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LadyPact -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/5/2009 9:50:32 PM)
I'd have laughed My ass off.

GreedyTop -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/5/2009 10:43:38 PM)
suddenly, I have the urge to go through my pics... nah.....

LaTigresse -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 6:01:02 AM)
Using fast reply.......... What about the opposite? Someone you look at their photos and wonder......do they have any idea how their perceived lifestyle choice and mine are about two planets apart? To explain since I have time while waiting on the farrier. A week or two ago I received a short "what a beautiful horse!" type email. I get them often and sent my usual reply. Something like "thank you very much, he is a sweetheart, we've been together for years. I feel very fortunate to have the life I do, that allows me to have my two horses. Have a great day....LaT" No big deal and didn't think anything about it other than the woman that wrote it was stunningly gorgeous and delightfully older than my usual email audience. The other day I get another email from her. Something like "I know it takes alot of land to have horses...........yada yada.....short and not much info. I'd like to be your pet or something or other..." I had to look at her profile again to refresh my memory as to who she even was. Again, stunningly beautiful. Perfectly groomed and dressed. One photo in front of an expensive import convertible sports car. Another laying on the floor with a immaculate background and....rather pricy looking decor. Now I know the appearance of big money spent when I see it. So my brain goes back to her last email. Did she misunderstand my "I feel fortunate to have the life I have" as meaning I've got big bucks and she is either looking for someone on the same financial playing field as her or worse yet, a sugar momma to keep her in the style she has become accustomed? The more I think about this, the more difficult it became to find the words for a reply. I made the mistake once in my life of being a nasty bitch to a very beautiful and wealthy woman. I was lucky enough to get through that and have a wonderful relationship with her. But I certainly don't want to mislead anyone and this woman's profile read well. A lot of similar interests, AND she isn't 23!! (considering the last few I've dealt with, the age is a huge bonus...) Now me being me, and rarely at a loss for words, at least not for very long....... recovered and wrote a pretty decent email. I expressed my concerns that I may have inadvertently mislead her and that my life is pretty full of work and regular middleclass rural life. No fancy landowner here. Just a 3 acre yard and 8 acre horse pasture. woohoo...... I even ran it past a dear friend that is submissive, just to be sure my tendency for brisk fact giving didn't come across tooo godawful bitchy. (not like that has ever happened or anything...[:D]) So I ask, instead of a scary trashy background in a photo/s, has anyone else ever been taken aback by the opposite?

Andalusite -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 7:41:48 AM)
Yup, horses tend to eat up disposable income, both literally and figuratively! I've been a little suprised in a good way by the background of a couple of pictures, though not necessarily assuming that the person is extremely wealthy.

InTonguesslut -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 7:56:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper quote: ORIGINAL: InTonguesslut quote: ORIGINAL: HeavansKeeper I also like to Dr. House my way around the background of people's photos. It says more than they're profile text, or the main imagery. Bad move in some cases. For example the photos on my profile were not taken in my house. Draw all the conclusions you want from them but they would be incorrect. I used to have a pic with my tiff doll in the background, yanno as in chucky from childs plays girlfriend. People used to comment on that a lot lol. Well yes... Any assumption lays the groundwork for being wrong, but it's fairly useful. The fact that you hung your radio's antennae cable on the picture frames says more to me than your picture in handcuffs. Say's nothing about me, it's not my house. [:D]

MsFlutter -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 8:07:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ThatDamnedPanda "I'm a little teapot, short and stout, This is my handle, this is my spout... " [hijack] this is my handle, this is my handle...hey - I'm a sugarbowl ! [/hijack]

LadyConstanze -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 9:21:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LaTigresse So I ask, instead of a scary trashy background in a photo/s, has anyone else ever been taken aback by the opposite? That's something I don't really notice unless it's in the extreme of "Oh look what I got" which is a complete turn off, rather dazzle me with your wit than with money you possibly inherited and daddy worked for. I tend to notice backgrounds actually more if something looks not right (ostentatious is always horrible, even more if it's clear that you're trying to appear something you are not, and money seriously can't buy taste or style, I live in an area where a lot of footballers - soccer players for the Yanks - live, and the horrors I see on a daily basis... They might be Dallas fans but Southfork Ranch does NOT really belong into the English country side and mock Tudor gives me the creeps, especially horrible if they then decide to add Gothic elements, Greek pillars, etc. <red red red, hard limit>) The funniest thing was possibly a guy trying to impress me with his "house" though that was in a CMail, unfortunately "his house" happens to be an old manor house, roughly 30 minutes away from me, that has been turned into a hotel and restaurant (great food) and the picture was lifted from their website. That really does inspire trust and makes me want to meet him ;) Though it is another reason for not giving my exact location in my profile. OT - Had to perv your profile, it is a beautiful horse!

