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RE: Is it improper to ask questions - or is it vital? - 5/7/2009 10:03:40 AM

TopChuck

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It's the responsibility of the Dom/me to be in the submissive's mind. To prohibit questioning is to deny submission. Denying submission leads to and promotes the breakdown of the D/s relationship.

The submissive should be encouraged to reveal everything to the Dom/me, because to protect any part of the mind is to be unsubmissive. Being a Dom/me involves building deeper and deeper trust from the submissive, because at its essence, submission is trusting.

It's the Dom/me's responsibility to understand the submissive. Questions in the sub's mind are as important as any other part of the sub's brain.

The Dom/me controls the relationship, so, in any breakdown of submission, the Dom/me is responsible for analyzing and correcting; whether the breakdown occurred because of some action of the submissive or a lapse by the Dom/me.

Interrupting the power exchange holds no advantage. Denial of the elements of the power exchange, by the Dom/me, as punishment is abusive. (Commonly called a "mindfuck")

The structuring of the sharing of the minds between the Dom/me and submissive is up to the Dom/me, but that's what we get the big bucks for, isn't it?

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RE: Is it improper to ask questions - or is it vital? - 5/7/2009 10:38:09 AM

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What an earnest discussion!
(Places tongue firmly in cheek)
Obviously some questions are quite essential and some are improper.
When I say "Jump", "why" is is improper, and "how high" is essential.

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RE: Is it improper to ask questions - or is it vital? - 5/12/2009 5:02:00 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TopChuck
The structuring of the sharing of the minds between the Dom/me and submissive is up to the Dom/me, but that's what we get the big bucks for, isn't it?

We do? Damn, don't say I forgot to apply for the government handout to dominants?

I found your response interesting because, unlike most of the posts so far, you approach the angle from D/s and not M/s, which does imply some differences on this point.

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RE: Is it improper to ask questions - or is it vital? - 5/12/2009 5:07:04 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: pdv99
When I say "Jump", "why" is is improper, and "how high" is essential.

Would you say that it is improper to ask "why" after jumping the required height? When the submissive has obeyed and there is a quiet moment, if the slave does not know why you wanted her to jump, what do you think if the then asks?

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