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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 8:09:41 AM   
IrishMist


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ORIGINAL: theslavechris

my Master told me that he doesn't want to see me anymore.
he says that i am a stalker because i read his email.
i asked him about an email address that i found in his email account.
we don't have any rules in place for his seeing other people.  He now admits that he is seeing someone else.

He doesn't know if he wants to continue our relationship and asked for space.

i'm distraught and don't know what to do.
He tattooed my butt 2 years ago with his mark.  What should i do?  give up?

I think calling you a stalker is going a bit too far, however, my only question is this: Why were you snooping through his email?

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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 8:28:29 AM   
Mercnbeth


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Status: offline 		we have a system worked out for when to give up.
 
for this slave, it is when she discovers that He and His sheet music have left the building...never to return.
 
for Him, it is when He comes home to a dinner of meatloaf, mashed potatoes and brussel sprouts.

as to your question, only you know how important this relationship/man is to you and what you can live with.  this slave can't relate to your situation because she couldn't be in a relationship where she felt it necessary to "snoop" or set limits on His pursuits...including Him or us spending any time with others, if that's what He decides.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 8:47:08 AM   
CatdeMedici


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Status: offline 		I assume that's three dishes he hates and this would be a revenge meal?
 
hmm Merc and brussel sprouts, yeah I just don't see it.
 
 

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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 5:45:11 PM   
Mercnbeth


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I assume that's three dishes he hates and this would be a revenge meal?

 
you are correct...He despises them all.
 
but it wouldn't classify as a revenge meal...just the agreed upon way to let Him know it is over and "time to give up".

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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 5:53:45 PM   
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Status: offline 		How can anyone hate mashed potatoes???? That's just wrong! 

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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 6:21:13 PM   
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Status: offline 		Meatloaf and mashed potatoes are an all time favorite meal here, but I'm the only one who likes brussel sprouts.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 6:22:42 PM   
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RE: am i wrong - 4/27/2009 7:22:51 PM   
crazyredhead1957


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Status: offline 		1.  you reading His e-mail is wrong.

2.  Him hiding her from you is also wrong.

3.  Y/you were both wrong.

4.  i may be wrong, but in polyamory isn't everything supposed to 
    be honest and open?   So if He's hiding it, isn't it just
    old-fashioned cheating?

5.  It seems to me that Y/you were both dishonest, so where is the
    trust in the relationship?  i can see why each of Y/you would be
    upset.

6.  i don't think you really have a choice.  Give Him His space, and
    while you are doing so, take time to think about whether you
    really want to stay with a cheater you can't trust anyway.

That's my two cents.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/28/2009 6:31:08 AM   
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relationships cannot last with lies and deceit.  the moment either party decides to commit either of those offences, there is no relationship.  seems a no brainer to me.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/28/2009 8:27:41 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Meatloaf and mashed potatoes are an all time favorite meal here, but I'm the only one who likes brussel sprouts.


In my house all three are yummmmmmmmmmm, but especially meatloaf and mashed. OMG, mashed potatoes are so good.

now I am hungry


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RE: am i wrong - 4/28/2009 12:52:50 PM   
TreasureKY


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ORIGINAL: windchymes

How can anyone hate mashed potatoes???? That's just wrong! 


lol... My thoughts exactly! 

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RE: am i wrong - 4/28/2009 1:03:41 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: TreasureKY

quote:

ORIGINAL: windchymes

How can anyone hate mashed potatoes???? That's just wrong! 


lol... My thoughts exactly! 



when any form of potatoes make you sick enough to ask Himself to put you out of your misery for three days.  *that* is when mashed potatoes are eeeebil sent from the debinses.

same thing with tomatoes anymore.  *whimpers*  i hate my digestive system some days.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/28/2009 1:51:06 PM   
PanthersMom


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RE: am i wrong - 4/28/2009 3:08:06 PM   
akisha


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ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

I am going to sound like a cracked record pretty soon.

My GAWD!! You are 50 years old and you don't know what to do, how to handle a relationship?!?!

You are old enough to have a grown daughter, what would you tell her? If you don't, you've no business being in a relationship. Pull your head out of your nether regiouns.


Ohhh sure you can say it LaTigresse, but when I do I get modsmacked hehehe

But I do concur.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/29/2009 6:27:16 AM   
theslavechris


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Status: offline 		We did talk about seeing others.  He did not want me to be 'lent' out to another, but we did discuss others for Him.  I found someone for us to play with and it was in the works.  Also, He always told me that if He was going to see someone else He would tell me.

He gave me all of the passwords to His email accounts and other travel accounts.  Yes, i looked without His permissions, but he gave me the means to look.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/29/2009 7:06:44 AM   
theslavechris


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Status: offline 		The other thing that i need to add is that our relationship lasted 5 years.  We communicated about everything, or so i thought.  Since i have posted the initial msg He has emailed me more than once every day and included things like "i miss you", "i love you"  so WTF...

i do like polyamory.  we talked about it a lot.  we never talked about someone one sided though...it was always in the context of both of us being involved. 

You're all right.  i should not have looked at His email, even though He did give me His passwords.  He should not have been initiating another relationship without first telling me. 

Thanks for everyone's comments.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/29/2009 7:10:06 AM   
subangi


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Status: offline 		I feel for you.  It makes me wonder if this isnt the only person he had been hiding from you.  Its sad that you supported him playing with others and even searched for him....that says alot about how much you cherished your Master and the ultimate servitude. Cheating and dishonesty is very damaging....no matter how much it kills you... i would give him that space,  but let him know that you will continue in the lifestyle as a separate entity.  Then.......get your sulking over with and make yourself get out and have fun.  You are a beautiful woman....you go girl!! 

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RE: am i wrong - 4/29/2009 7:18:18 AM   
DarkSteven


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ORIGINAL: theslavechris

We did talk about seeing others.  He did not want me to be 'lent' out to another, but we did discuss others for Him.  I found someone for us to play with and it was in the works.  Also, He always told me that if He was going to see someone else He would tell me.

He gave me all of the passwords to His email accounts and other travel accounts.  Yes, i looked without His permissions, but he gave me the means to look.


Hmmm... sounds almost like you were set up to find out and let him break things off.


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RE: am i wrong - 4/29/2009 2:15:38 PM   
OmegaG


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When does an M type have to tell the s type that there may be another involved?  When he first looks at the profile?  When he sends the first e-mail?  When they plan to meet?  Well that would depend on the individuals wouldn't it?  And how the s type reacts would also indicate when he brings her up to speed.

I get a vibe from this that this woman wanted control, she wanted to have her finger on the pulse of anything that might be going on.  It seems that so long as she approves and is involved then she feels secure.  Though, I would think that the man felt that they had discussed the issue and he felt free to explore all oppurtunities.  It also seems to me that confronting someone isn't the best was to get the total story but one will get a defensive, get-out-of-my-face response, especially if she's exhibitted controlling (stalking) behaviour bafore.

I'd say one e-mail read did not destroy a relationship by itself, it probably took a series of petty annoyances.

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RE: am i wrong - 4/30/2009 9:50:04 AM   
RealSub58


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Status: offline 		Well Chris, waste no more time on someone who makes you an option.I learned this the the hard way.If you are stalking, stop.  It does not become a lovely young lady I view in the pic, if that is you.  Either way, its a disgusting habit seeded in jealousy and insecurity. Deep inside of you, if you listen to your soul, the integrity you seek shall be found.  Just listen and go forth with courage.  
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