littlesarbonn -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 9:31:20 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CarrieO Let's not forget the prison photos. There is one floating around of a domme sporting the obvious stance/prison issue clothing. In fact, I think she mentions having been "inside". The one that's makes me giggle is of the "dom" who speaks of being controlling and harsh whilst wearing a fast food uniform, crumpled paper hat on the shelf behind him, and in what appears to be a not-so-organized stock room. I have to wonder if he's only available during his shift (due to the available computer) or if he just has a uniform fetish. I so want that kind of background stuff for my picture. Maybe I'll start dating a hot dog on a stick girl just so I can have one of their multi colored uniforms hanging over a chair in the background next time I take a picture.

TaoWoman -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 9:37:22 AM)
This has been a gem of a thread [:)] wonderfully entertaining and informative! Photos are huge when it comes to making an impression. Anything in the fore front or background will give clues to the person, including what is "missing". While a well composed photo does not guarantee a well composed individual or environment beyond the photo, a cluttered or trashy photo or a slouchy and unkempt individual usually are pretty revealing. In keeping with the concept that our personal environments are outward expressions of our inner selves....the argument that "this clutter/trash is not me" doesn't wash. Dominant has no control of his life and space, submissive has no life skills....no excuse for either situation - no desire for either individual~ Reality check~

SailingBum -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 9:41:27 AM)
geez who cares how messy the house is. Great T and A babeeeeeeeee Great T and A and Im off like a prom dress cmailing you and basically stalking your hot ass. Just ask lady pact BadOne

SteelofUtah -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 11:01:33 AM)
The Best I ever saw was the one where the girl is taking a nice posed picture and the Dog is licking itself in the back ground the girl had the picture up for like 2 months and I asked her about her dog and she got freaked out about how I knew she had a dog. It's Licking it's Balls in your Main Photo. She removed it in minutes it was HILARIOUS!! Andi has dirty socks on in the livingroom but that is because she had just run to the car in her socks to get the Handcuff Keys. I think more than the back grounds are the people who judge in such things. Pictures are taken all the time and if I think I look good in the picture fine who cares that the bed is not made and the dildo my wife fucks when she wakes up horny is still in the shot next to the body butter. The Picture looks good. Judge ME not the Book Cover

CallaFirestormBW -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 12:20:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Ialdabaoth My background is always a state of clutter. It's the nature of who I am and what I do; my natural environment is far more of a factory assembly room than a showroom floor. And yeah, I know the showroom floor is where you want to show off that cherry-red convertible, but just try building one there. See, I -totally- get this. I'm not a big profile-scanner, but I know that in at least one of my pics, I've got bookshelves full of papers and articles and organizers overflowing with materials... but I work. You try writing novels, medical research articles and topic-intense sites without reading a single reference piece (that you then need to PUT somewhere so you can refer to it for however many years to come). I've made no bones about saying that I need someone who can organize my large collection of materials on a regular basis... I simply don't have the time--so I make no apologies for delivering a picture of me, backgrounded by my continuously swelling piles of paperwork and articles.

OmegaG -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 12:28:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: curiousINct The first night I joined, I rec'd a message from a man who was standing in front of the building I work in. I got sent a picture one time of a guy who worked in the same department as I did, since we had 800 people working there I didn't know everyone, but I did recognize the logo on the hard helmet on his desk. So I sent him an e-mail asking him if he worked where I thought he worked and he responed back that he had blocked out all the logos on the binders and posters on his wall but never thought about the hard hat.

