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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslut
For me slut is a compliment, there is no humiliation play in my name at all. I however appreciate that you might find it, read it that way and choose to use my original name  I am sorry if it offends you.

So if you stopped in to get coffee and the guy working there said "Here slut, lap it up" you would feel that to be appropriate? You're Tongue's slut, not anyone else's. You presumably aren't a slut to any guy in a trench coat who makes a rude suggestion while riding the tube in the morning.

I do adore you, this just made Me smile this morning, too much Sumatra sunrise coffee...

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If an s-type has been given or taken a new name, do you feel you should use it when addressing this person?

Do you think it could be seen as a lack of respect to the person's wishes, or the new dynamic, by not doing so?

Does it matter if you knew the person before the name change?

All thoughts, ideas, comments, and personal views are appreciated.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

Hello HalloweenWhite.

The comment you made is one of the very reasons that some have taken up the practice.


LP

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

{snip}
Many times, I'll actually stick with a person's screen name, even after knowing their real name, or some combination of both.  It's easier for an old gal like Me to remember.


LP

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ORIGINAL: beargonewild

*grinz*

I didn't think it would take you long to see that you are one of the "D" types which I was referring to! I believe a large part ids we have gotten so used to addressing each other by our screen names that when we continue to do so in real life. This was quite apparent at Greedy's wedding and even though we all had name tags, most of us were still calling each other by our cm names! Personally, many of my friends do call me bear as that is a nickname for me so being addressed as "Bear" in public posses no problems.

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

HW, My comment wasn't meant to say that you were stating the obvious.  There are a few reasons why people take up with the idea.  That's one of them.  RavenMuse added a couple more.  Some do it because they are Gorean, or Leather, or have a poly situation where everyone takes on some version of the name of the household.  Some people just like it because they don't prefer to use their real name in the public scene.  I've even met a few that have done it because they just plain don't like their birth name.

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ORIGINAL: Rainfire
Old my ass, LP.... You're more beautiful and have your head together than most people. Period. Age has nothing to do with it. *snickers and grins*

If you're old, what does that make me? Ancient?

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact
 I've even met a few that have done it because they just plain don't like their birth name.

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ORIGINAL: CatdeMedici

But by hoping that others use the old name, isn't that bending what Sir wants? Should it not be" thank you, however, i have a new owner and He prefers you refer to me as xxx"?

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave
people have only really started calling us misst and lally since we ourselves began to refer to each other that way, so in a way it was made an open invititation for people to choose.

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ORIGINAL: RavenMuse

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave
people have only really started calling us misst and lally since we ourselves began to refer to each other that way, so in a way it was made an open invititation for people to choose.

The fact that you have 'aka lally' in your sig means if I where to address you by name thats what I'd use (As you say, easier to type) but having it in your sig covers any of the reasons I'd have assumed you had reason to use the new name.... if it wasn't there I'd either not refer to you by name or c&p it *g*

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ORIGINAL: InTonguesslave



i see youre point, but not atall.

the reason was entirely pragmatic.  He simply wished for His name to be attached to us.  i like to think its because He is proud of owning us.  i spose i could have requested that i be called intongueslally - but i doubt people would have felt confident to make that correlation anyway.  if they had i wonder if it would have carried the same question, possibly not.

i started using missts name on the threads, largely because our names are buggers to type out, but also because it seemed silly to me, since alot of people knew who we were anyway and it was a formality that really wasnt required.  plus it seemed kindof wrong in that we were posting as 'new' people, when infact we werent atall and that felt dishonest.

people have only really started calling us misst and lally since we ourselves began to refer to each other that way, so in a way it was made an open invititation for people to choose.

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ORIGINAL: slaveluci

I would handle such a situation like anything else in life. I would do what the person wanted me to do. I would ask him/her what he/she preferred and then do it. That's so much clearer and easier than ruminating over what socially-accepted protocol to use.

For instance: "Hi *****." I noticed you have changed your nick here. I'm so used to you being called "xxxxx." Which would you prefer I call you?"

So easy

luci