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damn age - 2/1/2006 2:58:21 PM

SweetEscravo

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I hate hate hate hate hate hate hate being young. I take that back..it isn't the number of years I've been alive that bothers me, but the fact that everyone else in the world turns their noses up at me is really what gets me pissed. I might be only eighteen, but I am not an idiot kid. I am just as much "on the scene" and kinky as the next person. Would you all rather I was 95 years old, just for the fact that I would be more "experienced"? I realise that the BDSM and kinky world is largely populated by people older than me, but I would appriciate it if you all would stop acting like I don't know what I'm doing here. Because guess what, I am probably more experienced than some of you who are in your 40s or 50s. I have been on the scene longer than most of those people! Young adults growing up these days are not as naive and ignorant as most older adults seem to believe. I have known a large number of young people who are very deeply into kink and have just as much experience as the next person. Why do you people get so hung up on age anyways? Ugh.

ps- I love most of the people here, but there are just some out there that really make me see red.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:06:20 PM

sub4hire

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quote:

ps- I love most of the people here, but there are just some out there that really make me see red.

We all have the same feelings. Our's may just not be about age.
What age did you find the lifestyle? I know when you answer it will shock many.
Youngest I have heard of was 10 so far.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:07:04 PM

veronicaofML

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oh kay
well
lemme try this
i understand/ and i know-the-feeling
since i used to be 18
now at 52...gawd i love my 50's...better than my 40's and they were fantastic
i cannot STOP! social ladders.
i TRIED!
i have fought this world for 42 yrs
but lemme say THIS.............

i'll stand behind ya, i'll back ya up,...in whatever ya wanna do...to-a-limit..
SOME things in life REQUIRES you to be aged...
pleeeeeze trust me on this.
i cannot treat you the same as i would someone in their 50's like me..you just AINT been there or done that...with me.
k?
but...yeah..i'll do all i can,..for moral support...
and if i get to know ya,..m a y b e sometime i'll give ya my email..and you can have a matured older male...for a friend...call it MY theory of the big brother association

despite i am old enough to be YOUR great granddad

take care lil dude

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:07:47 PM

Wildfleurs

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetEscravo

I hate hate hate hate hate hate hate being young. I take that back..it isn't the number of years I've been alive that bothers me, but the fact that everyone else in the world turns their noses up at me is really what gets me pissed. I might be only eighteen, but I am not an idiot kid. I am just as much "on the scene" and kinky as the next person. Would you all rather I was 95 years old, just for the fact that I would be more "experienced"? I realise that the BDSM and kinky world is largely populated by people older than me, but I would appriciate it if you all would stop acting like I don't know what I'm doing here. Because guess what, I am probably more experienced than some of you who are in your 40s or 50s. I have been on the scene longer than most of those people! Young adults growing up these days are not as naive and ignorant as most older adults seem to believe. I have known a large number of young people who are very deeply into kink and have just as much experience as the next person. Why do you people get so hung up on age anyways? Ugh.

ps- I love most of the people here, but there are just some out there that really make me see red.

This may sound a bit insensitive but really... get over it. I was your age ten years ago, interested in BDSM and fairly green and had to deal with the same thing. Time will pass sooooooo incredibly fast and you won't have to deal with it anymore.

Quite frankly part of what I felt it was (and still is).. is just basic jealousy... jealousy that you are younger and discovered it when they spent decades in loveless and sexless vanilla relationships... jealousy that you are younger (and thus have all the physical attributes that come with being younger)... and fear that all of the younger female submissives are going to steal all of the possible dominants in the world.

Basically you have to learn to let it roll off of your back, because ageism is just part and parcel of the BDSM scene.

C~ who figured out pretty quickly that when people told me they had socks as old as me.. that they were just to fucking cheap to buy new socks!

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:07:59 PM

Sirandlittle1

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hello sweetescravo,
personally, at 18, i was the person i am now. My sexuality was formed. it has not changed one iota since then.
Sure, i have experienced things that have taught me stuff since, and that has molded me, the basic blue print is exactly the same.

on boards such as this, people put others down for many reasons. Age in your experience is one of them. But consider this, if you were hooking up with some such person, isnt it better to know outright, their predudices? then you can give them the flick lol
little1 who is 42 yrs young today.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:12:11 PM

truesub4u

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SweetEscravo......

First off... please stop using the word "Kink"...... BDSM is not all about being kinky. And you are going to find out that the people in BDSM community are NOT the only ones that is going to have problems with the younger generation. I know when I was in my late teens.. early 20's. I did the same bitching you are now. And about the same damn thing you are bitching about. The first thing to help people get past your age, is to stop acting 18. If you want someone to look at you as an adult, act like one and stop worrying about what people think or not think of your age.

In case you haven't noticed, age has nothing to do with what you do know.. and what you do not know. But when you carry on like this... no ones going to care what you know. They're going to see an 18 year old punk kid bitching and complaining about something he has no idea how to grasp the reality.. that you have no control over time. And this is all this is about..... Father Time. And it's just the way things are for most people..... so learn to deal with it... and move on from there.