Phoenixpower -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 12:38:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GYPZYQUEEN I have seen a woman kneeling with a leash in a living room so cluttered with laundry and animals you could not see how she could get to the door. goesandchecksifyouhadasneackatmyclutteredfloor* .... phew, nope, I don't do leash... quote: DOM in living room with whip with and collection of Hummel minitures....plastic flowers...frilly cushions( said he was unattached and had no sub) well, he might be unattached and live with his parents??? quote:* Dom who said he was 25 with high school text books on table Could still be 25 and have done the pictures in the bedroom from his younger brother... quote:* I am interested in what you have seen.. Well, I did either never paid so much attention or I simply never had to pay so much attention at the people I am involved with...also on a personal level thats not really my business until I would be involved with someone for RL... quote: not the reasons for what I have seen..I already found out.. Oh damn...overread that line at first...[&o]

Phoenixpower -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 12:45:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah I think more than the back grounds are the people who judge in such things. Pictures are taken all the time and if I think I look good in the picture fine who cares that the bed is not made and the dildo my wife fucks when she wakes up horny is still in the shot next to the body butter. The Picture looks good. Judge ME not the Book Cover Exactly. That reminds me when a course mate at my previous qualification made a fuss about green socks I was wearing. On that morning I have even had the thought to chuck them in the bin after that wear on that day...but on that day my course mate came along and was judging me on the socks and making a fuss with saying "those socks you wont wear again, will you"...So I thought [sm=wtf.gif] are you talking about...which lead me to not chucking them into the bin and wearing them every second week on one day where we had to attend college just to "keep her happy..." She also had judged me on the fact that I was not wearing a jacket when I attended an interview at a new placement as I had resigned mine and therefore needed to get a new one in order to continue my course...she seriously said that the fact that I was not wearing a jacket would already be a reason for her not to employ me if she would have a say in it... I was never really in that kind of stuff... or lets put it this way...someone needs to be very high indeed on my hate-list that I would start to make fun about...despite that pics can either way always be misleading...one guy I met was sitting comfortable in his chair with his feet god knows where...nobody would ever imagine that he actually is in a wheelchair (which itself is not the issue, but nevertheless it was misleading)...so...for me the importance is higher on the person being real in how they present themselves then in tidying up just for the sake of making a good impression... We all (in my view) have moments where our surrounding might not be up to scratch but such petty stuff can be resolved on the path of moving ahead in a relationship...

Interesdom -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 12:47:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: marie2 Hahaha....Bowls of fruit and frilly curtains are a no-no for men. I don't have bowls of fruit (nor frilly curtains) in my background but I'm confused as to why bowls of fruit are wrong. It can't be cultural, because PeonForHer is English, too and he raised the point. I would have thought that a bowl of fruit would say "healthy eater". (Scratches head, takes another bite of an apple and waits to learn.)

Phoenixpower -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 12:53:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Interesdom waits to learn. [sm=popcorn.gif] [sm=popcorn.gif] Interesdom Phoenixpower

LadyConstanze -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 1:09:31 PM)
Phoenixpower, have you tried to look at it from the other side? You as the employer? Of course you want the people that are best qualified for the job, but you also want the people who show real commitment, possibly represent the company, etc. Now my point would be, that if somebody can't be bothered to dress up for an interview and the first impression, that person is possibly not really interested in the job and might not give the job all the commitment. Of course it does depend on the job a lot, if it would come to manual labour and somebody who will never be in touch with clients or customers, the way they dress wouldn't make a difference (apart from being clean, I think neglecting personal hygiene is usually a sign for other problems), but if they have to represent the company or the department in any way, I would be bothered about stuff like that...

GYPZYQUEEN -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 1:18:12 PM)
ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah The Best I ever saw was the one where the girl is taking a nice posed picture and the Dog is licking itself in the back ground the girl had the picture up for like 2 months and I asked her about her dog and she got freaked out about how I knew she had a dog. It's Licking it's Balls in your Main Photo. She removed it in minutes it was HILARIOUS!! Andi has dirty socks on in the livingroom but that is because she had just run to the car in her socks to get the Handcuff Keys. [I think more than the back grounds are the people who judge in such things. Pictures are taken all the time and if I think I look good in the picture fine who cares that the bed is not made and the dildo my wife fucks when she wakes up horny is still in the shot next to the body butter. ] The Picture looks good. Judge ME not the Book Cover [/quote]

breatheasone -> RE: "Revealing" backgrounds in pics (5/6/2009 1:18:30 PM)
i agree with LadyConstanze When i was a GM, and someone would come in to fill out an application, and didn't have a pen? i took a pass... Being prepared is a BIG deal, and so is a 1st impression.

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