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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy


What would you do?   Leave
How important is it to you that someone you're interested in has a clean house?  Very, particularly if they are on the Dominant side of the kneel
Could you overlook clutter? Clutter, yes only for as long as it took to get it organized...Trash, no. Filth, no
What about trash but without the stink? No
What sort of 'limits' do you have on the way a person keeps his or her house? It is a reflection of themselves and their habits. Humble is fine, filthy and trashy - absolutely no excuse

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note - this is brought up after seeing a picture on the main page of a submissive male with trash piled up behind him and what looks to be a pile of dirty white underwear.

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What would you do?

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ORIGINAL: SomethingCatchy

Story -

You meet a person online, maybe from our dear ole' CM. You agree to meet in a public place, things go well, and you both agree to meet again. After a few 'dates' you both feel comfortable enough to visit each others homes. You go over to theirs one night, maybe for dinner and a movie, but when you walk through the door BAM. Trash everywhere. You may or may not smell questionable cat substances and the couch isn't something you'd like to sit on without a rubber sheet.

What would you do?
Say thank you but no thank you.

How important is it to you that someone you're interested in has a clean house?
Very important.

Could you overlook clutter?
If you aren't willing to clean up, I have a very hard time overlooking it. If you have a clutter issue, ie pack rat, get help.

What about trash but without the stink?
See above answers.

What sort of 'limits' do you have on the way a person keeps his or her house?
This is a hard limit for me. I understand there can be extenuating circumstances behind every situation but please understand, in my opinion, piles of trash and clutter are a reflection of who you are and where your priorities lie.


I met someone like this from a local group. We're still friends (good friends actually) but he knows I refuse to visit his apartment. He has since learned to clean up after himself, but until he moves somewhere where cat isn't permeated into the carpet, I'm keeping it to public venues (not to mention we live in different states now).
Been there, done that.


note - this is brought up after seeing a picture on the main page of a submissive male with trash piled up behind him and what looks to be a pile of dirty white underwear.
I would ask them what was in the background of their photo if I was to be contacted by such a person.

I grew up with parents that were pack rats, not in a serious illness sort of way but enough to make me a very neat person. I've been with men who just need a bit of help in the organizing department( which I'm very good at and have no problem helping them with), and I've known those who, in my opinion, are beyond help, surrounded by mounds of garbage and cans. Piles of trash and filth are as hard a limit for me as any bdsm limit. I have 3 cats in a very small cottage, I make the time to keep my living space clean and "smelly cat" odor-free...I expect the same from anyone I'm involved with.
Does this make me judgemental...damn right it does, in regards to person space...chaos breeds chaos.

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ORIGINAL: sweetnurseBBW

I don't expect someones home to be immaculate but it should be kept up.  If someone cannot take the time to pick up trash and clean up after their animals that just says lazy to me and I don't want to be a part of it.  There is a difference between being lived in and just nasty.