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ORIGINAL: BoiJen

When someone says I am x, y, and z and haven't actually had the experience of x, y, and z they are demeaning the experience of others. They are stepping on the toes of other people's actual experience and qualifying themselves to have had the same level of experience as the person who has spent the energy and effort to courage to go beyond just talking about it. It's like equating just "talking the talk" and actually "walking the walk". My grandfather used to tell me "don't let your alligator mouth override your canary ass". Meaning don't go talking shit when you can't back it up.

In cases like online forums, many many individuals boost their "experience" up and then talk like they know what it's like to do the real thing. Their crap does demean my efforts and experience. The things that actually contribute to my life on a daily basis because I work hard for it...I don't just type about shit then get the credit.

I have the number one spot in Ma'am's life because I worked for it I did the fuckin work and they guy only talked about stuff ain't here because he only talked but felt entitled to the spot in Her life because he was just "there". It's the same thing just not such a interpersonal scale (that doesn't make it not personal).

Just sayin...

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ORIGINAL: thishereboi
Would you have felt the same way if you knew from the begining that you would never actually meet him?

Would that have been enough for you?

When you think back on the relationship before you ever met and then how it was when you were actually together, do you think they were both equally satisfying?

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ORIGINAL: SlyStone


Let me first say that I have never had an online relationship, but that doesn't preclude me from understanding those who do, not that they need my understanding or validation, or yours for that matter.

I find your indignation interesting because a great many people would find your service and your identification with that particular act, and the time and pride and effort you apparently  put into that actuality, to be extremely unhealthy.

I would not say that, but you must be aware that most of society would. You also seem to post quite a bit for someone worried about excessive use of the internet, but then one persons excess is anothers moderation, just as one persons unhealthy behavior is anothers nirvana.

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ORIGINAL: Antheia
If that was aimed at me I did meet Master. I spent several visits each year with him. So what began online, telephone, webcam continued to real time. But I can still understand those who do choose online only.
Have a good day
A.

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ORIGINAL: Andalusite

I think the whole cybersex/online BDSM thing is boring and pointless, and that learning to do D/s or BDSM online is just as effective as learning how to swordfight by playing WOW.

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ORIGINAL: CaringandReal
It might be worth pointing out that the reverse is also true: knowing how to swordfight in real life won't get you shit when you're trying to master your WoW character.  "I'll just leap in there and slash him to death. GRRRR!~!!!!  Hmm... Now why isn't my sword arm swinging? Why is this ridiculous  burbling fishy-man-with-a-mohawk beating the holy crap out of me?  Oh yeah, I forgot to press the %@#$#^ 1 key!" In this day and age in most developed countries, knowing how to swordfight is nothing but an empty ego boost or a rather complicated way to exercise (personally, I prefer ballroom dancing); it won't actually get you anything real. Guns are much faster. Bombs do more damage.  1-keying away on WoW, however, (or dropping virtual bombs, if you are of the sparkish persuasion), might very well bump you into an IT exec. who could offer you that dream techie job, which is kind of the modern equivelent of marrying the king's daughter after you rid the kingdom of the pesky dragon. ;)

Likewise, learning to discern something of a person's genuine temperment, emotions, attitudes, and motivations in order to manipulate those in mental bdsm play without the sometimes blinding (as in crippling) initial distraction of a physical presense and without the stultifying complacency (which can later lead to 'my type of relationship is best' superiority trips) or  lack of initiative and mental lassitude that regular physical sex brings strike me as distinct advantages that two people in the right circumstances may very well want to explore!

Different strokes, people, neither experience is better, from what I can see, and I've been extensively on both sides of the fence (as well as straddled--fond glance at the posts), although the bulk (and the initial) part of my experience has been RL slavery.