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What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 4:55:44 PM   
amoryblane


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Status: offline 		It's almost universally asserted that BDSM (in the broadest sense) is largely mental.  So,what does it take to get inside your head?

For me, as a masochist without much interest in long term commitment to any partner, the mindfuck is the most thrilling thing in the world.  It basically consists of this:

1)  A woman finds a particular button to push in my psyche.  Usually it's something weird and precarious that she knows she can get me to do over and over.  It is a strange compulsion over which I'm almost helpless.  We all have them--not everybody admits to them and not everybody flaunts them, but they're there.
2)  The woman pushes the button a few times.  Other times she almost pushes it, lets me know she knows it's there, that she can do it any time she wants to.
3)  She keeps pushing me deeper, encouraging increasingly chancy behavior.  By now she has become so deft at exploiting vulnerabilities that she seems almost passive.  She sets things in motion, stands back, and regards with aloof amusement.
4) By the time I'm completely mindfucked, I'm pretty much performing for her.  She barely has to do anything except acknowledge casually how humorous the situation has become.  She is off-handed, sarcastic,she knows she can put me into almost any predicament she wants.  Usually this is the most entertaining part for both of us--and it's such a fragile, elusive situation, always poised on the verge of desiccation and disintegration.  It never lasts long, but while it lasts it's delicious.

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As I said, I'm a masochist and a weirdo even by kinky standards, so compared to many this will sound like some kind of Martian psychology.  But everyone plays the game mentally, everyone has something that it means to be "inside their head".  I'm wondering what that means to other people.
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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 5:42:56 PM   
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Status: offline 		BDSM , for me, isn't a mindfuck.  It's a way of living with my Sir, serving him and being honest, in a relatively non-manipulative way.

And i have to say if my Sir pulled the shit that you talk about so blithely, i would have to seriously reconsider our relationship. And why would i want our relationship to teater on the edge of distruction? I don't like game playing. I don't like chronically sarcastic people.  In fact, it is just as well your bdsm isn't my bdsm.

What it took to get into my head was an honest statement of how our relationship would run, and what his and my part would be. Nothing manipulative, nothing weird     -  well, maybe weird, but all upfront.  And so far, that is exactly how our lives together have been.   Lovely!

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 5:47:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		Well first you have to build this sub... then you have to build a machine to shrink it down to microscopic size...



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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 5:48:50 PM   
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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:01:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		Mind-fucking is fantastic!  :>  Though, I've no intent of fleshing out the intricacies of it for or from me.  Every instance is different as is every person. 
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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:06:19 PM   
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Well first you have to build this sub... then you have to build a machine to shrink it down to microscopic size...



Dang, I am such a klutz. I just spilled coffee on this made to build sub, which destroyed the machine in waiting.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:11:22 PM   
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Status: offline 		Its allowing someone access to my mind and the recesses and hidden areas in it.  As hokey as it sounds, for me it has been alot like being transformed into someone or something else.  Mindblowing.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:13:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: wisdomofgiving

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ORIGINAL: Padriag

Well first you have to build this sub... then you have to build a machine to shrink it down to microscopic size...



Dang, I am such a klutz. I just spilled coffee on this made to build sub, which destroyed the machine in waiting.

I've had days like that... I really hate the ones that involve a nail gun!

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:27:42 PM   
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Status: offline 		It can be pretty interesting and even exciting in a creepy kind of way, but only if the person headfucking you is very smart and really cagey about the whole thing.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:33:56 PM   
amoryblane


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quote:

ORIGINAL: kiwisub12

And i have to say if my Sir pulled the shit that you talk about so blithely, i would have to seriously reconsider our relationship. And why would i want our relationship to teater on the edge of distruction? I don't like game playing. I don't like chronically sarcastic people.  In fact, it is just as well your bdsm isn't my bdsm.



Indeed it is.  And it is very nice you have found what you want.  May everyone have the same happiness.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:35:52 PM   
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ORIGINAL: marie2

It can be pretty interesting and even exciting in a creepy kind of way, but only if the person headfucking you is very smart and really cagey about the whole thing.


Yes, I couldn't agree more.  It's creepy, even frightening.

As Rilke said, Every angel is terrifying.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:37:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		What does it take to get inside my head...compatibility, attraction, mutual interests, communication, honesty, integrity, a dominant personality...all the same things that it takes for me to want a relationship with someone.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:40:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		To get inside my submissive head you must do exactly what I want...but not know I am controlling your every move

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:42:18 PM   
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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:43:16 PM   
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ORIGINAL: kdsub

To get inside my submissive head you must do exactly what I want...but not know I am controlling your every move

Butch


Hush!!

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:47:27 PM   
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Isn't that like, *horror!*, botting from the toppom?!!!


lol.... Only if they know it

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 6:50:42 PM   
Padriag


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Status: offline 		I've found all it really takes to get into anyone's head is...

... to first learn to simply listen.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 7:23:12 PM   
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Status: offline 		for me it's trust. Master told me some things about him right away that i already knew from the grapevine but it mde me go, "okay, he's up front and not afraid" when he told me. And over the last six months, he's never made a promise he couldn't keep and if he does say something that he's going to try to let me know either if he can promise results such as "we'll do ____ friday but i'm not promising, if things are busy it might be postponed till next week" things like that. And he never forgets his promises. they may get put on hold because life gets in the way but i rarely have to remind him of anything and when i do remind him he's grateful. but being able to trust him, trust his actions and trust what he tells me is what allows him deeper into my head than anyone's ever been.

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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 8:59:05 PM   
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ORIGINAL: amoryblane
So,what does it take to get inside your head?



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RE: What does it take to get inside your head? - 4/27/2009 11:26:35 PM   
anethy


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Status: offline 		I am mind fucked by my Master this way. Yes - I get off on it. It is my kink we have both discovered. I am so badly mind fucked I no longer know if he's even mind fucking me. So my question is this - once he's inside your head, how do you get him out?

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