Padriag
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An you people say I'm mean! 
To the OP... welcome to CM, for whatever that's worth.
CMail is often an exercise in frustration, and you're just starting to find out why. All the complaints you've heard in this thread are common ones. You're up against an expectation by most submissive women that they want you to write a special letter just to them right from the beginning. You'll be expected to write something intriguing and fascinating which includes personal compliments and remarks about them. All in a first introductory email...
Meanwhile you'll find the majority of the profiles say very little about themselves, giving you precious little to comment on. So while they whine about getting 5 billion emails a day... you'll be called a whiner if you so much as ask what the deal with cmail is. And don't dare complain about having to sort through the endless fake profiles, the scammers, or all the guys pretending to be submissive women... or that you have to write about 5 billion emails a day just to get 5 that actually respond at all. Is it hypocrisy... you betcha... is it unfair...absolutely... its also the way it is.
So here's my advice. Write a nice introductory form letter. Make it about 3-4 paragraphs. Stick to one idea per paragraph... for example, if you've got an fascinating hobby (say you actually are in a rock band) write one paragraph about that... keep it brief but interesting... you want to give them something to think about and something to write back and ask you about in their letter. Something that introduces yourself, tells a little about you, and includes some things that make you interesting (and you tap dance... do you speak eight languages... are you in a rock band... that kind of thing) and perhaps different from others. Don't try to fit your whole life story into it...just hit a couple of points of interest... hint at everything else (a little mystery can be a great thing). Ask some basic questions about the submissive... not just kinky things, and in fact I'd avoid much of that in a first letter... don't get too personal, this is a first letter after all (if you get to personal, they'll feel threatened by it and they'll shut you out). The real point is just to ask some things to show interest in who they are as a person. You'll also up your odds if you attach at least one pic to your letter... but make it something nice, no cock shots. Again, if its a pic that makes you seem interesting, you'll improve your odds.
Then mail said form letter to friggin every profile that interests you... have a blast... go nuts with it. Because here's the reality. There are "trolls" out there mass mailing anything female which is part of why they get 5 billion emails a day. You're up against numbers and the only thing you can do is try to use numbers to your advantage. So forget trying to just attract the attention of that one submissive that really caught your eye... for all you know she's a complete fraud... maybe, maybe not. Throw a broad net out there and see what you catch... then sort who you really want to take interest in later.
But in the end the there's an inescapable truth about CMail you just can't get around... for meeting people, it SUCKS. As you might have already gathered, people have all kinds of expectations (not all of them realistic), plus they're defenisve, cautious and at times downright cynical... and that's just the folks who are genuine. You'll find a large percentage of those profiles are either fakes or people just playing online games, both of which waste your time. Which is why I actually recommend an introductory form letter (besides which, for those who bother to pick up a book on etiquette, a nicely written introductory form letter actually is considered good etiquette), you don't have enough hours in your day to write personal emails to each and every submissive you might want to say hello to in order to find out if there's any chemistry there at all... and if you do have that much free time, then you seriously need to get a LIFE! 
On the brighter side, you may have noticed that your one little post garnered far more response than all those emails you sent out. The forums are generally a better place to meet people. You'll find that once you get acquainted with the quirks of the forum, people here are generally friendlier and more communicative. People who come to these forums or to the chat rooms actually want to talk to others, so they're more open. You have the advantage also that here you can engage in some chit chat and discussion before approaching someone. CMailing profiles is what's called a "cold approach" and its about the toughest way to attract a woman there is... most tune you out before you get "Hello" out of your mouth... again, that's just the way it is.
That's my opinion anyway... take it with a grain of salt, and good luck.
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Padriag
A stern discipline pervades all nature, which is a little cruel so that it may be very kind - Edmund Spencer
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ok so im currious - 
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