Keep in mind.. not all care how old you are... it's all on how you present yourself.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:34:08 PM

foxglove716

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no worries, it can only get better from here on in

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:36:29 PM

perfection20005

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I have to agree with veronicaofML. Some things come with age, and most are better. I don't turn my nose up at 18 year old, I have a daughter that age, but she damn sure doesn't know more than I do. Just as I don't know everything that a 50 or 60 year knows. They say respect your elders, and its because they really do know more.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:43:35 PM

caitlyn

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I love being nineteen and want to stay nineteen forever.

My experience with older people that want to generalize about the young, is to answer them back, respectfully, without emotion, and with fact-based logic. They will usually back down, or just stop commenting at all ... which is just as good.

I have also found that trying to respond to a wider variety of topics has helped me on this board. When a topic comes up where I have something to contribute, I try to respond ... but always be sure you know what you are talking about and have backing for the things you say.

You have to be careful with opinions. Older people can have opinions and base them on life experience. We don't have as much life experience, so we need to find another way to bolster our opinions. I like to use history and analogy. History allows you to use the experience of others, to support your positions. Analogy always makes an opinion more supportable, because good analogy references something obvious and generic to a wide group of people.

But ... ALWAYS make sure when you use an example, that you are accurate with it's application. If you make a mistake, you will not be forgiven, and will forever be looked at as someone not willing to put in the effort to ensure that they are accurate.

I hope this helps ... cc

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:49:13 PM

Sensualips

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quote:

personally, at 18, i was the person i am now.

Oh wow, not me. I barely recognize myself at 28, much less 18. I can only imagine what I will be like at 40. Sure, the basic personality is the same. But even ten years is a world apart.

That is not to say any stage is neccessarily better or worse. I loved myself at 18. I just love myself now too.

I also would like Caitlyn to be 19 forever. Or at least until I see her naked discussing midieval culture.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 3:57:44 PM

shigglyboom

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetEscravo
Would you all rather I was 95 years old,

Nah, we mostly don't care how old you are, just how old we are.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:04:07 PM

seaturtle50

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quote:

it isn't the number of years I've been alive that bothers me, but the fact that everyone else in the world turns their noses up at me is really what gets me pissed

Hi,

Every person on this planet, this board, this life, has gifts to offer. You cannot be an exception to that.

You may find if you look closer, that there are many people of all ages who will not treat you as you describe above. Why not consider focusing your time and attention on that group, rather than the nose turners?

st50

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:09:42 PM

Arpig

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quote:

Because guess what, I am probably more experienced than some of you who are in your 40s or 50s.

Well guess what? Some of us couldn't care less. You probably are more experienced than me in things BDSM, but what truesub said is worth considering carefully. This is an online forum, and people can only know the you that you show them, and if that seems to be the same "know-it-all" 18-year-old we all were however many decades ago, then that is what we will assume you are.
And Caitlyn (as usual) has some sound advice for you, I don't think there is anybody on here that doesn't find her comments thoughtful & thought-provoking (well except for the funny ones

). And it is basically because she doesn't come across as the 20-year-old we remember ourselves being.....
and one of the good things about being "too young", it is a self-curing problem....try the other side of the coin...when you're too old for something, the problem just gets worse

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:17:42 PM

windy135

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Your age doesn't matter your still growing and learning.. hell so am I. It's hard but try to ignore those who bring you down and focus on the people you enjoy talking too. :)

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:22:12 PM

BlkTallFullfig

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SweetEscravo, it's rough having your problem, I guess.

Its interesting because most people value youth, and a lot of us worry about getting to be what we used to consider "old"... Oh well, best to have a sense of humor at any age, and live well (as well as you can).
I personally don't miss 18, don't remember it being particularly fun, and I definitely have changed a LOT since than, but wait until you're in your 30s and the years just fly as if 2 at a time.

Welcome to the boards, M

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:35:41 PM

LadyJulieAnn

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quote:

ORIGINAL: truesub4u

SweetEscravo......

First off... please stop using the word "Kink"...... BDSM is not all about being kinky.

I don't see anything wrong with the word "kink". It may not apply to you, but many of us are OK with it.

Be well,
Julie

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:37:55 PM

LadyJulieAnn

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I would encourage you to look into local BDSM groups and see if there is a "next generation" group available. They typically cater to the younger crowd of 19-35. You might be more comfortable seeking someone there .

Be well,
Julie

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:44:33 PM

JohnWarren

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ORIGINAL: SweetEscravo
Why do you people get so hung up on age anyways? Ugh.

Yup, profile after profile I see people looking for young partners. Ain't hardly fair.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:49:22 PM

Sensualips

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Oh hush, Mr. Warren. Everyone knows handsome and distinguished authors get tons of pussy.

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RE: damn age - 2/1/2006 4:57:16 PM

truesub4u

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ORIGINAL: Sensualips

Oh hush, Mr. Warren. Everyone knows handsome and distinguished authors get tons of pussy.

you beat me to it Sensualips... was going to say same thing... lol

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