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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 3:45:48 PM

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Mike.......torturing:) but that depends on your definition and if there are qualified medical staff involved:)
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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 6:07:43 PM

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Well what the fuck is a limp dick good for anyway!

They're great fun to make hard, to begin with. Wonderful to laugh at while the person with one is just dancing around naked. And leashes! They make wonderful leashes. ;)

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 6:15:18 PM

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Being a fan of clothing-optional in general—my home is clothing-optional at all times barring presence of invited/expected guest with issues, I don't expect a sub to sport a woody just because I tell him to strip. Now if I've been working his prostate for twenty minutes, or cropping the li'l thing, I expect it to come to attention, and that pronto.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 7:30:48 PM

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gotta love those ladys who work our prostate

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 7:53:38 PM

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Yes, even when it's not about to be used for anything.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 7:57:22 PM

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I'm not a Domme, nor do I have a cock, but I LOVE hard cocks. I love soft cocks. I love that I can make a soft cock hard. I love looking at cocks, well, I love looking at my Sir's cock

I especially like the head.

Just thought I'd share.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 8:01:13 PM

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yeah what girly said

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 9:56:59 PM

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In my experience with and contemplation of the D-side of the kneel, yes, I like an erect cock as evidence of excitement about me, the enterprise, and willingness to serve. :>
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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 10:05:42 PM

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Okay in light of some of the reply's to my previous post I guess what I should have written is....
Well what the fuck good to me is my limp dick anyway!
whew...that was close when considdering how I should amend my post I almost went with...
Well what the fuck good is a limp dick to me anyway!
see how that would have given a whole new meaning,just a little tweak and a world of difference reputation wise.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/12/2009 10:59:17 PM

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I prefer flaccid. If I want it hard, I'll instruct him to get hard. Sometimes the incentive to comply is half the fun.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/13/2009 12:58:00 AM

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As a Domme I told my subs that I expected them to be erect as my "tribute", that I saw it as a sign of their respect for me. I had one sub that had to take Viagra and I understand that with older subs they don't always react as quickly as a younger one so saw this as no sign of disrespect. These subs did not get to penetrate me, but I still looked forward to seeing that just being in my presence excited them.

That's only my opinion and certainly doesn't cover what anyone else would necessarily want. I know that some Dommes are the opposite; they do not wish to see an erection. It's really a personal decision.

You are very sweet and understanding!

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/13/2009 1:03:07 AM

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Great answers. I appreciate them all. It appears that the consensus is that dommes prefer their subjects to have erections. That's cool, but of course puts pressure on us guys that take blood pressure meds!

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/13/2009 5:22:23 AM

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For Me, its a requirement, otherwise I have nothing to connect the grapling hook to for My famous Hummer CBT scene.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/13/2009 6:02:21 AM

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That is half the fun, playing around with a cock.

Create an erection, and punish to create a flacid state, the mind games can also play a big part.

I dont really mind erect or not, it is sometimes great to see how a sub's body reacts as a gradual process.

It excites me when fetishes, or verbal triggers can create an erection.

I also like my strap-on sluts to be chastised in someway, binding and restricting their C&B area, so I take my pleasure, while deciding if I will allow them to enjoy it or not

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/13/2009 6:56:13 AM

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amazing how women create those erections in us men

the power of the pussy you just gotta love indeed

and men think their the dominant sex .....too funny ...because if she says no its not going to happen unless you want to jackoff with rosie palm --lol ..have fun mal

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/14/2009 2:49:36 AM

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I like seeing them become erect, rather than already being erect. To that end ... a funny story. My first ever face to face meeting for a play session with a sub, so We were both rather nervous. We'd met for coffee and a long chat and had also chatted quite a lot (and pretend-played) online so he had been given some specific information about what to expect. After spending about 10 mins chatting to try and get Us both more at ease, and showing him around the playspace, kitchen, bathroom etc, I took him back into the play space and told him to strip. I sat (clothed) on a chair to watch. That should have been no surprise, and he started off eagerly enough with the shoes and socks, the shirt ... and then, more slowly, the jeans. So there he stood in underwear and that's when he clearly got seriously uncomfortable. I told him I wanted him to strip completely ... and he just looked at Me, agonised, and whispered "i can't Maam, i just can't!" "Bloody great!" I was thinking, "first time with a sub and I can't even get him naked! Fantastic Domme I am!" Thinking quickly, I decided that to press the point right then probably wasn't wise, so I called him over to Me, had him kneel, and told Me to kiss My feet and do some worship, knowing this was something he was eager to do. he was eager all right and SO relieved he practically threw himself down on the floor! After a few minutes of his attentions, I leaned over, hooked My thumbs in the waistband of the underwear and pushed them down saying "I don't think We need these anymore". We didn't either, he was fine with that ... and very hard too! The rest of the session went brilliantly!

