!





AlexandraLynch -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 10:07:19 AM)

See, MamaDomme, that's why I don't really want a sissymaid.  I'm sure it works fine for those that have them, but....no. Not for me.



MamaDomme1 -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 10:12:44 AM)

Yeah, I run when I get emails from anyone that even suggests they MIGHT be a sissy maid!  Just rumples me to no end to have to deal the the prancing and shit.

But now, send me some person that wants to come clean and just go...... I'm all over that!



Lockit -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 10:31:44 AM)

I made my post originally kind of joking because of how many times I have heard this or seen it on a profile and when asked, no one could really give me an answer on what it meant to them.  I went through a tough spot once and people were trying to hook me up so to speak and I didn't go for it because I didn't want to bring someone into my home just for housework unless I could pay them and at that time I could not.  I saw only what I wanted and that was a relationship eventually and wasn't ready for that at the time.  But I did find that those that said it didn't know what it was, didn't mean it and when I did test to really see if it was meant... guess who showed up?  lol

I came to believe that some said it because they thought it was the only way they would be able to get in the door so to speak, believing it might be the only way to get a spanking or something else and that isn't no strings as far as I am concerned.  I guess just the term of no strings whatever is confusing.  Though I wouldn't want this, I found it quite interesting how it was being used.

There are times when I have paid someone to come in and help out and I wouldn't want someone to help me with no strings... but I don't like what I see as the deception of the matter.  Don't say it unless you mean it is my motto.  I am not going to say that I like to do something if I don't like to do it and I won't say I will do this or that just to get a submissive and I don't want someone saying things just to get close to me.  (I have an attitude about that at the moment! lol)

When my son was first injured, I had a guy who would come and help me because he had known my son and knew that I was in a rough spot.  I don't know what I would have done without that man and believe me I was very thankful.  He claimed he really just wanted to help, but bottom line... he was a nice man, but he really wanted me and I felt very manipulated because he thought his good deeds would buy me in a sense.  It was quite the turn off!  Hell, had he not been so dull and kept himself cleaner and had been more genuine, his heart alone would have shown me he was a keeper and I might have kept him!  But I hated that he thought I would fall in line and love him and keep him as mine because of what he did, rather than for who he was.

So I wondered what people thought about it all.  I knew there would be some jokes about it, but I also wanted some serious answers too.  I thank all of you for responding!

What do you think of my theory of many say it and don't know what it is and many will say it to get in the door?



AlexandraLynch -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 4:23:09 PM)

People, unfortunately, will say a whole lot to get in the door.

But I've know this since I was a "hot bi babe" ten years ago learning "oh, they call what I do polyamory...ok, cool!"



VelvetCruelty -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 4:33:52 PM)

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ORIGINAL: SylvereApLeanan

quote:

ORIGINAL: VelvetCruelty
He would put his tribute on the table, strip and get to work.  He'd take about two hours.  Never spoke a word, unless it was to ask about more cleaning supplies.  He knew what he was doing and my house was SPOTLESS! 


Wow.  Where do I get one of these in a 30-ish, female model?


Oooh!  If I could find one of those, I'd keep her myself!!  With the possiblity of loaning her out of course, lol.....!



PeonForHer -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/8/2009 5:20:48 PM)

FR

So . . . the moral of the story is:  if a domina just works out which buttons to press, she can get her whole house done, regularly and happily.  It could be a lot easier for those dominas to get what they want, if only they knew where those buttons were  . . . .

Mine are - - - Oh no.  I'm only telling her after we've got together.   



jonathan -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/9/2009 11:09:00 PM)

It's an urban myth. Would any of you scrub a terlit for no gain?

Yeah, and I love raking leaves, too.

Bullshit.



LadyPact -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/10/2009 12:20:37 AM)

Rumpus, I have reason to believe that I was contacted about your last domestic here locally just the other day.  I have to think it's the same person.





mummyman321 -> RE: No Strings Housework? (4/10/2009 10:20:04 AM)

Now what could possibly be fun in the now string house work?

I much prefer to be strung up, at least a little bit, while doing house work. The be laced into a nice French Maid's oufit. My Domme should at least have something to look at while I work. A pony tail butt plug, tight balll gag, and some other accessories if you so desire. *grin*



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