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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 5:30:30 AM

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i've already done it before.

Daddy handled it well ...didn't make Him less domly or appear weak. we had a fun time switching roles.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 6:41:24 AM

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I would have no problem with it, and wouldn't see it as switching roles. I would find it to be another way of pleasing him. That's what it's really about - the submissive doing something to please her top.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 7:22:01 AM

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I could have and would have done anything he asked. An act is not the relationship. If however he wanted that more so that my sub/maso needs were no longer important to him, then the roles have changed and I would have moved on.
For me it is about the role within the relationship, not the acts played out.
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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 10:27:55 AM

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Sometimes playfully i will slap master on the bottom ( i always get double back) Actually spanking him never gonna happen. One reason is i really could not do it, the other reason is he would never ask me to do that. I teased him on his b day i could give him his birthday swats. He told me no sweetheart on my b day YOU get my swats. So it will never happen.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 10:56:11 AM

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Sometimes playfully i will slap master on the bottom ( i always get double back) Actually spanking him never gonna happen. One reason is i really could not do it, the other reason is he would never ask me to do that. I teased him on his b day i could give him his birthday swats. He told me no sweetheart on my b day YOU get my swats. So it will never happen.

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I am, so sure, this is similar to what I would be told.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 11:03:37 AM

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First and foremost as far as bdsm goes, I am a submissive and a masochist. I also have a slight sadistic streak and an interest in and minimal experience in topping. So long as it didn't become an all the time thing with me not getting my needs and certain wants met, ie being pushed to top all the time and not getting to bottom anymore, I wouldn't have a problem with it at all nor would it make me view my dominant as switch or submissive. As others have said, it is not the action that makes it submissive or dominant, but rather the mindset and dynamic. Topping and bottoming do not make one submissive or dominant. They are actions, not identity or role in the dynamic.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 1:35:08 PM

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spank your dominant?

What if your dominant enjoyed physical pain and ordered you to spank him or her? Would you be able to do it?

Yes, of course, as long as He ordered me to do it i would have no problem following His orders. i can't imagine Him doing that though.
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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 2:27:04 PM

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I can spank her as my Domme, my lover, my friend or my kinky role playing Nazi Officer but I like it best when she is my subby cos thats when I can hurt her most

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 2:47:50 PM

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LOL... I am just wondering if subsubtle is thinking of spanking someone!

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 3:40:49 PM

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LOL... I am just wondering if subsubtle is thinking of spanking someone!

Hehe, no Maam. I would get no joy out of that but I was curious. There was a Domme who I talked to once who said she might like it for me to spank her sometimes. I was really surprised to hear that and wondered if I'd be able to do it. I wanted to see what some other subs thought.

Thanks for popping into this thread, though. Seeing you anywhere is a pleasure. :)

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 7:59:20 PM

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If it was not a switch dynamic, probably not. I can see where it is just filling the demand and pleasing my dominant. Still, it is the responses I know I can get from spanking that concern me. I am not quite sure I am ready for my domly one to head off into subspace!

I did swat one with his wooden hairbrush once. That did not go well for me. I am still owed some penalty for that one.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 8:09:38 PM

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Thank you subsubtle!

lovingpet... lol I am sorry, but I had to laugh! That did not go well for me... got me good! I can picture something like that. I do hope that the penalty still owed... won't be too harsh!

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 8:16:28 PM

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Gee Lockit.... I am kinda hoping the opposite!

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 8:21:49 PM

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ROFL!

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 8:54:28 PM

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Since my desire is to please my Dom/me I would do it to the best of my ability. I would rather be on the receiving end though... One of my Mistress's Domme friends was learning to use a flogger... I was the "test dummy"... She was having a very hard time allowing Herself to hit me hard enough....When She turned around to speak to my Mistress I picked up a second flogger that was lying there and gave Her a two quick normal hits on Her buttocks. Boy what an insperation! She had no problem swinging a flogger after that!

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 9:03:05 PM

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Since I am a playful and silly squirt and I have standing permission to touch Sir to my heart's content, I swat Sir on the behind ummm ... somewhat frequently. It is in play and pretty light. But, he is not a bottom. And while I am more than comfortable spanking him playfully, I'm really not sure if I could do it for real. I can't imagine him asking, but if he did, I would certainly do my best to deliver.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/13/2009 9:41:34 PM

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I had a previous owner that ordered me to spank her once. I was shocked and wasn't sure what to do. Then she reminded me that it was for her pleasure, not mine. So I reluctantly did so, and it turned out to be okay once I started realizing she was getting pleasure out of it, not that I was punishing her.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/16/2009 2:47:08 PM

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Yes,
while we have never done a full bdsm scene where i topped him, but my topping in a scene does not - would not - change the Master - slave roles. My Master wears many hats but is always my Master, even if we are being playful and i am wrestling and fighting or even trying to swat him. He is still in control, we are just being playful. He likes physical play and likes it given back to him.

I can see where some would have a problem seeing their Master bottoming to someone or to them. Kind of blows the fantasy image most want and have of a "Real True Master". If the Master is not secure enough themselves, their role could end up shifting and changing if they can not keep it separate as sensation play and they let it turn into also submission. The Master seems to hold the key to this one, if they can get their physical sensation but then maintain their Master role it would be fine. But if they bottomed and then became submissive to the person topping them, i.e their own slave, the shift would be hard to handle, and difficult to shift back again. If that is the case then two switches would be a better relationship match.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/16/2009 4:21:25 PM

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An action is neither dominant nor submissive.

Do you mean sexual acts or do you mean any and all action/s?

What I mean is that actions do not change who is the dominant or submissive in the relationship.

You always say that, you said the same thing in the anal thread, but you are wrong, if the act itself makes me see him as NOT dominant, then it does change it. If the man I love, submit to, and suffer for wants to be face down ass up for a spanking? Not fucking hardly. I will see him instantly in that moment as weaker than he was, and oh so not dominant. Just as certain that he would find it a huge turn off if I suddenly wanted to have him lick my boots and serve me drinks naked in a collar. You think that doesn't change who is in charge? Maybe not for you, but no way in hell is that going to not irrepairably alter how we see each other. Acts are more than just "acts" they creat a feeling and put you in an emotional place. Like humilitaiton, that is far from being just an act.

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RE: Would you be able to... - 4/16/2009 5:29:27 PM

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I had to think about this and the answer is mixed.
The Dom I am with now I could spank if he asked me to. The 2 other Doms I've spent time with in the past I do not think I could spank even if they had asked me to do it or the 'spanking' would be half hearted on my part. My current D/s relationship is an equal power exchange and much deeper than what I have had in the past - that seems to have something to do with it. I trust the man I'm with now on many levels.
Plus if he asked me to do something he'd expect me to do it and no pussy-footing around. I'd not want to let him down, I don't think I'd refuse him anything unless it was a hard limit.

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