When debriefing in a nice cuddle at the end, I asked why he hadn't wanted to get naked right away. "Oh Maam, i was so embarrassed as i wasn't hard yet for You!" I couldn't help but laugh (in a nice way) as I pointed out that if he was hard before he would take away My pleasure of seeing him GET hard and KNOWING it was all for Me. Once he realised that, no more embarrassment!

Since then, I've had some hard from the moment they arrived, I've had others take their time to get hard. Either is fine, as long as they eventually get hard for at least some of the time!

Maam Jay aka violet[A] who is now wondering why male Doms don't have threads about whether their fem subs get instantly wet for them!

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/14/2009 8:39:51 AM

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I'll go with the unpopular answer. In most cases, I simply don't care. Last I checked, female domination - or femdom topping - isn't about how hard a man's dick is, or how turned on HE is. The success or failure of my S&M encounters or power exchange starts with my pussy and my pleasure. The question in my mind is: Is the femdom WET? Is she turned on? Is she excited and enjoying herself? The man is the tool.

The focus on male arousal - or whether or not his cock is hard - can be the single most distracting and irrelevant part of femdom power exchange. The moment a woman uses a hard dick as a measuring stick for "bdsm scene success or failure" is the beginning of the end of control. First, it's a crappy way to measure success because erections are wildly inconsistent -- for some men, a totally flacid cock is the only true sign of submission or enjoyment. For others, they are hard all the time in S&M context. If a woman is studying -- hell, I would even saw AWARE -- of a man's level of hardness and is somehow using this to judge her own performance, she's going down the wrong path.

Female domination is about the enjoyment of the woman. The measuring tool should be HOW WET IS HER PUSSY. If she is not sexually motivated, then it should be how pleased she is or how much fun she is having. Unless her goal is to basically serve the man, and his goal is to get hard, then yes, sure, she should keep an eye on the hard cock and the moment it starts to go limp, she better work HARDER to keep him turned on (sarcasm).

Most submissive men, when asked, will confess that they're much more interested in making their femdom WET - through their surrender or suffering - than they are their own hard cock.

Somewhere along the way, for many people, S&M or power exchange becomes about making a man hard. This just isn't what is important to me. I do S&M because I have a very real, primal need to see a man suffer to get me off -- if I know he is willing and eager to endure for me and he enjoys it. Whether or not this makes his cock hard is not relevant to me. If I want to DO something to a hard cock, I'll make it hard. Unless I need an erect penis for some sadistic reason, or I am fucking with his arousal for my amusement, then the level of his erection is simply not important to me.

As a tool, it's useful. Other than that, I don't measure my success by it, or my pleasure.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/14/2009 11:22:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: azjojoba

One mystery I have always wondered is whether dominant women like to see their sub have a hard-on when they are told to take their clothes off. Perhaps they like their sub guy to be hard because it shows she still has what it takes, or does she get angry because she doesn't want sex to be part of the scene? Just wonderin.

Depends on the result I'm hoping for with that sub/slave and that scene... as with anything, it varies.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/14/2009 6:53:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: AAkasha

If a woman is studying -- hell, I would even saw AWARE -- of a man's level of hardness and is somehow using this to judge her own performance, she's going down the wrong path.

Female domination is about the enjoyment of the woman.

*snorts laughter* I like hard cocks for the same reason that you like wet tear-stained lashes or pretty trembling mouths, Akasha: because they turn ME on. It has nothing to do with some unhealthy self-defeating obsession with the man's mental state, or his judgment of me, my sexiness, or my dominance per se. His erection is a fetish for me, and it is the specifically sexual responses in my partner, male or female, that keep me interested. This is why I have no use whatsoever for impotent or non-orgasmic submissives.

Whipping and beating ANYONE sans a rewarding sexy response leaves me absolutely, completely, dead-jellyfish-on-an-Arctic-icefloe cold. This is true of women as well as men. And it is why the non-bdsm-contextual "sadism porn" in movies and music videos usually does not work for me.

I watch it thinking "Ok, the pretty guy or girl is tied up--I'm sort of interested." And then it's "Boo, the victim is scared or angry, not turned on, and not enjoying it or showing any real submissive or sexual response." When the "female dominant" character comes along to threaten or torture the victim with no appealing sensual context, all I think is, "Ok, so this woman is an evil psychopath and if I met her in person, I would crush her skull like a fucking juice box." And if the movie is supposed to be sexy rather than horrific, I change the channel.

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RE: do dommes like erect cocks? - 4/14/2009 7:07:55 PM

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Honestly, I don't give a flying -flip- what condition his dick is in. In fact, chances are really good that I'm not even looking below his waist to -notice- whether it's hard, soft, or tied in knots.

As long as he's doing what I want him to do, and doing it with a bit of panash, his dick can be dragging on the carpet or poking holes in the furniture and I'll be just as happy.

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