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PeonForHer -> RE: I own you/ I love you/ I care for you--semantic games? (4/24/2009 5:55:22 PM)
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ORIGINAL: Venatrix
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ORIGINAL: PeonForHer
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ORIGINAL: Lockit
Peon, I would have to agree with that. As natural as the fondness comes, so does the feeling of... mine, mine, mine... for me. lol
Really? That's interesting. But would you say that this sense of ownership is stronger amongst dominants of their sub partners than vanillas of their partners? Is there a strong sense of the sub as property? (NB - I don't at all want to imply that that's a 'bad thing', if so. In fact, I think it's quite . . . good.)
I feel the same as Lockit. I've had glimmerings recently of thinking of someone as my property (not to treat him as property, though), and I've noticed that, as my feelings for him fade and return, so does my sense of ownership. When he and I maintain the connection, both the sense of owning him and caring for him are strong; when we aren't maintaining contact, they both fade. I've never felt that way in any of my vanilla relationships, which probably explains why none of them worked out.
Yes, I see that.
Actually, I've often found myself questioning the widespread assumption that seeing someone as property is self-evidently wrong. In fact, I think that in many ways it may be more 'natural' to see other humans as property than inanimate objects that one has bought or been given.
That little idea, though, depends upon a lot of half-digested psychological ideas and I'm a million miles from turning it into a grand theory.
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